i have a problem satsifying my boyfriend, help!

seeing as she's talking about her boyfriend I don't see a problem with fooling around. it's not like she's going around fucking random 20 year old guys. they're in a relationship and if they both feel comfortable and ready what's the problem?
*edit* and as far as I can see the girl didn't ask 'hey everyone do you think it's okay I'm sexually active at such a young age, and if you don't can you please rub your opinions in my face!'. so she's young, she obviously doesn't care about the age gap so what does it matter. just accept it, it's not hurting you.

 

*Hugs Vulva and Nature* Don't ask, I'm in a huggy mood, Point well made though Vulva

 

Freedom of speech DOES have its limits. We all know about yelling "Fire!" in a crowded theater when there is no fire. And we all know -- or should know -- not to make wild accusations against someone without having a single shred of evidence to prove them. That's why we have laws against libel, slander and defamation.

There is no law that requires anyone to be courteous and respectful of anyone else, especially on the Internet. But there ARE such things as etiquette and good, old-fashioned common sense.

You DO owe Nature Goddess an apology for your rude response to what was, for her, a call for help. That fact that she's 15 year old (which I didn't realize until after I posted my original response to her posting) is relevant up to a point.

But let's play role-reversal: If YOU found yourself in a situation and it prompted YOU to ask for advice on how to deal with it, would YOU be happy to receive a rude and insulting response?

I don't think so.

And for a 33-year-old Generation X-er who's a few years away from passing into middle age, your treatment of Nature Goddess is hardly what I would call mentoring from a mature adult. Your postings were more of the kind one would expect from a brash teenager with a swelled ego. And it made me angry.

So when I called you an "asshole" -- which I admit was out of character for me -- I did it because I was angry at you for responding to Nature Goddess' call for help and advice with rude put-downs. They were NOT what she asked for and she didn't deserve them. I purposely did it to rebuke you in a way that I knew would draw your attention.

Now you're going on this "What about my free speech?" line in your responses to my rebuke and refusing to take responsibility for being rude to Nature Goddess. And then you have the audacity to go on a blistering, acid-tongued tirade about "enabling" self-destructive behavior, as if you were a hellfire-and-damnation fundamentalist preacher (which, by the way, I despise -- but that's a topic for another thread).

There's a way to guide kids facing such situations on how to deal with them that works and there's a way to guide them that doesn't work. Your guilt-tripping approach isn't likely to work. Enabling their problem won't work, either. There has to be a balance between support and encouragement on the one hand and tough-love and discipline on the other.

That's why I prefer to take the "Dear Abby/Ann Landers" approach. They knew how to strike the balance between the two poles. I'm learning that now.

-- Skeeter

 

First of all, I'm not here to try and guide kids. I could care less about some kid seeking help on a forum full of druggies and phony hippies. If you are seeking help around here then you are hardly serious about that help. Most of these kids are just looking for somebody to agree with them and don't actually want the truth anyway. Instead, I just like to push their buttons and see how they respond. You tend to see a bit more of the real person when the heat is on also.

Oh, and I take full responsibility for everything I say bud. Unlike many on this forum who clearly never take responsibility for anything in their life. Just because I won't apologize when Mr. Skeeter says to, doesn't mean squat.

 

LMFAO!!

Yeah, they both sound real comfortable and ready. He can't keep it up while getting head (comfortable?) and she thinks it's her fault and must suck at it (no pun intended) (ready?). Now she wants a temporary solution and instead of discussing it with her partner (comfortable and ready?) she posts on a public hippie forum asking how to please her boyfriend. She then decides to give hand jobs instead which apparently works for both of them, but all she gets is a fist covered in sperm.

Yeah... comfortable, ready and healthy.

 

hugs pencil, vuvla, and skeeter.............................. frowns at mhr............................i have talked to him about it, which did help.........how dare u critize my relationship when u know nothing of it......it would be different if i knew u and u knew me but u don't so there fore u have no evidence against my relationship that says that: i'm taken advantage of........that i'm not ready for sex..........that my b/f and i are not serious enough for sex. so untill u have met me or my b/f i think u should shut up...........because you are an asshole who has nothing better to do then to thrash my relationship and myself............and i've said all i need to saya bout it.

 

No evidence?

Uhhh.. knock knock. You posted on an internet forum, full of mostly other teens who know nothing about sex, to ask how to please your boyfriend because you don't know how. Yeah, your ready for sex !

If you were both mature/serious enough you would be discussing this between yourselves and not broadcasting it over the internet. If you were mature enough you wouldn't be assuming the problem is solved by giving handjobs.

If you don't know why this evidence alone says it all, then there is your proof that you aren't mature enough.

 

like i said: u have nothing better to do

 

Then why do you even bother to be on this forum if it's full of "druggies and phony hippies?" that you don't give a damn about?

You're sounding like one of those right-wing radio talk-show hosts -- namely, Michael Savage. All he does for three hours every night is bitch, bitch, bitch against "hippies, druggies, faggots, lesbos, commie pinkos and other freaks." The irony is that Savage broadcasts from San Francisco.

Well guess what? Unlike on talk radio, people like you who have nothing better to do than bitch, bitch, bitch don't get last word on THIS forum. Someone -- not necessarily me -- will always bitch back.

-- Skeeter

 

Well, started out thinking the place was pretty cool, but the newness wore off and reality set in that this place was full of hypocrites, phonies and drugged out losers. It's kind of like a dear in headlights... so shocked that you can't look away. I decided to just stick around, relieve some stress, push peoples buttons and see how fast they go from their phony ass "I love everyone" BS to showing their true colors. Doesn't take long for some people huh Skeeter?..LOL! I was planning on giving up this forum soon anyway, so don't worry your precious wittle head skeeter. And keep up the great handjob work Goddess, I'm sure your parents would be proud!

 

Fuck You Mhr

 

Nature - Glad you talked about it, Hope you two are doing better now

MHR - ...Nope, I have nothing to say to you.. I don't feed Forum Trolls Though I do have something I could quote you that you might like to listen to:
"If you have nothing good to say, Say nothing at all"
Ever heard of that? ...No? ...No, I did'nt think so, Either..

Peace. Even you, MHR.

 

wow, just like so many other posts this has turned into a huge fight. how insipid. these things wouldn't happen if people would just ignore posts they find offensive/negative. it only fuels a forum troll's mind to create more stupid posts. what a waste of time and if anyone says anything negative to this post, i'm not going to respond, because it's stupid and i really couldn't care less.

 

Please stop writing then cause none of us care.

 

wow!!! Dr. MHR is on the scene and can completely analyze the problems of one girl's relationship from a vague post on an internet forum, and know exactly why the guy is having problems keeping it up although he knows nothing about the guy, hasn't spoken to him or even seen him before! man, with that kind of skill, you could make a really good career out of this, the next Dr. Phil. I bow to your genius.

 

With HIS attitude, this radio-talk-show-host-wannabe isn't worth fucking. Maybe that's his problem: He can't get any because nobody on this forum wants to have anything to do with him.

When you finally decide to leave this forum for good, don't let the door slam you on your ass on your way out!

HEY! I finally figured out what your initials MHR stand for: Michael (Savage), (Sean) Hannity and Rush (Limbaugh)!

Bye-bye, Dittohead! I'm finished with you!

-- Skeeter