How would you go about asking...

I wonder what might give you that impression. Have you asked your wife if she would be more open? If the answer is yes, why not take out the guy for a drink (coffe/beer), and raise the subject with him as one they can ask again.

 

Older couple now, no longer active. But yes she would consider couples, men no a couple of bad experiences, was enough for her.

 

The times that this has happened in my life were always like a natural progression. For us [my wife] the lines between friendship, affection, love, sex are very blurred [read non existent] . So for us an evening spent with friends is an opportunity to show your mutual care for all - what is the best way to show you care ???.
I have stories to share when I know you all better .

 

Aaaw ,he's so sweet isn't he [ and shy too ] So here's the story to share , don't worry darling they're good people here ,lol.

The talk came AFTER the event. We were on holiday with friends [a holiday of many firsts for me] , the experience was unplanned, fun and very exciting. Back at home Robby and I relived our adventure.
We were very surprised to discover that neither of us felt any guilt,regret, remorse. We did not consider that we had cheated on each other. We agreed that we were still "faithful" even though we had committed adultery !
Curious ,we contacted our holday couple and found that they had had a similar conversation and reached the same conclusions. Over the next few months we not only enjoyed total freedom with our friends [ more close couples came on board] we also had private "affairs", still with no regrets.
This all was the start of a beautiful lifestyle which we still practice today 40+ years later.
Nicky x

 

Each to their own thing. Personally, I feel it's very wrong and never works out.

 

My wife was a natural flirt, she could tell if the woman was into it. Most of the husbands were looking to get with my wife and have no contact with another guy. But in the heat of the moment things change.

 

Amen brother my 2nd marriage also 100 times better in every category I will NOT screw this up

 

My friend and at the time the Man I dated.
Would write a script out for the next liaison weekend. . I would confirm select what beauty treatments I needed for the Role-playing date.
His driver would take the schedule and pick me up for the appointment s. I would be handed a hotel pass key with information on property and I was pre-checked in with the room stocked and any bar equipment needed from preference sheet. The date usually was all timed out on show up to set the mood as well as the senerio of the meeting. Sometimes he was having cigars and Martinis with colleagues. I would sit at thee bar and he would strike up a conversation in passing invite me over to the table and watch his friends ogle my outfit and catch a sneak peek of a baldbever as I did the Sharron Stone basic instinct legs recross move. It was always something fresh and intriguing. Wigs , Bebe fashion Channel Heels. To a see thru costume at a LOCAL XXX bookstore boutique adult theater FOR A NITE OF SEXUAL EXPERIENCES.

 

You’ve got the touch indeed!! ;-)

 

Regarding all kinds of things about sex, one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received is to just ask for what you want. Never asking means never getting. Sometime asking makes for a problem. But many, many times, the response is positive or at least in the right direction. I was getting to know a girl once and just asked if she'd consider doing something with me. She said no. She was happily engaged BUT she pointed me towards two of her friends that she said would be open minded and one of them was available the next week.

Don't be shy.

 

Interesting.
I worked with a 'next door kind of beautiful' girl. She was married but we got along very well platonically though I picked up signals, which I asked her about. Instead of potentially pressuring her, or embarrassing her, I said I'd love to have some intimate time with her. Or words to that effect. She surprised me when she said she would really like that but she wouldn't get involved with a guy she works with. Hurt before.

A couple of hours later she caught up with me and said she'd had some thoughts. Until one of us moved workplace (that was a routine event) when we could get something going, would i be agreeable to fucking one of her friends. She was described as very friendly and did have a great body. It was her way of trying not to lose me forever, as I soon discovered.

I was introduced to the girl at an office event but, because I had the hots for my colleague, I felt that to fuck the other, whilst ok for my colleague, would just be using her friend. However the friend explained as we chatted that she knew it was temporary and what the reason behind it was and said she'd love to keep me busy.

Another friend, a nurse, she matched up a girl friend of hers, with me, because she really liked us both and thought we'd look after each other. We did.

Such maturity and pragmatism is just what I like. No messing about, no 'chase'; just deciding that we want to do it, discussing if it's mutual and then doing it. Actually, I think, it's those who instigate a 'chase', who are setting one of them up for an emotional fall, when they fall for the other who only wants the friendship and sex.

 

You make a good point. Often, I'll say "Well if you know anyone who might be interested in...." and that gets a conversation going. More than a few times, it's her that would be interested. It's always worth a try.