All I have to say is: It's *your* hair just do what you want with it you got privs like that But it sounds like you want to grow it but you're not liking the look of it. Everybody's hair is different, but for me, my hair will frizz if i brush it when it's dry, so I only brush it when it's wet Running my fingers through my hair gets rid of the "combed in place" look I've always thought it looked good when guys do the half ponytail when their hair isn't long enough for a full one I used to put my bf's hair up in a half for work when he was growing it out You could try products too, something light to just kinda hold it together I dunno... just get comfortable with it if you want to keep it