I need help

I think you should tell him what you're thinking. If he is decent I'm sure he will understand and just because you aren't married doesn't mean you can't be with your children. Stay friends with your husband and maybe even live with him still (if you break up =[ ). I don't think it's fair to supress your true sexuality just because you are married and have children. Just talk to him. You won't "lose" your children..Maybe if you are too worried to talk to your husband, talk to someone you know well.

 

Ok here s my 2 cents.
I am a 39 soon to be 40 yr old lesbian.
I have been a lesbian my entire life. I ve known it since I was about 12 or so. Had my 1st sexual tryst w/a girl who was 16 and I was 15. What a blast. But, big Problem it was 1982 and being a gay/lez was considered being a disease literally. A.I.D.S. was just announced 2 the world and no 1 had a clue how or why it was spreading, but they knew 1 thing 90% of all ppl getting and dying from it were gay. So 2 be gay/lez was a outcasting situation. So, I did what most ppl were doing, we were very, very discreet and choosey in who we slept with. In fact by 1991, I was still scared to death of being outted and by this time I was 24. So, I married the 1 st and only man I ever slept with. I stayed in the closet for another 13 yrs and lived a lie. I got a beautiful daughter out of it. The only good thing I can say about this and being married 2 a man. I always wanted 2 be back w/a woman and god knows I fantasied about it every time we had sex. I was miserable. I, like you stayed in this because I also had made a commitment and was afraid I would hurt my daughter for life. Well, making this story short, I finally had enough. All the drunken episodes he had, the reckless spending, and such, I was litterally supporting my daughter any ways and the marriage was even worse for her 2 see. So, I kicked his ass out, told my daughter exactly what was going on. Came out 2 my family and I have never looked back. By the way at the time I did this my daughter was 8 yrs old. I personally think your kids r young enough 2 be fine w/this. If you do as I do and wait and wait 1 day you are gonna realise lying 2 yourself is so not worth it. Look you can take it or leave it, but if the 1 st thing you do in the am when you wake up is think of being w/a woman and the last thing you think of b4 you close your eyes at nite is of being w/a woman, then sweety, you belong w/a woman and you deserve happiness 2.
peace and good luck 2 u in what ever decision you make

 

An orientation is not defined by who you sleep with, but who you fall in love with. When the feeling of loving a woman is more overwhelming than the feeling of a woman between your thighs, that is when you can call yourself a lesbian.

 

Find you soulmate there

 

I have always thought that exact thing..that orientation is about love rather than sex.

That is exactly why I don't think that people should call themselves bisexual if they only think they are bisexual because they are sexually attracted to people of the same sex, rather than a romantic emotional attachment...

And everyone flames me for it.

 

I think it will take a long time for society to come to realise it...but it will come, eventually...