First let me say that I am not abnormal. I like any other red blooded male love to cum. However I enjoy talking to a woman and coaching her to a orgasm to be more enjoyable. I have talked several women through orgasms and never needed to climax myself. The feeling I get when I hear her voice as she calls my name when she is climaxing is over the top. I was in touch with a woman several years ago and one thing led to another and before I knew it she was having orgasms. She would send me photos of her soaked panties and call my name out over the phone. I have always been more of a giver than a taker, this is just the way I am wired. In years gone by I had ran several ads looking to coach women and not wanting anything in return. I said all of this am I the only man who would rather do this than have a orgasm themself?
We are all different. We enjoy different things and we get off on different things. Maybe you are engaging with women who are seeking different things. In part it's maybe them expressing themselves online or they are enjoying their online coaching and the things they are doing with it.