i like a 13 year old and im 17 is this wrong

does she like you? from the original post it sounded like you have a crush on her, which is fine, I mean your thoughts are your own, but if you don't feel there is something already there I would not advise trying to hit on her, and anyways being her friend is the best way fro each scenario, don't rush her of course.

 

I was thirteen when I tarted dating my ex. (we just broke up) the relationship lasted for two years and it was beautiful and were still friends now. Now I cant say the same will go for you, but I see nothing wrong with it. Peadophile means you are attracted to a PRE pubescent girl or boy. Shes alearedy hit puberty if shes thirteen.

 

This post says everything I want to say. :cheers2:

 

I dont know... I do believe age does not play a role. But 13 an 17 yes.. before you are 20 there many changes going through your life.. from going to middle school, then to highschool, to college.. these are all important age stages where you learn from your peers.

She's 13.. that is what grade 8 or 9.. and 17 is either 11 or 12.. So I do think its wrong.. you both are in different life stages. Even though 4 years does not seem like a lot.. from both of your life stages it is.. You;re almost going to a college or working .. you are almost an adult and you need to understand you will have more responality in your life. While she has 4 more years in highschool.. she isnt ready to understand for her future yet like you.

So if you truely want this to work out.. I would stay friends. Get to know her better and she will know you better. In those friendships years you two will have more trust and communication by then you will know if you want to go further with her or not due to all friendship exp with her - you will know her more as a person. And you know what .. knowing a person for a month, or 6 is nothing... true beauty of a person doesnt show till later on in life of you knowing them. So I suggest you two wait.

 

Age is a state of mind - does it feel wrong? if not then just keep it on the level dont be doing anything you feel can get you into trouble, if you do keep it between you and your partner.
People mature at different rates, the fact you have put this post up means you care..just be careful ...

 

Considering your age and her age....

1. What will be your reaction if she tells you she's pregnant?
2. What do you think her mom will do?
3. How long do you think you can hide from her dad?
4. Where are you going to live?
5. How are either of you going to stay in school?
6. Where are you going to work to support her and your child?
7. Who is going to hire an irresponsible 17 year old kid to begin with?
8. And her chance of finding a job is a bit slimmer than yours, coinsidering that she's going to be taking care of your child....
9.So are you going to have your parents help?
10.Or are you going to have her parents help?
11.Why the hell should either of your parents help to begin with?
12. Is 17 irresponsible?

After she gets pregnant, you tell us.


My suggestion is hands off of the girl, learn to spank your monkey, and grow up. Just because you have the body parts men have never labels you as a grown man. You're 17. What education do you have that sets you apart from boys your age? "School of Hard Knocks"? Oh please. Kid, you havn't even approached the sidewalk of life, so telling anyone that you've been around the block is bullshit. And what about the military? Gonna get enlisted?
"The Few, The Proud, The 17 Year Old Kid That Cannot Keep His Dick In His Pocket?"
"You Can't Be All You Could Have Been, 'Cause now You're In The State Priiiiiii..Son!"

So let's say you get enlisted. Congrats. Now you're gone. How much do you think the enlisted gets?
http://www.dfas.mil/militarypay/militarypaytables.html

What is she supposed to do while you're away in boot camp? Bad news dude, once you're in, you are no longer your own. You belong to the US Government. What now? What will you do when you end up going overseas to fight? Have you ever thought of that (at this point)?

In the mean time, have you ever thought about HER, throughout all of this? You know, ever since you first dipped your wick? Have you ever considered that 13 years old is not mature enough to think about her future? Oh, yeah. I forgot. You're 17 and apparently lacking of that skill as well. My apologies.

Kid, listen. IF she really means something to you, you should have thought about all of this first. Come on, you're an adult now, right? Think like one then. Not just about getting your rocks off while squeezing her yet-to-grow titties, but how the hell are you two going to handle it WHEN she does get pregnant? And what if you get nailed for being a pedophile? Depending on the state you're in, you could be facing trouble right now. Did you ever think about that? Nah, "love, peace, get laid, to hell with the future! Live for the moment!" Until it's the moment the coppers slap a pair of shiny cuffs on you and you realize they aren't fluffy and padded.

She may be 13, and you may be 17, but in some places that is still grounds for sending your ass upstate. And depending on her daddy, that actually might be a better place for you.

I used to work with a guy that got nailed for the same thing. She was 17 and he was 20. Key factor there is that her parents claimed they told him to stay away. That cost him dearly. Busted in 1989, found guilty in 1991, and his expected release date is August of 2011. 22 years. ANd then he has a permanent label on his ass- PEDOPHILE....BABY RAPER....and since he supposedly had been told "hands off" by her parents, SEXUAL PREDITOR. Any idea how tough it's gonna be just to find a place to live? VERY hard. And then to find work? I wish him the best of luck, because he's gonna need it.


So is that where you want to go, kid? You're 17 now. What will you do for the next 22 years? At best you MIGHT get out in half that. Oh, I forgot. The prisons are letting most non-violent & non-sexual prisoners out upto 50% off their time served (with the remainer in parole). But you're gonna be the "CHILLY-MO", the "CHESTER", so odds are you won't even get parole after 2/3 time served. Maybe, and that's a big one at that, after 3/4. So 16 to 22 years will be with your new/old love in state prison. 17+16....you'll be 33 years old. 17+22.... you'll be 39 years old. Some family life you'll have then. By the time you get out she's gonna have a family and your kid(s) will be on their way to college. When they graduate from high school, you're gonna be emptying the garbage cans in the mess hall in prison.


Am I an asshole for saying this? GOOD!
Because it is also true. That IS what can happen. I have seen it happen to people I knew. I know folks here have as well.


You may look at it as a scare tactic, and I hope like hell it does scare the fuck out of you kid, because if you don't start watching your ass that is where you will end up.


I am also speaking partly as a parent. Talking to you like I would be if I had a son making these kind of mistakes.

I won't as her dad, even though I have a step-daughter.
Trust me, you wouldn't need it if I was!

 

Yeah, 's probably not a good idea...

 

13 is a little young if you were 30 and 26 it wouldnt be a big difference but at that age it is