I broke up with my bf

Have a little class. It's not -fuck you. It's fuck you, please.

 

I know that kokujin has already been banned, but he made a harassing post which should come down. I've reported it already.

Totally uncalled for.

 

I think the ability to see when you are at fault in a relationship is a sign of maturity. Good for you.

Faelixx could be right about your rationalizing though. We can't really asses the validity of your interpretation unless you give us the details.

He's probably hurt by the fact that you were the one that initiated the breakup. Whatever problems you were having are also probably fresh in his mind.

I bet he will probably want to get back together sooner or later. If you admit fault, apologize for things that you did wrong, and fix the problem, you will also have a stronger, better relationship.

No matter what, you are going to have a better understanding of yourself now and a better ability to make relationships work.

Hope that things can get better soon!

 

I'm not saying he was perfect or anything, just that the main problem (or problems) was my fault. And it's impossible to asses the validity of my interpretation, but I'll give you some more details.

The short story is that I had ridiculous expectations from him (of him?). Because of that he had to do a lot of things for me not because he wanted to, but because I would get mad if he didn't, which is crazy... And because of this, we had a lot of fights. It got increasingly bad, because I really thought he wasn't doing enough and I was angry all the time. It wasn't until we broke up that I realized that I wasn't mad anymore, because he didn't 'owe' me anything anymore, so I had no expectations. Then I saw how ridiculous my expectations were, and I have no idea how he put up with that horrible version of me all this time. He just gave and got nothing back from me...

So I can't really regret breaking up with him, because I'm sure I wouldn't have realized all of this and it would have gotten worse, to the point of a horrible break up. It was a shock for me to realize how I had become, because I've never been like this before. Some of my friends suggested that maybe something in his attitude made me respond this way, and that maybe we were simply incompatible. But how can I know this if we don't try again? I think it's my fault. But if we try again, and I go back to being a normal person (haha) and it still doesn't work, than yeah, I guess we will know that we are incompatible.

I already apologized for all of this, and he understood that I really got it. I also thanked him for all the good times we had . He liked that.

Long post, sorry