I Just Don't Understand.

oh, and maybe you can find out what is really going on through the friend connection. That might help.

 

Sounds like it just didn't work out. There will be guys you go out with that are nice, but just not your type. Hopefully, you'll have a little more tact than this guy.

 

I wouldn't do that unless I have a reason. So you should call him and find out why. If there was no reason, you should move on.

 

See I sent him a text on Monday saying, "I'm sorry and even though I don't understand why you aren't speaking to me, I hope you have a good life. I'm didn't mean to bother you." I would think that if he had something he was going through that he'd have said hey hold on its not you. But he didn't and I feel there isn't anything to salvage with someone who isn't even gonna talk to me.

My best friend barely knows anything about him, but she didn't have many nice things to say about him. Its weird because I got the feeling from him that if he had a problem with something he was honest enough to tell me and that's what I liked. I'm sure I can find another guy who is smart, funny, sarcastic, who makes me feel pretty, and dorky enough to make me feel like less of a dork.

You know its okay, things are going so much better in my life that if this is the least of my worries I'm doing damn good. Hell I just got a new job today and I make more then my sister (whose been gloating that I don't have a job for the longest time)

 

Something completley unrelated could have happened. 10 days isnt much time. You could always send him a text in a few days saying something simple like "Hey, how are you? I havent heard from you in a while." Then leave it at that. That way you are touching base and the ball is in his court. Who knows....he might be wondering why he hasnt heard from you. If he doesnt respond or says something lame then you'll know he isnt that into you. However, if he responds well (calls you up....asks to hang out...apologizes for waiting so long to contact you etc) then you'll know it wasnt you. I think people are weird when it comes to connecting with other people and initiating things. We all have things we get nervous about or dislike and we arent always ourselves in the beginning. But yeah..... you could try what I said and see what happens.

 

That could be a key, e7m8.

I'm thinking a bit differently. The guy has a daughter. Why didn't Sophie invite her along as well? Not like it's the end of the world inviting the guy's kid along on a date, you can always tell him it's not a problem, but you also want to date him alone, too.

I had that problem when dating single mothers. Everyone of them would bring their kid along on the first date. My attitude is yeah I can handle kids. But it's not just their kids. I'm dating the mother. Sometimes they don't get that.


Think about this in the end term. IF the dating works out, where is the relationship going? Are you two just going to keep dating or are you gonna tie the knot? What you want might be the same thing he wants....or is it? Maybe he doesn't see it the same as you? Also, being an ex is hard to manage sometimes. Maybe he has cold feet? Maybe he saw something in the relationship so far that pushes him away, reflecting on his experience?


Give him a call sometime and find out. Communicating clearly is a huge part of your relationship whether you're dating or married.

 

Yeah, if he ignores your message there's not really much you can do. The ball's in his court. Plus, do you really want to be with someone that ignores you when you try to talk. I'm sure you can do much better. And congratulations on the new job.

 

I did tell him he could bring his daughter. I had met her way before I met him and I had no problem with her. I actually offered a date around her, I said we could take her to my Grandma's bowling alley since he said she loves to bowl.

 

finding a nice guy, who likes sci-fi and comics, over 36, who doesnt live at home and has a job, and is clean and smells good, is funny, and plays heroclixs, and gets high, is hard to find

 

That's the spirit! Fuck this guy (not in the literal sense ) and move on. Life's too short and valuable to waste.

 

^Agreed:eggnog:you can do better, just get on with your own life.

 

Thanks everyone, I guess next time I'll know better. I've got a lot to look forward. With this new job I'll be able to move out and even keep my cat.

 

Did you sleep with him on Friday? lol. I met a woman and we made awsome love then a few days later she just vanished. People are strange. Maybe he got back with an ex or had somebody else on the side and she put him on the spot. I wouldn't trip just try and move on. I know this is an old post-lol

 

nothing i can add to this thread really, but hey.. congratulations on the new job, hope it goes really well for you