I live with my boyfriend of six months, and our relationship is really great, fun, and comfortable. He has intense sexual needs and has labeled himself a sex addict, says he can't go more than 2 days without getting himself off and that he's never gone more than a month with sex in his entire life. I have a pretty good sexual appetite myself, plus it adds to our chemistry that he is dominant and I like to be dominated. He also told me that he prefers me to be the one to initiate things at any given time. Fine, ok, I like to be seduced too, but if that's the way he wants it. So last night even though it was late and we were both sleepy I had still wanted him ALL day long, so I started touching him and his body responded in all the usual ways, including the moans that say, Keep going. Well have you ever been partway through and you just know that your partner isn't as into it as you are- I told him that we could just chill if he was tired, I never want to MAKE him have sex, for Petes sake, I enjoy it most when I know he's enjoying it too- but he kept going, and it then, woot woot, it got even hotter. I gave him oral, and enthusiastic anal; I was writhing from wanting him- and he obliged, he gave it to me so good I was screaming. But then he eventually just... Quit. We'd been going 30-40 minutes total, including me stroking him for about 15 minutes getting him rock hard while we were watching a movie. He never orgasmed, he just....petered out. Same thing happened last week while I was giving him a blow job. He eventually just stopped me. I guess -it happens? but im self conscious and feel terrible this morning . I did every hot thing I feel a woman can do for her man in the bedroom and he still couldn't get off. Was it me?? Was I too aggressive and it turned him off? Or please reassure me, Do men just get too tired to finish, even ones who claim they need to get off almost every day? I feel awful today. It was really hot for me last night but I feel like he must be so disappointed.
talk with him, not with us. the issue is within him and between you two. only he can tell you why he's having difficulties orgasming . . . it could be tons of things . . . most likely stress about something.
Men do indeed get too tired to finish. As do women. It's life. And honestly, as much as we get into "making" a partner come, an orgasm is always the responsibility of the individual who is orgasming, or wanting to do so.
It happens. You're probably more worried about it than he is. Sometimes you don't finish.... that's life. And it doesn't mean the sex wasn't good, or that you're all hung up on it.
Dude must be lame, im going to finish what we started. However on a serious note have a talk with him and see where the problem is... let us know how it goes!
