I hit her...Need help

Aside from her not being able to hurt you, what's to stop you from grabbing the taser from her and using it on her in the heat of anger? Anyway, I think weapons, even supposedly less-than-lethal ones are not a good idea in a relationship. I mean seriously, why would anyone stay in a relationship where they feel they will need a weapon?

As for her feeling safe enough to come back, well, let's just say if I were in her place I'd never come back to you even if you did get some therapy. Need I say that you better not abuse her again?

 

This is pathetic. Am I the only one who sees that these are complex situations, with a lot of personal history involved? It's not as simple as jusr saying 'I wouldn't come back to you' when you're in that position.

 

Shes probably feeling scared, untrusting, hurt and maybe a little angry herself.
If you love her then you need to seek help and you need to carry through a course of treatment to aid you in recovery.
I'm not saying she'll ever take you back. I know I wouldn't, but the next person might love you.
Good luck.

 

Someone didn't read the thread...

 

if i were her i would not talk to you again. pussy.

 

No, you are not the only one who sees that. And yes, you're right, it's not as simple as just saying "I wouldn't come back to you" if I were in that position. That being said, I still stand by my statement. If I were her, I wouldn't come back.

 

Didn't mean to be harsh. It just gets on my nerves when people make snap judgments in threads like this.

 

eace: It's ok. It is very easy to make judgments online.

 

Notice he's trying to change. Even if he does deserve it, you are just making the situation at hand worse. Stop bashing the guy.

I suggest seek consoling then find her. For her to see that you are getting help shows that you truly care and are willing to get rid of your threatening disease.

 

He did go through therapy and she did go back to him.

 

just realized that now.
:O well good luck guy, and keep smiling.

 

alright brother, you are a self centered person. literally understand. you care only about your self. you are centered on your self. stop. it. now. grow a frontal lobe and a super ego
ok internalize this bro. now.
shut your eyes after you read this to understand. you and her are both living beings with heartbeats. the physical comes before the mental. she is a human body that breaths eats poops and wants to live- hopefully not alone because she sounds like a great women. understand evolution brother, this means you recognize the fact that there are billions of those heart beats and lungs pumping and living around the world! if things don't work out with this woman, there are billions others you can hopefully treat like a human being and not a pet. ok?

you live and learn, the learning is the hard part for some people and living is hard for those exploited on a daily basis. don't continue your trend of self focus. have you ever even farted in front of eachother? if not your not getting married anyways so chill the fuck out

 

Oh yes, lets fight fire with fire with cruel punishment. That will do the trick...

How barbaric..Maybe you are the one who needs help, more than the OP for sure.

All I have to say to the OP is, leave the girl. If she comes back, let it be on her own.

 

After reading this, shame on you for hitting a girl more than once. It is in your best interest to seek help and it is good that you seem to want to do just that. Your first mistake, however, was coming here. Outside of 2-3 reasonable people, you have run into a bunch of outrageous (to put it mildly) people who wish violence on you. For "peace loving" folks they sure are contradictory and hypocritical.

 

:beatdeadhorse5: Does anybody else besides me think that we'll only end up beating a dead horse over and over if we keep this thread open? I get the feeling that there will always be people who will attack the OP (which is understandable given the nature of his post) and people who will criticize the attackers for attacking the OP, and people who will not bother reading through the thread but give their two cents worth anyway...

 

my gf used to hit at me all the time when we fought, one time I lost control and hit her back.. Do I feel bad?
not at all.

 

I don't think you can make it up to her. Just take anger management classes, to show her that you are trying to correct the problem.

 

Why did you bump this?

You didn't offer anything new, or say anything that hasn't been said. Let it fade into the depths of the relationship forum and we can see if the OP wants to bump this at a later date to offer updates.

 

*sigh* And this is a perfect example of what I was talking about in my previous post:

 

Some people in this thread are pretty harsh, lashing out at someone you don't even know or even know the history of its just plain stupid.

People can recognize mistakes, and fix them if they want to, all this negativity of 'people never change' is just stupid. Thats like saying you should give up on yourself if you have a problem. Anger always has a source, recognizing the source and dealing with it is the best therapy, that way it does not become misguided and loved ones wind up suffering from it. I think many people internalize all of their frustrations and it builds up to a point where it becomes a real problem, and danger to yourselves and others. Having a release and a natural way to relieve pressure, stress, frustrations etc helps.

Remember, we cannot control others, we can only control ourselves and the way we react to them.