i need help making a move!

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by cthorpe12, May 9, 2007.

  1. cthorpe12

    cthorpe12 Member

    aight. i'm 15 y/o male and i like my best friend(btw, only a couple ppl know i'm bi.) i want to either:

    1. find out if he's bi or gay
    or
    2. make a move on him (privately)

    i want to do this in a manner that he doesn't find out i'm bi or like him if he's straight, or if (even if he's bi or gay) won't make anything weird in our friendship if he doesn't wanna be bi or gay. here's the info i have so far:

    -he seems obsessed with girls
    -he's really handsy with me (like touches me [not in a bad way]) and likes to provoke wrestling or "cup checks/sack taps"
    -i'm handsy with him(not bad way) and doesn't bug him to bad but seems to be annoyed sometimes.
    -we wrestled last night (we always do cheap below-belt shots) and yesterday i said "ahh he's gonna grab me" and then he did(and i did it back[not in lust or anything like that but in cheap shots manner]) and he didn't say anything about it really.
    -we recorded the wrestling and were pretty close when watching the vid on the camcorder.

    i think he might be bi (most likely not gay) but the last time i told a guy i like i'm bi and like him(when i thought he was bi or gay) i was wrong(and he was alot more handsy with me.. ALOT)

    so what should i do?
     
  2. SlickyPants

    SlickyPants Member

    From what I gathered, he does not know you're bi.

    Is that correct. If so, if I was in your position I would be more apt to come out to him first to break the ice. After that I would give it a month or two to let it sink in. There is a chance that if you tell him that you're bi that he may come out to you (assuming he isn't straight) since he knows you're a safe person to tell.

    It's kind of a delicate situation though so I hate giving advice. I'd just take it one step at a time.
     
  3. cthorpe12

    cthorpe12 Member

    he claims that my bi friends are weird for they are bi. he thinks it's gross(says he thinks) and i said it's kind of but it doesn't really bug me. i would tell him but i'm really afraid that if he's not bi he might tell somebody and word would get out. as much as i like him, i'm not sure i was being bi to be permanent. i still like girls and i'm obsessing one right now, so being bi might just be an at the moment type thing and it might be my whole life! if word at my school gets out that i'm bi, many people would look at me weird and all my friends(the guys) will not wanna hang out with me. i don't know how to find out how well i can truly trust him.

    feel free to tell me how i could make a move. i don't need to know for sure he's bi by words but by how he acts. i want to know how to bring out the truth without him saying anything to anybody. how do i know for sure he's bi by behavior? don't worry about screwing me up with this. I know what to do and not to do. if there is a given idea i don't like, i'll try something else.
     
  4. mushie18

    mushie18 Intergalactic

    there is no behavior that will indicate his sexuality.
     

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