i hate sex!

lol
wonderful idea!
*wiggles shoulders*

 

honestly, what the hell is with my wiggling shoulders. This is sort of an afterthought post. Kind of like, next morning post, but not quite. If anyone so much as points out its obvious ridiculousity I will flick them silly and put them in my orange book.

 

"I just wanted to post a confession I really don't think or care too much about it at all hehe.. " mistymop

i was thinking that as i was reading and realized why there has been so much emphasis on this thread, i think the title shocked some people...

 

haha well i was being honest i didnt just make it up

how bout we make this the last post on this thread!!.

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hah, every body is acting like sex is so important and not worth having comitments for, just go have sex with this person of that person.

Come on folks, the opposite of our puritan scocieties treatment of sex is not the irresponsible opposite, it is to have a loving, committed relationship. Look for somebody to talk to and dont have sex. I've been celibate for a while and have advanced in other ways because of it.

 

haha... well if it's your impression that I'm like that, I'd like to correct you--I'm not! I am very 'relationship pro.' lol. Trust, communication, 'candletime' (light a candle, make a space where you can talk about emotions, but not from their standpoint. The sacredity of it is, it never ends until both people end it, and if it 'ends' by someone letting emotions run away with them it ain't finished. Rule two is all feelings are important, and equally so -me and my boyfriends invention )

 

I hate it too.

You've got to embark on complex negotiations about the whole trip. Even if you get past the whole finding someone, getting past personal barriers stuff you've got to deal with body issues, performance, etc.

Then you have to worry about children, potentially hideous fatal or otherwise incurable diseases.

In Canada, where I lived a lot of my time consent can be retroactively rescinded and you can be charged with rape, so there's that worry too. Or maybe she just doesn't like you afterwards and decides to tell all her friends about your mole or whatever.

Pretty lousy payoff for so many risks.

Haven't done that kind of thing in years.

 

I know what you mean chick.

 

twiz - who are you replying to?

 

"A girl having sex with another girl is a wonderful experience. Why don't Leki, Whiteginger, you and me have a nice foursome."

Yeah, and let me watch.

I used to hear that complaint from women often. Then I have sex with them and they become nympho's. It takes years of taining, and you have to be totally in tune with a woman, the most complex organism to exist.
And each sex session should be an event, a celebration.

A woman has to help. If you don't cum from straight fucking, masterbate while you fuck. You can "teach" yourself to cum (fucking without masterbating) that way.
But an orgasm isn't as important to a woman than it is for a man. And us guys cum sooooo easily.

Sometimes (well, most of the time), I like to eat a girl out until she's cums a few times, before we start to fuck.

 

All these folks going on and about how they know the "right ingredients" or some such crap. People gettin' all mad about it, old men deciding to "teach" the right way to do it. People sayin' stuff like "don't say you hate sex, just say that you haven't had the right experience yet but will eventually" or something similar anyway. Man, what a load of B.S. As if somebody merely stating that they hate sex somehow infringers on other's ability to have or enjoy sex. How easily offened and obviously insecurepeople are.

Anyhow, you might think that you have the "right ingredients" to make a turd sandwich, but it will still be a turd sandwich. Bottom line is sex does not always outright suck. Generally speaking however yes it does indeed suck big time.

 

Perhaps the best solution is not to stress about it.

Don't get all negative about yourself or about other people because you don't particularly enjoy sex. If you get an attractive offer, go for it and make the best of it. Only have sex with people you are comfortable around.

 

I'm not negative about it. You can do that if it pleases you. I just am not interested.

 

i'd like to talk to you about this 1 on 1, see if we could discover why it is your not into sex, but i think what i'd say isits probably not the sex thats the actual problem, but the guys you end up with.. the truth is sadly most guys are clueless about women..& not only theyre bodies but theyre minds, & if you don have the mental & ejmotionall connevtion the sex can suffer, its also possible for 1 reason or another you choose men who arent capable or willing to give more then they receive..or you may even have a mental block to allowing yourself to experience the pleasure..
if any of these are true, masterbating, having sex with women, none of these will help, only really comming to grips with the cause of the problem & learning to understand it can begin to allow you to permit yourself to experience pleasure from sex
i know i've heard this story before, ..
it also really does help to have a man who is very in touch with your needs & desires, & doesnt just want to sticjk it in, & get off..
sex can be magical, or can be ugly, blissful or boring, & it mostly depends on the person your with & how attentive they are willing to be

 

sex is pretty cool id hate to hate it

 

ive never had it

 

oops forgive me i think i skipped a few pages by accident & misunderstood the whole situation..lol
now i totaly understand & yes its very common that orgasms dont come from just penetration, however with allittle clitirol attention durring penetration you can even cum at the exact same time, every womans body is different & responds differently. & it takes differnt forms of attention to bring about orgasm but if a guy is attentive to the signs & reactions he should be able to make any woman reach orgasm, .i can think of 3 woomen i was with at least who had never had orgasms before ever, & 1 other who had never had 1 with a man.. it just takes exploration & close attention..communication & honnesty can help too, dont be shy about telling him what feels amazing & what feels icky & dont be afraid to guide him if hes truly cluless

 

i just have to come back to the original topic here for a sec..

I also havent had much sex.. and the sex i have had hasnt been great..
i have never once orgasimed, and the guys always have more fun then I..


So me and you are on a semi-same page.. except, I dont HATE it.. I just havent found the right guy..

 

Try finding someone a little older ( a few yrs. maybe). Don't just have sex to do it. Take it slow, allow good cuddling, a little candle lite, good music, not heavy metal or hip-hop, but maybe some Anita Baker or Luthar Vandross, you know something a little soulful. Set the mood, let the guy know what you want before you get intimate and Let the guy know what your looking for.. Tell him you want to make love and make it special, not just have another Quickie!!! If this turns the guy off then he's not for you! I also agree that the young girl at 14 doesn't have a clue to what lovemaking is all about. I don't care if people are straight,Bi., or gay,lesbian, everyone at some time wants romance not just a piece of ass. Good Luck to you and don't worry the good ones are out there you just have to be patient, you will find him!

 

i feel so sorry for you. how horrible it must be not to enjoy sex, wow.