I like spanking porn but not being spanked?

I've watched spanking videos, and I can get off to just a girl getting spanked and well...me hoping the guy will fuck her after..
but for some reason whenever I look up spanking videos its JUST spanking and only for 2 minutes :frown:

that's not important, what interests me is that in real life I don't enjoy spanking that much at all, definitely not to the extent I do watching it.
This goes for a LOT of things. Example being that I have a history of really being into a girl being demeaned sexually, even myself but only in hindsight. Never at the time.

Opinions?

 

You are only 19. I am guessing you have only had one partner or maybe just a very few by this time. If you enjoy watching something but not having it done to you chances are your partner didn't do something right.
Maybe he doesn't really know how to do it so it feels right or you just weren't ready for it,,, took you by surprise. Do you connect well with your partner? Sometimes a receiver or a giver can't pull it off like others or like seen on porn.
IMO porn can actually ruin the outcome of your own real sex life because you think it will be like you saw but is much different even tho different might not have been a bad thing had you not seen how it was done in the porn video. You are young still and what you don't like now might be what you crave later as you experience more and you and your partner develop a serious sexual understanding with each other.
Try not to watch too much porn, it tends to make people think they just aren't getting what they are supposed to get and they expect more then what's available IRL. Porn can be a good training base so to speak but it's really all about money. Their sex isn't real, they are actors and well paid ones at that in today's porn industry.
I am totally not against porn mind you, but like watching some movies, you have to know many things are just not all that real. Super man could jump off a building, we'd smack the ground like an egg and splatter all over the place but it's entertainment as is porn.
Take your time to watch what you are interested in and try things with your partner and don't do what you don't want to or don't like either. It's up to you to learn what works with you and you owe no one anything.

 

What are you being spanked with? That's going to have an impact.

 

@prismatic, I think I sort of understand where you are coming from. I feel crazy PARTLY agreeing with Sally because we don't often see things similarly 99% of the time. But I have to wonder if the reason you didn't like your actual spankings as much is because of how it was done or the person doing it. I don't have a ton of sexual partners either but I know that when my current boyfriend tried spanking me it was a very different experience from when I had my second boyfriend try it which just ended up feeling sort of silly.

Who's doing the spanking, and how they go about it makes a really big difference.

 

I watch far less porn than I used to. I nearly stopped completely around the time I started dating (and didn't have internet access at home...) but sometimes if I need a release and my imagination isn't helping I'll go for it.
As for my partner, they're slowly getting the picture that I like being spanked and doing it a more often than before but now that I think about it maybe it's not enough.
I might be craving something a little harsher, not just the erotic slaps that you barely feel sometimes.
Didn't think of that...but it makes sense.