i have a problem satsifying my boyfriend, help!

oo wow that was alot of stuff, for someone who knowes nothing about me or my b.f or our relationship....no i wouldn't date a 12 year old boy, but i love the older guys, and i love my b/f and i don't need to met his approval about anything, i just like to keep my man satsified thats all.......yes well i'm sure u know alot about rocket science then

 

Rocket science? Who doesn't know alot about it?

 

mhr, I don't agree with what you said about the age gap. Just because there's an age gap doesn't mean the older person is taking advantage of the younger person. I wouldn't have done that when I was 18! There are many people who take advantage of their partners, and it doesn't just happen when their partner is younger, and they are not very nice people, but not everyone is like that.

And a 15 year old girl going out with a 12 year old boy is totally different to the other way round because, on the whole, girls of that age aren't interested in younger boys. Our sexual desires are based on what's best for our children, so on the whole men look for a woman who's young and healthy and capable of bearing their child, whereas women are more interested in a man who's mature, resourceful, and can provide for the family. A younger girl/older man combination is therefore more natural. You only need to watch the news to see this principle at work. It's a generalisation, but an accurate one.

 

Godess,
By the way, I guess I should post this... it's some blowjob tips I wrote a while ago.

First, remember if you're having sex at 15 you need to be ultra careful to keep it safe. You're just as likely to get pregnant as a woman in her 20s (if not moreso). It's possible to get pregnant if a man cums in your mouth, on you, or anywhere near you and the cum gets transferred to your **** one way or another. So be careful where that cum goes!

Don't forget about the consequences — having a child at such a young age would ruin your life. You're physically able to bear children but not mentally ready to be a mother, and when you're 15 the chances of your boyfriend spending the rest of his life with you are practically 0, which means your kid would have no dad. Also, pregnancy is difficult for any woman's career, but when you haven't even left school yet it's going to seriously fuck up your prospects in life. Plus, at the very least, teenage pregnancy is quite stigmatic and you would be seen in a different light by society as a whole.

Sorry to lecutre/state the obvious! But my conscience won't let me give blowjob tips to a 15 year old unless I've said all that first!

BLOWJOB TIPS
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(NB: these are all things I like, but obviously not every man is the same.)

1. Be patient
First of all, don't be in a big rush to get the cock out of our pants (if we're wearing any). We like to have our bulge played with a bit. You can stroke it with your hands or your face, and if our pants are soft enough you can maybe even get your lips round it!

2. Slow-mo
When you first put the cock in your mouth, or when you're taking it out, move your lips really slowly over the head of the cock. We love to savour the sight and the sensation of the head of our cock going between your lips, so the slower you do it, the more enjoyment we can derive from it. I can't stress this enough: you can't move your mouth too slowly down a cock. Slower is definitely sexier. (Just don't be slow all the time!)

3. Look
Most men love eye contact during a blowjob. We also love women to talk to us while we're getting our cock sucked. A woman talking and looking into your eyes is a normal everyday event, which suddenly becomes very sexy and exciting when you stick a cock in the middle of it. Try and talk to the guy in a perfectly normal manner with the cock almost in your mouth, licking it between words. This drives me crazy!

4. Avoid glancing
Although eye contact is good, try to avoid very quickly glancing up. It just looks a little sly and uncomfortable and seems like you're not enjoying it too much. Try to look as if you're enjoying it or the guy won't feel comfortable.

5. Don't suck
Don't actually suck or blow — "sucking" and "blowing" cocks are just figures of speech. Just fuck him with your mouth; no need to play him like a bagpipe.

6. Tease
Men like to be teased, too. Don't just suck cock. Lick it all over (down to the balls). Kiss it. Move your tongue all over it slowly. I often think the more time women spend with the cock not in their mouth, the better the blowjob is! Just putting your lips near to it, breathing on it, or caressing it lightly with your lips, is a massive turn on.

7. Brush
Dunno about other guys, but I love to feel hair on me when I'm having a blowjob. Try your best to get your hair to brush the guy's stomach, or if you can get it to, to touch his cock. We love hair. (Okay, maybe just me?)

8. Keep it real
Please DO NOT fake an orgasm from sucking a guy's cock. It's just weird! Why would a woman moan from sucking a cock? If your enjoyment seems phoney, the guy won't enjoy it. (By the way, talking dirty doesn't count as phoney — that's coaching and all guys appreciate that!)

9. Squelch
Don't be embarassed to make "squelchy sloppy" noises. The noisier, the better. If it's too quiet down there, it's a little weird.

10. Etiquette
It's amazing what a difference it makes the way a girl holds a cock when she's sucking it. If she holds it firmly in her fist, I find it a little off putting. If she holds it delicately with her fingers, nearer the tips, like a glass of wine, then it's very sexy and feminine. (Unless you're being dominant and nasty — then use the full fist.)

11. Slop
Drool and spit more! Personally, I don't think you can have too much spit on a cock. If you can do it, try and get a spit trail to go from the tip of your tongue to the head of the cock. We love to see that. Not every guy does, but I personally love having my cock spat on. Messier=nastier, which is a good thing to most men.

12. Squeeze
Whether you're wearing clothes or not, putting a cock between your tits and squeezing them together is very sexy.

13. Facialize
Don't make it all about the mouth. When a guy gets a blowjob, he doesn't just want to fuck your mouth, he wants to fuck your face. Women's faces turn us on. If you can sometimes brush his cock with other parts of your face, that makes for an ideal blowjob.

14. Gnash
Occasionally, it can be very sexy for a girl to look fierce and 'bite' the end of our cock between our teeth. Just make sure you make it look deliberate, and we want to see lots of teeth.

15. Explore
If you can, lick under the balls and round the sides of them. We love that.

16. Coach
If he's close to orgasm, you can really help by telling him how much you want his cum. Tell him you want it on your face and you want to swallow it. Yeah, we know it's phoney, but we love to hear the words! (Can you back me up on this, guys?) And to be honest by the time we actually cum, we usually don't even care what you do with the cum. A post-orgasm man loses all his nastiness. For me, talking about cum-swallowing and face-splatting is all just talk.

17. Open wide
Another thing guys love when we're close to orgasm is the sight of a nice wide open mouth (especially when we're looking down on you). It's all to do with our fantasy of cumming in your mouth I guess. We like to think you'll catch it, and a wide mouth shows us you're hungry for our cum and don't care how you look (which is totally sexy). As I say, this is really all about fantasy, because once we cum we don't care!

Godess, your boyfriend might not appreciate any of these things, this is just stuff that I like. But maybe it's of some help.

 

This guy couldn't have said it any better. You should write a book or something. If you follow his advise and he is still having problems... he's scared shitless that he is going to get arrested for having sex with a minor..

 

That's pretty unusual. . .A guy goes soft and loses interest whenever he's GIVEN fellatio. Ordinarily, being given fellatio would turn a guy ON, not OFF.

This is a very delicate subject to broach, but I wonder if your boyfriend had a traumatic sexual experience in the past that he hasn't told you about, but is nonetheless haunting him.

Yes, I'm thinking specifically that your boyfriend may have been molested when he was a child. It's not beyond the realm of possibility; I was molested when I was 9 years old and it haunted me for 11 years. I was afraid to have sex with anyone until I turned 20 and my "raging hormones" finally overrode my timidity.

As I said, this is a VERY delicate subject to talk about, but if you're able to get him to talk about it, by all means try. I could be way off base here, but I can't imagine any other reason -- unless he's struggling with his sexual orientation -- for a guy to lose interest in sex while being fellated.

-- Skeeter

 

I posted my original message before I realized that you're only 15 and your boyfriend is 18. Having realized that, there could be yet another reason he loses interest in sex: He knows that you're under 18 and could be worried about the fact that you're still a minor anad he could get into legal trouble.


Combine that with the possibility that he may have been the target of a pedophile and you may have one very scared boyfriend.

Again, I could be way off-base here (And frankly, I hope I am and I apologize in advance). But given my own experience, I can't totally rule out either possibility.

-- Skeeter

 

thats a pretty bold statement their Skeeter. Are you some kind of shrink or something. I'm sticking with the girl being underage thing.

 

No, I'm not a shrink. But the scenario I described is something that I went through myself. But your question does have me thinking: Would I be doing a service if I became a counselor to young people who HAVE been molested?

-- Skeeter

 

I rarely climax with oral myself. To me, it is a good build up, but doesn't put me over the top.

 

thank you all for your input, excpecial u dizzy man...............i will try what you said, thankx for your help and its fine that you preached not a big deal to me, i understand what you mean, everyone loves to look out for the goddess ....oo and skeeter he is fine, not nervous or worried bout the age thing, tho he was when we first had sex, but now he is fine wiht it and he just doesn't like head that much, he prefers hand jobs, which i'm good at lol.......thankx again

 

If your so confident he isn't using you then stop jerkin him off and see. Try going several months without any sexual contact and you'll start to see his true colors. If he still keeps you around then way to go you found a keeper.

 

well we haven't had sex in about 3 weeks, and he doesn't care......i haven't given him a hand job or anything in awhile and he doesn't care.........becuz in case ur forgetting he has a hand too..........so yea i think i found a keeper, i seriously doubt he is using me for sex, when i didn't have sex with him untill i had been wiht him 9 months and he never asked me to have sex wiht him, he waited........so yea

 

I see.. so when you posted on the 12th that you gave him a hand job, that was a lie, or is 5 days considered "awhile" to you?

And since when is 3 weeks equal to several months? You waited a whooooole 9 months before sex? You guys must have been like an old married couple by then huh.

As usual, I'm confused around here because every time someone asks for help they give no information. Then, when confronted, their information ALWAYS nullifies anything negative and ALWAYS agrees with the positive. How appropriate and expected considering the age of most members.

 

I think he like's boys.....

 

god your an asshole, since when is it soo important to you, that u must prove that my relationship is all sex based? wow u must have nothing to do but sit at home and try to destory people's lives, good luck wiht that

 

It's difficult for girls to learn how to give good head and good hjs, because when they first try it, guys are in the horniest periods of their lives . . . so even poor techniques can get the guys off. Your bf probably masturbates by himself a lot, so he is certainly not using you for sex. Why not ask him whether he'll masturbate for you, so you can see what he likes (and it'll be a turn-on for him)?


To me, good head is really a good hj, with your mouth helping out your hand. To me, a good hj could be: giving your guy a serious massage while he's nakey, and rubbing his butt and lower back and inner thighs and lower stomach last. Then, you might want to tease him by playing with his trail of hairs from his belly button down to his pubic hair, and tease the hairs on his inner thighs and behind his balls. Massage close to his penis, and accidentally-on-purpose occasionally brush his dick and balls. When he starts to get excited, pull down the skin on his hardening shaft so that there's a good stretch of that skin from the head of his penis down to his base (where the shaft meets the balls). Stretch that skin with the fingers of one hand, and you can go up & down on the stretched skin and on the head with your other hand (or with your mouth, lips, tongue). Also, play with his hard shaft that starts behind his balls (between the balls and his anal opening). The pressured stroking behind his balls, as well as your stetching the skin of his shaft down toward the base, should have him moaning, and have him thrusting upward with his dick and pelvis, to meet against your pulling down of the skin.

Also, have to ever tried mutual masturbation? Put the back of your nakey thighs over the front of his nakey thighs, so that you and he can both watch each other touch yourselves up close & personal. Best of luck to you.

 

Who's post were you responding to? I did ackowledge that I may have been way off-base with my own postings and apologized in advance. If what I said upset you, then I apologize again.

-- Skeeter

 

no i was talking to mhr, i thought that you post skeeter was helpful, u were just tryin to look at it from a different point of view, so it wasn't you.......it was mhr

 

thankx for your input love turtle, i'll try that and see what happens, and yes he does masturbate alot by himself, but every once in awhile he'll masturbate for me......i'm good at giving h/js but b/js are a different story.