I am a virgin boy at the age of 25

Hello everyone, I'm a virgin boy, I'm 25 years old, kind, clean, skinny. I recently arrived in Birmingham from Europe. Maybe it's funny, it so happened that I have never had a girlfriend in my life, I don't know what the problem is, probably my timidity, I don't seem to be scary in appearance. I'm thinking of looking for my first sexual relationship on some websites, but nothing works. Maybe someone can tell me some sites for finding an intimate relationship without scammers?) Thank you)

 

as a starting point - stop calling yourself a “boy” At 25 you’ve been considered an adult for about 7 years - legally you are a “man”
Time to update the mindset. Most guys are treated as men from about 16.

Most Women aren’t looking for a boy to raise, they are looking for a man to share their time with.
Other than that forget the computer and just say hello to everyone you come in contact with - the right one is out there. It’s a matter of being open to meeting her when your paths cross.
Good luck “sir”

 

Also, HF does not allow other sites to be mentioned here. HF will not be used as free advertisement for them.

 

Same idea worded differently

 

Hello, thank you for your reply. Maybe you are right, but I don't consider a man to be a man if he is over a certain age or how many girls he has had, for me the meaning of a man is completely different) so I am still a young guy)

 

OK, sorry, didn't know that

 

Why do I sense the OP is a troll?

 

No. i'm not troll. This is true bro

 

So if you’re not a troll then hear me out…

you are right, it has nothing to do with age or notches on a headboard. It’s about maturity and taking control of your own path in life. At 25 you should be well along that road.

You may not have it all figured out and that is fine, some of us are still sorting out the finer points - post 60 - but you should at least be certain your balls have dropped.

Neither of my posts are meant to be insulting or condescending, they are to say it’s up to you to take control of who you are and who you want to be. There is no App for that!

We need to cut the cord and stand on our own. If at 25 you think of yourself as the timid wee boy just peeking out from the nest, ya best giddy-up, life is passing you by. You are approaching a third of the way through the average human life cycle, and essentially in your prime physically….

Look in the mirror take stock of who you are and get on with it. There’s a good chance you ain’t gettin’ any prettier… so act now!

 

Good advices

 

Also importantly, and stating to you that I am saying the next thing without negativism or pessimism of any type: expect rejection, it will happen. No one fits everyone’s tastes and wanting and liking someone is not always reciprocated.
My problem there, some might say NO playing hard to get, some simply mean the NO, I would not know how to decipher that and I have no advice to that. Except not to get pushy and aggressive, hostile.

Get out there and expose yourself to life and activities you enjoy, or try some. Don’t do something you don’t like because you like someone in an activity or a group
If you do, you may say you like her and would like to see her more even though the activity is not what you expected and you will look for another thing. Or see if you like someone else next place

That’s the best I can offer.

 

Yes I am not suggesting you “hit on “ every person you come in contact with - just acknowledge them.
We are becoming a society that stares at our feet or grabs our phone to avoid eye contact. Forget finding a partner till you find yourself. Once you know who that is you may find your partner will come find you too.

ok enough preaching from me… cheers !

 

You don't have to take YouTuber Wheat Waffles (MBTI: ISTJ) too seriously, he's just an introverted, red-headed and pessimistic Black Piller who takes his rather random views too seriously. But it doesn't hurt to know the relevant terminology.

Online dating is particularly worthwhile for women, as there is a strong oversupply of men and many women use their profile primarily for validation.

The situation is different in the homosexual online world. It is very suitable for someone young, shy and passive. As Jane Ward aptly writes in her book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men (2015):

“As first elaborated by Freud in three essays on the theory of sexuality, nature may provide human infants with sexual desire. If this desire takes form as polymorphous capacity to experience pleasure in response to a broad range of stimuli, including an array of one’s own bodily functions, as well as various modes of contact with objects, animals, and humans of all types, it is only through disciplined conformity to societal norms, typically directed by parents that young children's sexual impulses are redirected toward a sanctioned and most often singular object of desire, most often a person of the opposite sex.”

You shouldn’t be too fixated on vaginas and explore the diversity of the sexual world in a relaxed way, as long as you are not too ossified. Men have the advantage that they can easily separate sex and relationship, and they can therefore explore both separately, which will help you get to your first vagina faster.

It is important to know that women attach great importance to confidence, a code word for dominance. The man should definitely be able to dominate the environment in which the woman can then live comfortably, but he should only dominate the woman insofar as this does not stand in the way of her wishes. A complicated matter.

Incidentally, assertiveness is a facet of extraversion, which is why it is not so easy for introverts, but also more feminine men (MBTI: F types), to demonstrate assertiveness. By the way, feminine men like to mate with masculine women – just think of Mr and Mrs Obama.

Since women demand confidence, it is fundamentally wrong to ingratiate yourself with them as an eager service provider who is always at their disposal, ready to validate whatever they say or do.

Women like to mate with men who occupy a prominent position in public, they admire high social status. In order to have an optimal choice of women, you should endeavour to occupy a position in society that also convinces your girlfriend’s friends.

“Recent large-scale cross-cultural studies have found that single women do indeed prefer men exhibiting traits such as wealth, generosity, intellect, dominance, cultivation, sociability, reliability, similarity, kindness, understanding, humorousness, and pleasantness as potential long-term or marriage partners.” (James Malcolm Howie and Andrew Pomiankowski, DOI 10.1007/978-3-319-19650-3)​

You shouldn't spend money on love, it's always free. Men want to exchange sex for sex, women want to exchange sex for sex + x (money, benefit or a relationship with sexual exclusivity). You should make sure that you don't have to pay for sex for years on end, as happens to some naive men.

“Women are never satisfied with what they have. More! is their motto. They fall in love, they want to get laid; you screw them, they want to live with you; concubines, they want you to marry them; married, they want a child; as mothers, they dream of a lover. The fate of the woman is permanent dissatisfaction.” – Gabriel Matzneff about the female relationship escalator​

A practical tip: many young men have already died in the Russian-Ukrainian war. As the country is too conservative to introduce polygamy, foreign men are welcome. There are also many young Ukrainian refugees abroad who need a boyfriend.

And finally, make sure that your home is so attractive that women love to stay overnight, and that the fridge is not empty the next morning.