I bet that their is someone somewhere in this world who has a fetish for licking the cat. LMAO. Until reading posts on HF, I always thought that cream pies were only available from the bakers shop. LOL.
Back to the OP.... some women do not get off that well orally. My wife's clit is too sensitive, and her outer walls are not very sensitive..the best way for her to climax is rubbing near the clit, so the contact is residual. And that is difficult to do with your tongue. She likes it much better if I rub that "just right" area with my hand...but she always takes over and finishes it herself.
I think it’s my mind that wanders to much because I have to lay there and can’t move much. I need to stay focused, or maybe he just bores me. I just don’t know. Lol
Do you bedroom role play? I advise role-playing to fix most if not all bedroom problems. Once sex become habitual it slowly just manifests itself into something you do, which lots of examples end up being a "boring sex life but it used to be so good!" you need to spice it all up, once you're both portraying another character, feel it, own it and feel embarrassed and get better at it, get confident. It'll improve both your sex life and social anxiety too. Once you can get into the moment of that's not your partner down there but someone else, whatever role it is, lose yourself in the moment. This should distract a wandering mind back to the main game. Don't worry, I have a wandering mind too. If I'm trying to evade an orgasm I'll think of something real weird and often lose myself in that thought path, mind you I'm stoned a lot too.
We haven’t really role played except for a couple times when I pretended I was a stripper and gave him a lap dance. He doesn’t seem the type to roleplay much, but your right, it needs spicing up!
He should stick his finger in your butt while he's eating you out, Candy. THEN....you will remain focused