i have a problem satsifying my boyfriend, help!

Nah.. I could actually care less. Remember now, you were the one who posted needing help with your pathetic sex life at 15 years old. I was just trying to get to the truth which is rare around these forums. The only truth people want to hear is how having sex at a young age is perfectly fine. Sooooo.. don't ask if you don't want the truth!

 

then care less and quit trying to make me seem like some kind of slut becuz i'm not a virgin and i'm only 15, its not a big deal, my decision not yours...........i didn't ask if it was alright to have sex at a young age, i asked for advice on how to make it better when i give head, so i don't remember asking if my b/f was taking advantage of me...........so quit tryin to see below the surface.

 

Let's see...

This is a little more specific then how he just doesn't like the way you give head. I tried to explain the "REALITY" of this situation, but you don't care about reality. Again, same problem with most people. They think all problems are solved with some quick fix like giving your boyfriend hand jobs instead. I can't believe you don't get how amazingly ridiculous that sounds. Your 15 years old and you are already deciding to give your boyfried hand jobs over blow jobs. Whats next, when to start anal sex? Congratulations on a great start to a healthy future!

 

There is nothing wrong with having sex at age 15.

From the moment we are born (age 0), our sexual desire is developing steadily, and our bodies are growing to become capable of producing children.

By puberty (age 11 or 12), we are all sexually aware, and have sexual feelings, and are capable of having children. These desires are normal and natural. And just because modern society deems it impractical to have children at a young age, does not mean it's wrong.

These days, we prefer not to have children at a young age because we have contraceptives, which allows women to choose when they're ready to have children. And waiting until you're in your 20s or 30s probably gives your child a better future. (So in that respect contraceptives help us procreate!)

To help children conform to this modern way of living, we impose age limits on having sex (14, 16, 18 etc). This is a good thing, not because anyone follows the law (i've never heard of children going to prison for having sex), but because it promotes a healthy lifestyle in the minds of society. And also, importantly, because it protects children from abuse by adults.

But these age laws are only a cultural phenomenon. They defy nature, and breaking them cannot be "wrong" by any standard other than a legal one. For two children to break the law and have a baby underage is to do as nature intended, which cannot be wrong. Surely, in biological terms, the most righteous thing any creature can do is to procreate?

Yes, it's probably a bad idea for a girl to get pregnant when she's in her teens (as I pointed out in my earlier post). But sex does not equal pregnancy, if contraceptives are used. If a teenage girl wants to have a sex life, and she's properly educated, then it is her responsibility to make sure contraceptives are used. The right and responsibility to have sex is entirely one's own.

Yes, teenagers are not known for their maturity, but you can't blanket label all teenagers as irresponsible idiots. "Maturity" doesn't arrive instantly when you're 16. It begins when you're born and carries on until you die. No doubt a 50 year old woman would have a more responsible attitude towards contraception than a 20 year old, but there's no law against 20 year-olds having sex.

Sex (at whatever age) is completely natural, and is what our bodies are intended to do. To call that "wrong" — just because it doesn't adhere to our cultural laws — is perverse.

 

Dizzy, I respect your post.

However, this thread was not about sex to have a child because they are in love and want to raise a family.

This is about a 15 year old girl giving a hand job vs giving head.

 

thank you dizzy........as for u mhr, there is nothing wrong with what i am doing.....its my decision that i made, based on my own morals....u have never met me or my b/f and know nothing of our relationship, there fore u can not say that we are not in love, and that we do not want to one day have a family.....u don't even know my name, so i suggest untill u have witnessed our relationship or even have gotten to know one of us that u keep your bullshit to yourself.....and thats all i have to say

 

GODDAMMIT, MHR!! Must you always be such an insensitive, cynical asshole all the time??? If you haven't anything constructive to suggest, then SHUT THE FUCK UP!

-- Skeeter

 

Nature:
dont fret!!!
and dont read mhr's posts anymore if they are bothering you... ok .

i think that you just need more experience... ask him what HE likes..
Maybe get him, to show u what he likes......

 

Think outside the box, through him against a wall, rip his pants off faster than a jackie chan film, grab some ice(small peices)and have at it! sex is all a mind game, show him whos boss!

 

This pretty much applies to 90% of the forum, so maybe you should take your own advice as well.

 

wow this is some good advice already.
That list of suggestions is right on.
Techniques are important but so is the attitude of both people and the experience of time. so dont feel your not perfect. and hand jobs can become just as intimate as blowjobs. its all about attitude and love. there is to much focus put on giving head among young teenagers cause they really want to have sex. It takes people a long time to learn to enjoy sex. its like learning to cook or play music. it takes a few years to get to the point where you can really enjoy it and sort of improvise and be open to the love of other people. I beg for hand jobs now cause i've haven't recieved one in quite a while that was totally on its own appart from sex. There is something nice and basic about how affectionate it is.

my girlfriend didn't do a very good job her first time going down on me because she didn't like giving head. now four years later she is so good at it. I enjoy it sooooo much that i look forward to it even if its just part of our foreplay.

her first boyfriend was fat and she is really petite and little. he had a short, thick penis. and i think he used to try to do things that she just wasn't ready for or that didn't turn her on like fisting and bondage things. and sex was kind of awkward. She felt a little unhappy about how she couldn't just express her self sexually without having to give head or follow a pattern of what was thought to be sexy.

so it took us a little while to adjust and develop our style. The first time we had sex i couldn't stay hard. We had to put a condom on and it was small and tight. I was so nervous about everything else that i couldn't stay hard and the condom squeezed me way to tight. we were also a little to drunk which is not the way to go about it especially the first few times. later its fine but not at first. She ended up covered in bite marks and i ended up with a black eye by falling onto the edge of the couch while i was trying to pull off my sweatshirt. it was something !

but if she had started giving me a hand job before we tried to put the condom on everything would have worked out easier. but we didn't know. and i didn't feel comfortable making any requests that might upset her.

over the next few weeks and months she when she was giving me head it wasn't very good. She didn't hurt me. but she also admitted she just didn't enjoy doing it. i find many girls say this. I am not sure why but its probably partly cause we over emphasize how important it is. I loved going down on her and rubbing my whole face in her juices. She is the kind of girl who is naturally always wet so i really like how she tastes sweet and how i just have to pull off her pants and shes all ready for action! She didn't like the smell of spit and rubbing it all over her face didn't turn her on where as i loved getting messy. it really took her time to learn to touch me just right. She has little hands too so its hard for her to feel like she can man handle me when she's stroking my penis. so there is really a learning curve especially when people are younger and just starting to try things.

That is why i think hand jobs are the best way to start and a great way to share intimacy. guys are also much more in tune with masturbation then with getting head. It has taken me a while to really enjoy the subtle sensations of oral sex. So your doing fine. It takes time to feel our bodies deep down.

Now we have lots of great sex. We love to get naked for a long time and focus on making out before we jump to anything oral. This is nice cause it gets us really passionate about our senses and eachother and what we are doing together.

I also just like to see my girlfriend in her night gown or her underwear. She has one of those long sort of pink see through gowns with a slit up the side. I like when she wears that and we just spend time watching movies and cuddling. its like shes a 1940's movie star! with her hair up in a bun
she makes me wear boxer briefs which are sexy cause they are like underwear but boxer shaped. so they show off my package and get her excited.

now when we have oral sex its usually 69ing or she goes down on her knees. i am not a big fan of laying on my back in bed unless the mattress is super hard. but sex in the woods like this is hot.

Recently we have been playing with a 7inch rubber penis. We cover it in honey and this premixed cinnamon and sugar mix from the grocery store and share it. We start out licking it and then she puts me inside her and we push it into each others mouths. its so hot and tastes really good. then we play with the honey. and keep using it in all sorts of sexy ways. she likes to hump it while going down on me and fingering herself.

and i think now we have grown close to eachother she really trusts in our sense of lovemaking. a little while ago she asked me to do her in the but. We tried this a long time ago and were so rushed that it just hurt. but now we take our time and so it was really hot
we took it really slow and took about an hour of fingering to work up to it. And it felt really good and was FUN. We did it super slow and steady and really liked it. She was so tight its was awesome. it was a big turn on that she asked me to do it to her and she looked at me like she needed me too do it. anyway we have lots of fun. and i dont think age matters. we are barely a year apart im 24 she's 23 but we are both kind of attracted to a 14 year old couple we know. I dont think its a matter of right and wrong or the law but its a matter of having a caring attitude. people can agree or not, i dont really mind what other people think. besides you can marry someone who is underage if that person wants to in many states and what is honored in one state is carries over into all of the states as long as your not a same sex couple or a trupple +. I for one think id be perfectly happy in a group relationship. and am attracted to both older and younger people.

so dont worry about what other people say. underage sex is only wrong in cases of really abusive relationships. if your mature enough then everything would work out fine.

 

Awwww. . .Poor MHR. Did I bruise your fragile little ego???

Too bad! It's about time somebody got in your face about being such an insensitive and cynical asshole.

-- Skeeter

 

this is for the 15 year old girl i'm not hear to judge you on anything what you do is your Bussiness but since everyone eles is posting i'm going to do the same i think 15 years old is too young but if you are having sex please oh please use a condom ok hun

 

Uhhh... in my face? Knock Knock.. it's an internet forum. LOL on the bruised ego bit, took me minute to stop laughing so I could write this. You should adjust your handle... -- Skeeter "the internet tough guy"

 

thankx skeeter and the rest of you, life is to short to worry about what some people think.....i'm living my life the way i want and i have no regrets

 

oo and we do horror, wouldn't do it we didn't

 

Except that you can't give head worth a damn huh?

 

Maybe he something alse in his mind.

 

I don't know if this has been said already but I think it's worth saying...

No matter how "good" or "bad" you are at giving head. No matter what you do. No matter how much you mess up. As long as you put his cock in your mouth, any man will be extremely happy. For a man, being given a blowjob is not something you can come away from disappointed.

For me, the tips just make it even better, so it's worth the effort. But just the thought of a woman putting our cock anywhere near her mouth is a one way ticket to Erection City!

I don't think it's the same for a woman. As I understand it, you have to be doing the right thing down there for her to enjoy herself and not get bored. Because the psychology is less important and it's more about physical pleasure. But for men the psychology is so important. (Which seems like a bit of a rôle reversal, now I think about itl!)

 

All you have to do is act like you are really into it. Gyrating hips, moans and lots of bobbing.