I am one of those girls now

I think sumtinbuggy is a sad sad soul... must be lonely being you take a minute and just smile

 

Actually, it is quite refreshing and fun to be me! Thanks for your input though!

 

it could be ... anything is possible I suppose... but do you relize you make it seem like a cry for help?

 

I think Bugs is OK, but he needs to go flame somewhere else, please? HeadyMoeChick does need some support.

 

wow this is very grown up..

an she wonders why at 19 in todays babylon she got thumped on,,,

wonder no more...

 

who was it, your boyfriend? father? PM me of you want to talk about it, i totally know what youre going through and it sucks dick.

 

Doesn't matter. But your over zealous concern baffles me.

 

Not that this is ANY kind of concession... but yesterday was as full moon...

(Could your recent journal entries have anything to do with his actions?)

 

well i think youre dealing with it well. just please dont take him back. youre a wonderful woman who's been victimized. there are alot of men who would love to have you and would never hit you. not saying that you need a man, but you definately dont need him.

 

God bless you and peace be with you.

 

naw im not chinese but i am a 2nd degree black belt, and not strip mall shit either i learned in asia. fuck the peaceful way to handle it, this dude needs an ass beating. let him see how it feels.

 

i dont really understand hitting your girlfriend or wife.

i mean ive never really had the urge to hit anyone, seriously. i mean i ca get angry at people but why hit them? id rather humiliate them so bad that they took a swing at me so i could hit em over the head with a 2 by 4

but i wouldnt go out with someone who made me want to bash them up, unless it was sexual and mutual haha

and some of you people who are aressing the flamer.. your actually probably more immature than they are. this if an internet forum. he doesnt give a shit waht you people think hes jsut getting a kick from being an ass. you know, a larg portion of the world is like that actually. its not some psychological signalling and cry for help from a weak individual.

 

thanks for all the support you guys, I'm doing ok. I'm staying with some friends and I'm safe and doing great. I have a new life in front of me!!

And to the girl who said that maybe I should consider taking him back- WHY? to always wonder if he'll do it again?

If you like being in a relationship where once in a blue moon your man hits you, be my guest but I deserve a hell of a lot better than that! I happen to love and respect myself more.

Life is all about being happy. I can do that no matter what as long as I've positive vibes from kynd folks like you.

 

I'm sorry, but I find this misleading. There's no "understanding" to make it go away. One person is using a form of abuse to control the other. Sure, the person doing the abuse might have been provoked in some manner, but the fact that they're responding with abuse is never the others fault, even when intentionally manipulated.

 

I was sorry and outraged that he hit you. A man should never hit a women inless its self-defense. I am glad that you have a place to stay and that you are doing well. JUst know you have alot of people here that stand behind and will always have kind words for you.

*Sends you a great big hug!!!*

 

I understood what you were saying perfectly. I've done plenty of research on this and I disagree very, very strongly. Not to take away from Heady's thread, but this is a very big deal to me, having gone through it as a guy when it's usually not taken very seriously by others who miss the whole point. My ex would use a persons love for her as a weapon against them; literally. It's the way she's wired, and nobody can do anything about it but her.

You're talking about action vs. reaction, and more of understanding your partner well enough to prevent bad situations, but abuse is abuse no matter what causes it.

My ex's next boyfriend tried to kill her. Right on the side of the road. He couldn't control his temper any better than she could. Hopefully he'll go to jail. Just because she provoked him doesn't give him the all clear to pound the crap out of her until a stranger pulls over to make him stop.

 

Exactly!!!!!!!!!

 

im sorry, sweetie.

there are no "those girls" though... i love you.

 

My boyfriend hit me once. We were both drunk, I hit him first, though it was instigated, I punched him in the face and he punched me back harder. We were both so drunk, I know that we would never hurt each other intentionally. We just vowed to never drink that much again. We were both wrong, but it's fine now. I am not defending men hitting women, but even though everyone criticizes me for staying with him, I would never leave him for something I started. It sucks though, even if I hit him first, getting punched in the face fullout sucks. I have had a knot in my cheek for over a month. Live and learn. But stand up for yourself. Never let anyone push you around.

 

fuck you Micheal. I know exactly what you are trying to say. If you would take a minute out of your life and really read my journal and take a walk in my shoes, you would know that I in no way tried to "open his valve". I was trying to stop him from cutting himself. I was trying to hug him and tell him things were ok. He was upset because I asked if we could meet up later. That's it. He's fucking crazy right now and if you would read into my thoughts and experiences LIKE I HAVE ASKED YOU TO maybe you wouldn't have such a jaded opinion of me and my situation.

Look, if I ever made fun of you and it hurt, I'm sorry. People do it all the time and I think once I took it too far. Although you never told me it hurt, how was I supposed to know you were taking me seriously? If you would stop hating me for whatever reason for just a second, and look at me just as a very hurt person, I would appreciate it.

I know you get all kinds of responses on a public forum. People can only see you by what you type. But I have written my feelings in a journal and shared them with you all so that you can get to know me the best you can. If you have this opinion of me, that's fine. But you could try to get to know me a little bit more.