I Have A Problem Keeping It Up During Sex...

My girlfriend and I just did it for the first time last night and for some reason I had problems cumming. I have no problem going down on her and eating her out and doing all that. In fact that stuff really turns me on. We have so much in common; we enjoy hiking, traveling, movies, shows, and I just find her to be so gorgeous and the most connected I've ever been with a girl before. The attraction is there, the energy is there and the foreplay is just awesome! As I said before, I go down on her and make her cum several times and it's amazing. For some reason, when she went down on me I never came. I was even going a bit limp and it was very frustrating. The only way I get hard is if we are making out, or I'm playing with myself. I guess I'm thinking too much into it, but do any of you have advice on how to keep it up during sex?

She totally understood and wasn't offended at all. The first thought going through my head was that she thought I was gay, not attracted to her, or pressured into having sex. None of those are true and it was comforting when she had told me, "I'm not thinking what you're thinking." So, that was cleared up. It was nice and then we started doing foreplay again and I had told her I hadn't had sex in a long time and she was actually quite pleased. She also is a bit bi and came out to her parents not too long ago. I guess my question is, why is this happening? Why am I hard and able to keep it up except when actually doing it?

 

Sounds like nerves, and if that's all it is and you keep worrying, it will get worse. How do your masturbation sessions differ from her technique?

 

I believe it's probably nerves or you being self conscious. You seem fine until the attention is on you instead of her. Understand that the more you enjoy it the more she will too! Whether you are 5inches or 10, last 3minutes or hours. Pay her attention just as you do and then get yours too because every woman wants to feel like she can satisfy her man☺

 

I have a problem keeping it up in this thread

 

Sounds like a personal problem no need to respond to every new post ya dork Lol

 

I had that problem for a while until I realized it was a side affect of psychotropic drugs I was put on. I also read that if you masturbate too much, it can reduce the sensations of real sex.