I Gave Him A Book On Sex Now I Need Advice

I've been with my boyfriend about 6 months he's 48 and I'm 39, the last few months I have felt my sexual satisfaction has been neglected massively

Oral sex for me is rare and when he uses his hand he's in the wrong place or far too rough

I've tried guiding his hand with mine but that doesn't work and after initially trying verbal directions he said that puts him off

I'm also trying not to hurt his feelings, if I manoeuvre into. 69 position I feel like I'm forcing myself on him

End result - I rarely cum and feel frustrated, which he rarely notices

I told him how much I love oral sex, even described it being like Xmas, so we gave it a go that night but he choked on a hair (despite my being properly trimmed) and made a mad dash to the bathroom choking and spluttering

Few weeks ago out of the blue he apologised for neglecting me in that area and suggested oral which turned out great
But nothing since

So after another disastrous session I texted him saying I was feeling so frustrated and disappointed sexually I was emailing him a book. "She comes first"

He didn't respond to the message at all

Simply sent me a text the next morning asking how my night went and my plans for that day

I asked had he learnt anything new and he responded that he got the idea but didn't bother to read the book

So I finished with him

He then told me how offended and angry he was that I sent him that book

After a lot of texting which wasn't all pleasant he now seems willing to read the book, but I'm left confused as to his reaction, and why at 48 he doesn't understand the concept of taking care of my pleasure

Please help

 

He has his way, you have yours, if you can't meet in the middle, then what's the point?

 

Your tiger is not going to change his stripes. Its time to head back out into the jungle.

 

Sounds like he's not into what your into. Time to go fishing.

 

Sounds like you need to have an actual conversation instead of texting

 

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Some people are just not compatible. I've had a few short term relationships like that, some things are just not meant to be.
At 48 I doubt he would or could change. He's probably offended and angry because he thinks you assaulted his manliness and not looking at it like you are just trying to help him understand what you like or need. If a hair sent him running to the bathroom gagging it sounds like he doesn't like oral.

IMO, you made the right decision, time to move on. Who needs that BS.
You sound more like the kind of woman I would get along with just fine since I love oral sex and really enjoy making my partner cum with my mouth.

 

Have to agree with Tom2756.

I thoroughly enjoy the pleasure that a woman receives from oral, and languish in the sensual pleasure of taste, texture and smell of feminine arousal....

IMHO, the greatest honour a woman can give a man is to allow him to enter her....if he cannot show his appreciation by orally enjoying the pleasure presented to him, he has a problem NOT you!!!!!!

 

I agree with every other post on here; it's time to move on and find somebody who you sexually compatible with, amongst other things.

If my lady sent me a book like that, I'd be very turned on and only too happy to try out new things with her!

 

Dump the selfish bastard!!!