I gotta quit being friends with girls.

hahaha

 

often its the woman who picks the man, whether directly or in an almost invisible seduction.

I often had problem s growing up because i would go with the girl who was vocal about liking me etc, when in general I prefer slightly reserved girls...the ones who I would have to somehow see the invisible seduction with, or break the ice myself

 

by making your intentions clear.

there are many subtleties to the chase. if you really want to improve your chances of getting laid, I suggest you take lode up on his advice, or speak to Hyphy. and cut down on the misogynist crap.

 

he could show you how to be a douchebag "player" at clubs, and clubs are where all the good catches are.

 

yeah, definitely. when that happens, it is a whole different game.

but if you are such as this young man, out to get some punani, then you will get better results if you man up and take charge.

 

you're a very smart man. you just saved yourself from a lifetime of disappointment :cheers:

 

Yes, but if you go to a (teenage) girl with some talk like "I really wanna be with you. Now or never." type thing then it creeps them out.

Maybe I just enjoyed that unsure teasing type game. I don't know.

I hope so. No sarcasm there?

 

Maybe its not what you say, but how you make eye contact, how you retain some element of mystery around yourself, the vibe you can create between you and her....how you seem to be fun to be around but you are not there begging her to do something with you.

appearing desperate doesn't seem to do any good...or too dramatic like the quote you wrote above.

 

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i'd laugh my ass off if anyone said that to me.

 

i'm a sarcastic fuck normally, but here i'm being completely honest

 

See?

Oh, cool.

 

that would just be so funny. especially with your sweet little babyface.

 

Gee, thanks.

 

At 17 I had my first and only "let's just be friends" experience. But even then we still messed around.


It was a very painful experience.

I think lode and seamonster have good advice here.

I would also ask what your body language is around them and whether you're flirting. If you're just "nice" and no flirt, no slight touching occasionally, etc. women will just put you in the friends column, usually.

Generally, after 3 hours after knowing them, if you haven't made your interest explicitly known through body language or a bold move, you're fucked.

Or rather, not fucked.

 

im sure she meant it in the nicest possible way

 

well, yeah.

 

One last thing: being "friends" with a girl to get in her pants is dishonest.


I would also stay away from making general rationalizations about pretty girls. Save yourself the resentment and cut that habit in the nub while still young.

Let girls do what they do. They are different from us, sex entails more risk for them, etc.

Just worry about your own MO.

 

Well, yes, such friendships are not very pleasant...

 

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