I completely screwed up my first time.

I don't think my age matters tbh, I'm kinda offended that it keeps getting brought up. I'm 16 soon, which is the legal age here in the UK. I know that doesn't really count for much but I have a fair deal of life experience and common sense to keep me out of danger.

I want to have sex with this guy, and I'm pretty sure that if he was a rapist or just horrible and sadistic in general, he would've just carried on when I asked him to take it out. I know that the situation could go in the complete opposite direction when we're on our trip, but I doubt it. He's actually a really nice guy. He took me shopping yesterday, and he's since apologised for rushing us into sex. I suggested we could just do other stuff and he said I don't even have to do that if I don't want to... Which I do, but it's pretty good of him to consider it and not think less of me if I'd not wanted to.

Thanks for the help guys, I'll let you all know when I get back so you know I'm not lying in a ditch or something

 

You Sound Very Mature, Enjoy Your Time Together, And Give Us An

Update When You Get Back Home....



Cheers Glen.

 

OK, fair enuf - and the pic looks less threatening with the new info u've provided.

However, pls write ur password down for a trusted friend to access here in case u r lying in a ditch or something.

Srsly, I would suggest everyone do that. I have a friend on MySpace that we all knew was going into surgery. He nearly died and we were kept informed by his sister who logged onto his account.

(As one of QueerPoet's friends here, wish I knew how he was doing)

 

Okay... so you're 15 (almost 16), you go to gay clubs, you do ket, and you want to go to a cabin in the woods so some older guy you met can take your virginity?

No offense, but I don't think you sound very mature at all.

But to tell you the truth, there's probably no real reason why I or anyone else should even care what you do with yourself. I think if anyone actually did care about everyone who was murdered or raped or whatever it would just be exhausting. Also, most people in this world aren't necessarily out to get you.

But I do think that the fact that this guy would take a 15 year old home in the first place kind of raises some questions...

 

wow..great way to die young

trying to remember myself at 15...all I remember is going to school and then to work..saving up for car insurance when I turned 16:coffee:

 

Hmm, could be a nice guy or typical pedophile ploy to gain your trust and get you to let your guard down.

 

Yeah, I thought like that when I was 15 as well. I thought I knew to assess situations as good as anybody, no matter their age. Now I know I didn't know shit. I also know bringing up the age argument with younger people is pointless. You won't know whether it's true or not until you're older yourself. So I'm not going into that.

I however want you to understand that the fact he pulled out and stopped the first time is not in any way indicative of his good intentions. Neither is his good behavior and apologies whatever. A lot of people who are out to do harm go at great lengths to look like good guys, precisely in order to get their victim to trust them and free them of suspicion. If he's good at it he'll look genuine and you won't know the difference.

I'm not saying he's a rapist or whatever, he really might be a good guy. All I'm saying is just to be prepared when you do go with him. It doesn't hurt you to do that.

And yes, let us know you're back in one piece.

 

Your age is very relevant at least in regards to the fact that this guy having sex with you or even discussing it is considered a FELONY in most of the free world.
The proper term is PEDOPHILE regardless of how nice the guy is, he's still a pedophile.

 

I think ass sex is illegal in lots of places too

 

this is not an argument since legislation against sodomy stems from people's ignorance, personal taste and religion. it's the same if vegetarians criminalized eating meat. you wouldn't work that in as an argument if we had a situation like that.
legislation penalizing having sex with underage individuals stems from the attempt to protect them where needed, since older people clearly have an advantage over them in matters of sex.

 

Okay guys what? I didn't say a "cabin in the woods", it's a house by the beach, with loads of other houses around it, lots of people, etc etc. I think this is getting blown a bit out of proportion...

He's not a rapist, he's as good a friend to me now as any - I went out with him today, and yesterday day, and yesterday night... He seems to really like me. And he hasn't tried anything sexual on since, we've just been kissing a lot. I also met some of his friends, and they know that we're going away on monday, and I picked up through their conversation that the whole "friend dropping out last minute" scenario isn't just a story he's telling me, it's true... He seems pretty admired, all his friends make him out to be a really nice guy, and all his friends are really nice too.

And to be honest you guys, I haven't told him I'm 15. Which I know is stupid because he's unknowingly committing statutory rape, but I'm not entirely sure how to tell him. I don't know how old he is, either. All he's said about it is "you're so young, so young", blahblahblah, but he hasn't actually asked my age. Tbh I think he assumes I'm 18 seeing as I met him in a club. I'm obviously gonna tell him eventually, I'm just scared of scaring him off or something I guess

I really like him and I know he likes me too, please stop getting worked up over this, it'll be fine Thanks

 

wow..great way to start a relationship...with lies..and deception...

serves him right anyways for not checking your age

 

Lol. At least I'm almost legal... Not like I'm 12 or something.

 

yeah at 15 i had a head full of shit.
i'm sure everyone here, can tell you they had shit for brains too at 15.

hummmm, you must really be 15 after all. you sure do sound like, you have teenage shit for brains syndrome.
if you live long enough you'll out grow it. i, and everyone else here did.

have fun at the seashore... while you can.
my hunch is, if this guy is some kind of human monster. your body won't wind up in a gully. he will just waight you down and dump your body out in the ocean with all his other victims.

 

Aggh! Well, whatever. You don't want to hear it, anyway. He might just be a normal guy... but if he's saying 'you're so young, so young', he probably has at least some idea of how old you are.

But if you were my kid and I found out about this, I would be really really really worried about you.

 

WOW, you really are naive aren't you.
You know this person for what, a week maybe and he's your BFF now?
Itroduced you to all his friends? Maybe he was just showing them the tasty morsel he found and when you get to the house you find yourself the center of a gang rape. IT HAPPENS! DON'T FOOL YOURSELF!

You haven't told him your age yet? Well how is this for a scenario, you go with him everything is great. You have wonderful sex and all is good and comfy so you decide to tell him your little age "secret". then he flies into a rage because your withholding that information just caused him to commit various felonies unknowingly and he BEATS THE LIVING SHIT OUT OF YOU BEYOND ALL RECOGNITION! That has happened also.

Coby, wise up, and at least be mature enough to understand that all these "negative" comments are made with your safety and well being in mind.

 

If he were my kid and I found out, it would be kid locked in the closet and load the shotgun and grab the baseball bat time!

 

Errr guys, lol, seriously this is getting a little ridiculous? I know all about stranger danger, rapists and stuff, acts they put on, lies they tell, how manipulative they can be and completely normal they can seem before they're tying you to a bed and dumping your body down the bottom of a well etc.

I am being careful, I'm not just gonna pile myself into a car and drive away for 8 days to the other side of the country with someone I've only known for 2-3 months and only met a couple of times =P

He's coming to stay at my place tonight so that we can leave early tomorrow morning, he said he wants to come over to meet my family and make sure everything's cool with them before we go off (which it is anyway, but I'm not sure if he knows that I don't live with my parents). I'm gonna ask him if he actually has any idea how old I am when he gets here, and see what happens. He could either be totally fine with it, or completely disgusted and pissed off. Surely he must have an idea of my age, anyway... And he's obviously not gonna BEAT THE LIVING SHIT OUT OF ME BEYOND ALL RECOGNITION! whilst my brothers are in the next room

It's all good though, honestly, you guys don't have to put the fear into me, I'm gonna be cautious enough.

 

lmfao

 

hummmmmmm... now, where in the hell have i heard all this before?
OH, I REMEMBER NOW!
it was what i said to my friends when i was 17 years old. i ment a new girl named pam. knew her 4 months. i was going camping with her at a park, where there were a lot of other people.
three of my friends and i, were at a concert, and we ran into her and a group of her friends.
after we parted our ways, my friends told me they were scared shitless by the vibes they picked up about her and her friends.
of course my friends were all full of shit.
no, they were not... i was the one full of shit.
nothing is so sad and sorry as a love and sex crazed teenager.
yeah, i went camping with her. that first night her friends "just happend to be camping at the park too." at around 2:00am i was deep, deep, in sleep, after a night of smoking loco weed and fucking.:sifone:
i never fully woke up.... i got the living shit beaten out of me, lost my wallet, almost all the stuff i brought along camping and, they took off with my brother's car too. after awhile, i picked myself up off the ground, and stumbled along the road, the park ranger was making his rounds and found me.
i spent three days in the hospitial and, about a week at home recovering from the beating.:sad:
yeah, my parents were quite pissed off at me. both of my parents and my sister were soooooooo far, far, far, more pissed off at themselves for being taken in by pams' charm.
a teenage fool can be forgiven blindess, denial and, stupidity.
my parents kicked themselves for living up to the saying: "there is no fool, like an old fool."
even people who have lived long enough too gain insight with this kind of shit, CAN STILL BE TAKEN IN!


i got off very, very, very, lucky from that experence! i just got the living shit beatend out of me. i did not wind up crippled for life or, dead!

yeah, yeah, yeah, i know. your case is different from mine. you know what is going down. i was sure i knew what was going down too. your family will most likely love this guy to no end. my family love pam to no end.
i have had to work, with one hell of a lot of young people and their familes who, have gone through an experence like mine.
it happens far, far, more often then you think it does.

your 15 years old. you have had all the danger shit drummed into you for years. so did i at 17.
you know enough, about the ways of the world on this type matter. so did i at 17.
you can keep your wits well enough about to protect youself. so did i at 17.
no one really understands what is going down in your relationship with this other person. that's what i thought too at 17.
your not going to listen to what i or, anyone else here says. take what we say to heart and, weigh it out. i did not at 17 either.


well good luck to you. i pray you can prove us wrong in what we have said. i hope and pray, that i'll be hearing back from you, at the the end of your holiday.