I Can't Cum From Handjob,blowjobs Or Sex...only By Masturbating! Please Help Me!

I can't cum from handjob,blowjobs or sex...Only by masturbating! Please help me!

Since 16 years old I got in to this weird masturbating technique where i use my thumb in the center of my penis and rub it really hard to cum,I am now 23 years old and can't cum from anything but by my weird masturbating thumb way. I don't know what to do...I can't even cum from shagging a pillow or anything,Doesn't matter what it is doesn't feel anyway good only when i do it that thumb way.

Please give me advice as I have a girlfriend and shes upset she cant make me cum,and the only i can is by doing it the weird technique way.

Thanks for your time!!!

 

can most people cum from shagging a pillow?

 

How about a frying pan?

 

or a manatee?

 

Fuck her for a couple hours straight without cumming. She'll get over it.

 

He signs up with the username ICantCum

Sounds long term to me

 

Seems you just found the best way, for yourself, to cum. Nothing will not stand up (no pun) to your technique. You psychologically are convinced in your way and that's it.

It is quite possible that you concentrate on "your way" while having sex with your GF.

My advice, next time you have sex with your GF, mentally concentrate all your energy on your member. I mean imaging you are your member, going in and out and feel the sensation in your mind. If you feel yourself getting discourage during the deed just relax, clear your mind and continue on.This may sound Pseudo like but give it a try.

 

I only get off from missionary. Well, once when I was in a weird position on top and she was on her belly. I was on san pedro then and that's fun!

 

I can

 

i don't believe this one bit

 

teach her how to do it!

 

Get rid of the GF. Masturbation is cheaper.

 

I had the same problem. You need to stop pleasuring yourself and retrain your body to climax from other sources of simulation. It can take a long time but it works. It's mental; you need to learn to let go with her.

 

You should be happy that you can extend it...just extend it to where she cums for sure. I almost wish I had this problem. My main aim is always to extend as far as possible before the eruption.

 

Get your gf right, advise this is a problem and the only person who you think has any chance of helping is her cause she turns you on more than any other girl etc,

Refrain from masturbation non stop tell her your doing this if you have sex and don't cum this is why. Keep having sex eventually you will.
Make sure she understands why your doing it and imagine if she was the first girl to help you cum how she would feel.

I hade the same problem with blowjobs my girl couldn't make me cum and it upset her. I said I wouldn't masterbate or have sex and everyday she gave me a blow job without cummin 7 days later ... Winning. She felt good to.

It's 80% mental because good news is you can cum! it's just discipline, patients and practice once you do it once you will find mental pressure is less and it will get easier. Good luck

 

I love these people who post one post then are never to be seen again. He hasn't been on here since he posted. I guess he could be on an around the world vacation.

 

Or he figured it out and no longer needs the help...

 

I hate to say this, but you should masturbate less. Pornography is also a huge deterrent to libido. Go cold turkey on both for at least two weeks. It'll be tough, but you can do it.
When you start back up again, do not do that thumb thing. lol Do it in a more "normal" way. Long strokes. Keep doing that, and really focus hard (haha) on the physical sensation it gives you. Imagine you are literally wrapping your mind around your dick lol! I'm being serious. Focusing everything I have on my vag while I'm with my boyfriend is how I get my joys. lol If you just kind of stress the whole time you're fuckin, of course you're not gonna cum.

Relax. Breathe. Let go. Focus on that dick. lol Think about how your flesh feels when you put pressure to it. Really immerse yourself in the sensation. You'll figure it out.

If all else fails, teach her to do the thumb thing! Haha! And drill it into her skull that it is not her fault you can't climax. Explain it to her. She is totally going to assume it's her fault; she isn't pretty, she isn't active enough in the sex, her pussy's too loose, etc. etc. Do not let her believe these things because I promise it will put her off the idea of being intimate altogether.

Good luck, if you ever even come back to the forums! lol

 

You need to reassociate your body with "normal" sexual behavior to reach climax.
Avoid using that hand position, and even sititng/laying in the position you typically would when using that masturbatory technique.

Exposure therapy of "normal" behaviors both solo and with your partner that result in stimulous of the libido (if actually reaching orgasm doesnt happen immediately dont be surprised, or give up) with the positive reinforcer of giving yourself a treat after successfully getting aroused in full using "standard" sexual practices, or if you can identify your partners enjoyment of having a more typical session as a reward for successfully being conventional during play over time your nueroprocessors will learn to correlate stimuli other than your thumb technique with arousal and orgasm.
Masturbating or repeating any scope of methods/positions in excess can often trick the brain into believing that only under those conditions should it acheive orgasm, so its best to be constantly changing how you do things.