I have some questions that I need answered!

Well.. im 15 years old and i discovered masturbation about 2 years ago.. but only about 4 months ago did i start doing it often. I love to masturbate because of how it feels, you all know how that is. But i have some concerns.

I have pretty much only masturbated to porn, and i cant seem to fully masturbate (until i cum) if i dont look at it. I tried in the shower a couple days ago and it took me about 15 min and by then my penis hurt and was really red. So is there anything i can do to make masturbation without porn easier? Because i now have no access to porn... And is porn wrong?

Also, every time i am done masturbating, i have this guilty feeling. This totally takes away the sensation of my masturbation. Anything that can help with this? Because sometimes i want to masturbate more then once, then after the first time i have no desire to do it again. Please help!

One more thing.. my penis is 6 inches long. How is that in terms of length for a 15 year old? Please help!!

Luke-

 

I'd say stop looking at porn, it's not "wrong" but it's probably not very healthy at this stage of your life, you are still psycologically developing and you should be making your own fantasies, also it can desensitize you. Don't freak out though because you'll go back to normal if you stop looking at porn and you'll be able to masturbate with out it.

Finally 6 inches isnt small, not to mention, (im assuming you're a virgin) it gets even bigger during actual intercourse, so your probably bigger then 6.

 

try using lube next time you masturbate too, when without porn... likely to reduce the chaffin/redness

 

YOur 15, a year n a bit younger than me, and jeez if id had 6 inches at 15 id throw a party lol, im 16 n a half and only 6.5 inches lol but one hting you will leanr is that its not how big it is. Porn isnt wrong, it may not be right in some cases but still its no crime to look at it. I take ages in the shower as well and the best reason i can think for it is that the hot water gives its own stimulation and after being in the shower for a while your penis will jsut get used ot it and begin to ignore it.
there are many ways to cum without porn, it sure helps but a tip is, dont be input dependant, use your imagination and just enjoy the feelings, excercise that imagination and youl be able to form better images in your head in no time
well i hope htis helps in some form
kaannn

 

Just use your imagination and fantasise mate. Your dick's a real good size mate, enjoy giving yourself pleasure

 

Size ok! Porn is not the problem, that guilt you feel is the problem. Try to convince yourself that if 99% of guys (at least in USA) can wank without guilt - then you can too. Start picturing different story lines in your head; a little truth here, some fantasy there. Put them together and they're a big help. Enjoy it. Go to bed naked and feel your own body responding to the work of your hand. Try using two fingers and your thumb instead of your whole fist. Are you circumcised or natural? If natural you don't need any lube, if cut then you may - although you should try to get along without it. Hell, those feelings are the most natural in the world, but we don't like to do it in front of anyone. So, because we feel as though we're hiding, it feels a little bit guilty. Forget it. Enjoy it! Think abouit crawling up which ever kind of body you'd like to, get the thought going of your head in there , you can do anything while you're wanking. and no one will ever know - or care. Think about anything that turns you on and then a way to do it. It's an adventure - private - but still an adventure. Enjoy it!!! After a while, you'll be much more relaxed and it'll come naturally. Then you can catch up to the rest of us, about twice or three times a day. Whoopee! And you are supposed to loose interest after you orgasm - for a short while. Then back to fun.

 

Just stop using the porn.
Not because it's bad, but the trick is that masturbation without an orgasm leaves you in quite a horny state. As soon as you have physically recovered, try it again, and eventuelly, you will cum.

 

thanks a lot everyone, it helped a lot. But btw, im circumsized, and even in the shower with lotion it took we a while to cum.. and my penis still hurt a bit and was really red. ill try again tomorrow without porn, but seems like when i try and imagine things my mind starts thinkin bout other stuff. Oh well, thanks again!!

 

Nah,I don't think the feeling of guilt is a problem. I think 99% of guys will have that feeling during their teens or when they first begin to masturbate. I used to feel that way all the time when I started,which was actually at a younger age. 12-15. I later found out from a health class then from a psychologist that it's normal when guys feel guilty about masturbation.

That feeling will disappear sooner or later and once it does,you won't be able to stop spanking it.

 

ya i dont like the shower deal myself it also takes me longer, but to each their own i supose, um 6 in" hard is average for most all men, six soft would be slightly larger than normal. um all i can say is not to wory about the porn thing, you will get used to doing it without porn, for me i started with no porn and only had dial up internet so it was all pics, now i have highspeed, so i cant get off on pics i need movies or my imagination.

try this, some night when you cant sleep and u randomly get horny, think about making out or fooling around with some chick (if you have foold around or made out with someone before think of that) and just go at it till you cum
then just roll over and go to be, it will knock you right out, and if your tired your imagination will wander

 

6 inches is pretty good for a 15 year old. Some men never reach that length.

As far as the masturbation goes, get rid of the guilt because masturbation is a normal, exciting and enjoyable pastime that almost everyone does. Although most aren't willing to admit it in public. Just don't let it take the place of normal sex when you get a girlfriend. Unless you have one already then if she's not willing to have sex with you maybe you can talk her into doing it for you.

 

hold off masturbation as much as possible, save those spinal fluids and smart juices x.x
whats with all the interest in masturbating today?

 

It's quite impressive how attitudes towards masturbation have have over what is a relatively short period of time. After all, about 50 years ago, adolescent boys would be made to wear chastity belts like something from a medieval torture chanber to stop hte from masturbating, as it would have been considered a sin against religion, as well as being harmful to health in all sorts of ways.

Now that we live in more enlightened times, it is accepted as a medical fact that masturbation is not only a normal activity, but that it has masses of beneficial qualities, both physical & mental, and absolutely no negative ones. Even school Sex-Ed classes now promote this fact.

It wouldn't surprise me that if you chart the rate of progress of how acceptance of masturbation has advanced over the years from being totally taboo (and even illegal in many regions) to the state where it is being actively encouraged, it wouldn't surprise me if, at some time in the future, they begin to incorporate masturbation sessions into the school curriculum, both for Sex-Ed & Health.

If you still feel all this to be rumours from a bunch of unqualified forum posters (which, when all said & done, we are), just Google medical advice sites, where they have fully qualified medical practioners, and you will see they say exactly the same sort of thing.

 

it may be mentally unhealthy if it assumes obsessive proportions and the individual is unable to think of anything else. It may also have physical repercussions if the instrument used to masturbate is dirty or infected.
also it takes 2 days to fully regenerate cum, dont over do it, but you also dont want stagnant cum sitting in your sack for too long lol refresh that shit O: