I need advice from guys.. and girls, please help!

It's called the crop tool, look into it.

 

you are not good at being sarcastic..maybe taking a class or something might help?
so his pic is big..i see your clevage in yours so "It's called a bra, look into it"...

 

Alright, alright...

 

*gasps in mock horror* Sha-room! You naughty girl, you!

 

RE: i see your clevage in yours so "It's called a bra, look into it"...

I think the vast majority of men in here ARE looking into her cleavage.

OP: lemme guess. When you first started sleeping together you and him wanted it, you were adventurous, it was something you guys both worked at.

In the ensuing months.... well... erm.... you kind of laid there and waited delightedly for him to do his thing.

Then shortly afterward you never initiated it anymore, you simply kicked him at night and said "I want more sex" or some variant thereof, like it was some failing on his part that he isn't a machine.

Maybe not literally like that, but in a question of degree....

But then again, I know NOTHING.

HAR a VERY VERY VERY attractive female friend of mine (I was going out with her sister) complained that she was actively and hardcore fucking her boyfriend, when he suddenly looked at her calves either side of his head, slapped one, and said "we should get you an exercise bicycle to firm these up." AND THEN CONTINUED. Yeah, he was INSIDE HER at the time he said that. This was an ASIAN female with almost ZERO bodyfat. Goes to show you that there are assholes out there who will find fault even where there isn't any.

 

OMFG!!! I would cry.

 

thats not a brainbuster...
i find myself gazing in them myself...

 

Okay! please stop picking on me...I get it.

 

Im not picking on you, relax geez you are really sensitive...

 

Best advice given - go with it

 

*blushes* Why thankyou hippypaul.

 

rmorgan: is this a self-portrait?

 

I wish. It's from some bondage artist's online fortfolio.

R

 

You wish you had those boots, or that someone was tying you up in the nude?

 

I wish I had her body.

Been tied up in the nude; and yes, those boots rule.

R

 

And that's the problem.



People have different sex drives. Many men don't want to fuck very often at all. Many women don't either.

Many men and women want to fuck constantly, or just at a regular rate.






Acceptit, and move on.

 

The same thing happened to me with my relationship. The only thing I could say is that she was too eager to give it up all the time, and I got lazy about it. I took sex for granted and it didn't seem so important to me. It became a big problem because my girlfriend ended up feeling like you. What we did was have a very VERY open discussion on it, and we discovered that there were some things we could try that were new. Things we wouldn't have admitted we like before or didn't want to admit to ourselves that we'd like. Basically we had to bring our sex-life to the next plateau. We started doing a lot of skinny dipping, hot-tubbing, sex in places that coud get us in trouble. We also defined that best time of day when our hormones were at the peak, and our laziness not. Sometimes we regressed too. Instead of having every sexual encounter lead to full blow penetration, sometimes we'd just jerk each other off. Sometimes I'd just rub her tits all night, sometimes she'd just play with me. I think it's natural to get tired of the mindless fucking in a relationship. Often guys will leave looking for something more because they aren't willing to put the effort into having a real sexual relationship. One thing that's always true too is that sex is always better with love. Affirm your love with him, and make it passionate. Make an evening out of it every once in a while. Basically define your wants and needs and dont make sex monotonous.

 

Good point here too. Sometimes women don't realize that guys need to be put in the mood too. Well, we don't NEED to, but it's much better if we are. You'll get more out of it.

 

Ok first! Whoever made that comment is an insensitive dickhead.
While people do move on from relationships and feelings do change, don't be quick to assume that this is how your boyfriend feels. There are a lot of reasons why people's libido's change. Work or other stressors are key factors plus illness or simply not wanting it. before you jump to any conclusions, you need to get his attention and seriously ask him what is going on but not in an accusing way. If he thinks you're being harsh he'll clam up. Make him see you're worried and that you're upset about this. Also, try to think about your recent relationship, what has changed however small. There are usually clues.
Communication is the important thing here, don't assume facts. if you are as close as you say, you can talk about this openly and resolve it. Don't give up.