I know I'm pansexual...but I think I might be a lesbian...should I tell my boyfriend?

I have been out about my pansexuality for quite awhile, my parents and my boyfriend know about it. my boyfriend and I are also "open" to girls. lately I am starting to think that maybe I might be a lesbian, but I don't know for sure. I'm starting to think that I'm not attracted to men, but that the reason I've always dated them is because maybe I'm attracted to the idea of having control over a man. because of my bitterness of being controlled by men in the past (I have a history of abuse by men). and I love Cory but I don't know if I'm in love with him. he's my best friend. and I find myself wishing I had a girlfriend almost every day. or that Cory was a girl. but I don't know if I'm actually feeling this way or if I just WANT to feel this way. should I wait to talk to him until I've sorted my thoughts out more? or should I be honest and bring it up to him? I know he will be heartbroken, so I don't know if I should wait, since it could just be me being confused. I don't want to destroy my relationship over uncertainty.

 

I think the best way for you to understand how you really feel and what you actually want is to get some space and time alone. Be honest with your boyfriend and if he truly respects you he will understand and give you some time so you could figure out how you feel. I'm not saying you should leave him or something, just distance yourself for a while and deliberate what would really make you happy. At least that's what I would do.