How would you feel...

re: LICK

*grins*

I think we took over this poor, jealous kids' thread...I ALMOST feel bad...

haha

 

haha excuse me lovebirds... tent..pot...campfire aside. Thank you for advice. You are right...i'm not the controlling type anyway, it's just things have happened in the past to make me think this way.

 

haha, yeah, we're going nowhere fast, and most of our posts are pretty pointless....oh well. he can always bitch about not liking his girlfriend in another post, too. i promise i wont post in that one

{edit: whoops, sorry you beat me to it, man!}

 

I'll post in that one enough for the both of us...

 

you saying i dont have enough post? we're finished annie!!!

 

*giggles*

You're so cute when you get mad!

 

Dude, ya gotta just move on. I was in a similar type situation with my now wife. Yeah, it bothered me that she'd fooled around with so many people. But truth be told, if I would've had the opportunity to sleep with 20, 30, 0r 100 women before I met here I would've done it. Chances are you would've done the same thing.

 

That means, 20 guys have failed where you have succeeded.

And no, I'm not being sarcastic.

 

excellent point

 

having a lot of partners in your past doesn't mean that you're a cheater. it doesn't mean she's ever cheated. if she had cheated on half of them, yeah, definitely that would be reason for concern... but that's not what it sounds like. so no, i don't see how that means she'll cheat. maybe she just went wild for a year or two. maybe she started having sex at 16, averages just over 2 guys a year, and was in a relationship with all of them, not even one night stands. you know, it's just different circumstances... but it doesn't mean she'll cheat on you. if i were to be concerned with anything, it wouldn't be that...

what would concern me about dating someone who has had more than 20 partners would be the risk of diseases, just because of statistics and the fact that a bunch of stds can be spread even when you use a condom. then again, statistically, i should have a couple nasty diseases... and i don't. so, maybe i'm just paranoid. but, i do get tested and i've had a pap in the last year... if i had a (female) partner who had 20+ partners in the past and hadn't had a pap in the last two years, i'd be concerned. so hopefully she gets regular check ups and gets tested, and if that's the case, then AWESOME!

 

well said

 

You asked the question without wanting to hear the answer? It doesn't matter, dude. Don't let it get in the way if she's worth it.

 

I think that that question is one that is really loaded, and more often than not has bad concequeses. If you're a guy, and you ask your girl how many guys she's been with, unless she's a prude, you're probably not going to like the answer. Moral: Don't ask, don't tell.

 

Ain't that the truth...