My husband likes to flirt with other woman when traveling. He says it never leads to sex and knows the limits but I am worried anyway. I don't think mind him kissing or giving oral sex to other another woman but I can't get around the idea of him having sex with someone else. I was thinking of buying him a chastity device but I'm not sure how to have that discussion with him. I trust him but I'd like to set some limits that I can control. I only have sex with a female friend when he is not around and I don't feel like getting penetrated with a dildo is the same as him penetrating someone with his penis.
I would definitely consider getting him a chastity device as his needs to be 100% devoted to you. My husband doesn't have one but if I was worried about him maybe cheating, he would most definitely wear one.
what the fuck? this can't be real. "i fuck someone else when my husband is gone, but i want to lock up his penis so he can only lick pussy behind my back. i trust him and know he doesn't have sex with other women, but i need to lock that cock anyway." being physically unable to cheat is not the same as being 100% devoted. that's kind of like if i said "i keep her locked in my basement because that's the only way to make her love me."
The difference is I would never cheat on my husband. We both had the same fantasy of me being with another man, and after a lot of thought and communication, we made it a reality. My husband is a "dominant" in every other area of his life, with the exception of our sex life. He likes when I take control and get what I want.
Chastity device? No. I think the item you're looking for is in the marriage counseling aisle. And wtf....just because you're having sex on the side with a woman (presumably the same sex as you) doesn't mean it isn't cheating. You're punishing him for something he isn't doing but you are! Or are you saying you would be totally cool with him banging dudes as long as he isn't flirting with women? Because if you're not saying that...then that makes you a hypocrite and the problem is you...not him.
First of all please do not judge. My husband knows that I fool with my friend and if he is not happy with this he can divorce me anytime he wants. Second, we are trying to conceive and he has low sperm count and is unable to get it up more than once a day so if he fools around and ejaculate he has 0 chance of getting me pregnant when he comes home. We have an understanding, we are both free but since we are trying to conceive I don't want him to ejaculate unless it is inside me. I paid his surgery to allow him to get a larger and longer penis. Since I paid for his operation I expect him to satisfy me before he satisfies other womens. He needs to take viagra to last long enough and he is 26 so it is not like he has the stamina to do it multiple times. I bought him a chastity device yesterday and locked him up. He complains that one of his flirts laughed at him when she saw but that did not stop him from fucking her with a dildo so it must not have been so bad. His mouth tasted like p**** juice when he came home so I knew...
This was my exact thought when I read this. What the actual fuck? If you trust him then why lock up his junk? Some people are fucked up.
Maribou001, First of all, I'd say DON'T LISTEN TO THE HATERS. I can certainly relate to your husband's "flirtatious ways". I too am a VERY flirtatious person by nature, especially with the ladies, but also with "certain types" of men too. This has obviously annoyed my wife over the years, even though I've NEVER cheated on her. She's also made it VERY CLEAR that I masturbate WAY TOO MUCH, and that assumption is PROBABLY true, as it's a DAILY accurance (sometimes MULTIPLE times daily) which has DEFINITELY "ruined the mood" for her on MANY occasions when she REALLY WANTS/NEEDS sex. To say that irks her to no end would be a gross UNDERSTATEMENT. Like yourself, my wife likes to have a bit of CONTROL (a LOT of control actually, as she's the naturally controlling type). She's ALWAYS been the "breadwinner" between the 2 of us, and that has led to her feeling like she has POWER and CONTROL over me, which she ESSENTIALLY DOES... Even relegating me to "BETA" status when it suits her. Every other guy my wife has been with previously HAS cheated on her, and due to my naturally flirty ways (especially with women), it's something she's worried about with me too, even though I've told her I'd NEVER do that to her. Because of her past, combined with my flirty and REALLY outgoing personality, we've had MANY conversations regarding what it would take to put her mind at ease. It was ME who suggested the idea of CHASTITY (cock cage) to my wife to "correct my flaws" so to speak. after looking online, we decided to purchase 2 different CHASTITY devices, one plastic (to get used to it, as this was something completely new to both of us) and a MUCH nicer metal one. There's a LOT MORE to talk about when it comes to me being LOCKED IN CHASTITY, but that's for another time. I'd DEFINITELY be interested in giving more of my perspective if ANYONE is interested in hearing more regarding my experience with being LOCKED IN CHASTITY....
