I am an American who grew up in Haiti, went to college in Kentucky, then lived mostly in Colorado (4 years, 1979- 1983. Both my children were born there), Iowa (3 years), and Kentucky (24 years). I taught literature and writing in two Kentucky universities and one semester in Hermosillo, Mexico, in 2001. I have been teaching in Thailand since 2010 and in southern Thailand by the ocean since 2012. I probably don't belong on this forum, but not sure where I belong. I am attracted to females, but I'm not a strictly lesbian since I am partially trans, bigender, gender fluid, bisexual, heterosexual, asexual, and happily single at the moment, but there are aspects of me that fit all those descriptions. I suppose I'm like more people than will admit to it, but I've read that each group only accepts people exactly like them. Oh, well. I love the islands and beaches in southern Thailand-every day I'm riding my motorbike, climbing some mountain or wading in a swamp, or out on an island photographing birds. Buddhist Thailanders don't care what orientation or gender identity people express, so it's great here. Here's a link to few photos I've taken around Thailand https://picasaweb.google.com/rachelbro3/ScenesAroundThailandNakhon#slideshow/5915847078265942562
Thank you, Tazer-69! I don't know where it's ok to hang, but I want somewhere I can express myself without upsetting someone. For instance, that Thailand is filled with the most beautiful women in the world, pretty males also..eye candy everywhere. But I have to be very cautious since many/most people here seem bisexual, are aware of when they are being checked out. I'm technically asexual since my evenly distributed gender traits cancel each other out, and I never imagine anything beyond a kiss, but my body reacts to beautiful women..then it shuts down.
Tazer couldn't have said it better. Welcome and don't worry so much birdpics, we all have different ways here, and don't judge each others lifestyles. It's a pleasure to know you.
I have always lived as a straight woman, although I admired men because I wanted to be like them, and thought women mysterious, beautiful creatures I should protect. The men I married were my buddies and pals-people I hung with whose feelings I didn't want to hurt when they begged me to marry them long enough. Now, at 61, I live as a happy single in southern Thailand, teaching and doing my hobbies but I am strongly attracted to women, when in my "male mode" which is often. They are SOOO beautiful, but they can make me do anything, spend anything, use me and discard me (as I have done all my life with males) so I am cautious, keep my distance. Luckily, a large percentage of Thai women seem very bi-inclined (or at least are sympathetic) and have mercy on me when they notice me sneak admiring glances. They are more inclined to be playful with me, tickling, hugging, holding my hand, but since I don't want to lead anyone on, I behave passively, letting them initiate anything, and just laugh and treat it all as fun while feeling weak with gratitude. I think women who strip, pole dance, Lady Gaga and other free-spirited entertainers are angels of mercy for us poor mortals who worship them. I suppress any open interest because a couple of co-workers at a different school decided they "owned" me, then punished me by trying to get me fired when I didn't follow up romantically. Yet I also worship my last ex-spouse, because he also would strip dance for me and let us switch roles, even dressed in a female body sock for my entertainment. He is bi also. But also dangerously controlling and jealous, so I can't be with him. Too bad. I would rent him by the hour if I could get away with it, and the more the merrier.
