I Feel Like My Life Is Spiraling Out Of Control

Some big, life-changing shit is happening to me right now, and I'm just so scared and anxious. I feel like I don't have the strength to deal with life. And I feel like no one is willing to help me. I'm all alone and completely helpless. I'm so overwhelmed, I can't stand it anymore. I just want someone to comfort me, I need something to give me courage and confidence that I'll be able to handle whatever happens to me. I'm so terrified. :'(

 

I am genuinely sorry that you feel this way. I hope you keep trying.

As for encouragement all I can tell you is this:
I obviously don't know you, so I can't say that you are strong enough to persevere in the face of whatever you are dealing with. But I can tell you that I felt so out of control and hopeless at one point in my life that I did not think I would be alive much longer. I did not want to die, I just could not picture my life continuing. I could not even imagine a fantasy where my life was good. I wanted to fall asleep and never wake up. But somehow I managed to keep going and keep trying. It worked out and things are pretty good now. One thing you could take from this is that sometimes you need to make a leap of faith. Even if you can't imagine things getting better, or even if you can't imagine yourself succeeding just decide to keep trying and tell yourself that it is ok even if you can't feel it right now. The other thing I like to tell myself when I feel helpless is that only action will make things better. You can't let anxiety and helplessness prevent you from trying.

Also therapy definitely helps. If that is an option for you definitely try it. I thought about going to a therapist for 10 years and never did it because I was afraid that the therapist would think I was a freak, and I was afraid they would want to give me drugs. Well when I finally went the first thing she said was that she wanted to try everything she could to help me without medication. You can sometimes find free therapy through a church, or if you are a university student there might be options open to you.

Keep trying.

 

^ inspiring post Emanresu. Glad that things worked out for you!

 

Can you give some more details about what is going on?

Things can probably get better for you if you can connect to the help that you need.

I recommend that you try calling 211 or visiting 211.org to see if you can connect to some services in your area.

Getting therapy would probably be a good idea.

I think that you mentioned having a disability of some kind. There may be vocational rehabilitation services or other disability services in your area that you may find useful.

Hope that things can get better soon!

 

This comes across as a summarized version of your last thread; albeit reworded but nonetheless relative.

http://www.hipforums.com/forum/topic/474631-chasing-the-elusive-fleeting-mental-state-called-happiness/

 

Below is a reply of VG's to the thread that you are referencing. I believe most of what Vanilla says, but I feel that even programmed ways of thinking can be built upon, if not changed.

Anything can be worked with. Anything can be added on to. It just takes time to figure it out sometimes.

 

Not true. I was depressed and psychotic for years. Now stable and happy.

 

We're here as your sounding boards anyway. Which is about as much as we could be - suggestions and advice only having so much use.