I can't get horny..

I think most men around forty are generally attracted to younger women, so you probably won't have any trouble finding guys that age that are interested in you.

I suppose it would be easy enough to find bars frequented by men this age. And in particular I'm sure that there are trucker bars around.

While you could likely find lots of guys locally, places like Alaska (and I suppose some provinces of Canada) have an abundance of single, hardworking, big, rugged men about that age.

So not all of these guys are going to be good looking, lean/fit, intelligent, nice, emotionally open, intersted in having kids, willing to commit, good in bed, etc. But there should be such an abundance of single men in your general interest area that you should be able to find one to your liking.

If you do take such a field trip, be prepared to fend off the stampeed. A young, beautiful, sexy girl like yourself interested in older guys would be like a piece of fresh meat thrown to a pack of howling, hungry wolves. If you are really looking for the one, it would be worthwhile to take your time.

As far as the trucker things goes, be forwarned that long distance truckers aren't home very often. My guess is that many are not faithful while they are on the road.

Also, looking at your posts, it seems you have a very strong longing at the moment. When you have a very strong impression of the particular type that you are looking for, there is a danger that you project qualities onto your lover that they do not posess. Be careful, many hearts are broken this way.

You may also find that what you want changes over time, or that someone completely out of this type description grows on you.

In any case, I hope this helps. May you find the man of your dreams and the love of your life.

 

. . .or you may find that your true love is not a human at all, but rather a middle-aged weed-smoking squirrel prone to making sarcastic, largely irrelevant comments. The kind of guy who could provide an endless supply of accorns for your half-human, half-rodent off spring.

 

A lot of people just find themselves attracted to older people (or younger people) without it having anything to do with any psychobullcrap. It's just a sexual preference like any other. Might be the physical, might be that the younger person has a mature mind and is seeking a connection on their level, or the older person is less mature, or it may be just one of those things.

Physically and emtionally I don't usually find people my age or younger attractive (possibly due to growing up with my brother and his awful friends over drinking beer and shouting a lot all the time-naturally I realise this isn't how all younger men are) although there has been the odd exception in the case of mature, calm and aware young guys. Then again I've never wanted a stupidly large age gap. Anywhere from my age plus 15 years is fine for me. Obviously when I was very young the allowance was much less, but I still favoured slightly older guys.

Still, not being able to get horny at all unless you think about someone imaginary may indicate you need a new playmate...

Is the beard just a maturity thing or do you generally like beards?

 

How could you possibly know that until they are actually taking care of a family?