How would a transgender affect your relationship?

Given the nature of the thread, I'd say it was fair enough. Arguably anyone who said they'd break it off is intolerant and predjudiced, but then why ask, if there's only one "right" answer?

 

yeah I said more or less that, although the other views expressed shows an intolerance towards transexuals
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i love how you always refer to the guy in your signature picture. who is he anyway? I guess you have a tttttttttotally different taste than me!!! haha....to each their own I say...how old are you anyway, Andy?

 

I noticed that he's an actor he was in shawn of the dead
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I think itd be a reallllllllly hard decisionf or me to make, if the guy of my dreams wound up being a former girl. I mean, I have no problemw ith otehrs changing their sex, but in my opnion, I would never do it myself, its just too WEIRD....its so unnatural and I find it kinda creepy. I mean the people who say they feel like tehyre men born in womens bodies and vice versa, I think tehyre being just as stereotypical and closed minded and gender as otehrs....tehyre saying that in order to have the feelings they have, that they need to be a specific gender....do you get what Im saying? Let me try again: a lot of tiems trans people say they were born into the wrong gender body (a male born in a females body, vice versa.) And then the female starts feeling things for girls, and then decides shes a man born in a females body, beacuse she has these feelings for girls....and eventually goes to surgery and change to a man, just to be the gender youre supposed to be if you like women.

get it sorta?
then again, Im not trans, and Ive never been in the head of someone who is trans, so what the hell do I kno???

but bacvk to the question, I guess its something that would be determined on a casebycase basis. but I dont think id be able to continue, itd be too much of a shock. I dont think it has to do with it being "weird", but to think that the person Ive been loving the whole time was once a girl?? I dunno, its just too shocking...

 

some trans people say the sort of things you have mentioned above, others simply say they are desperatly unhappy with their body and need to change it
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meh, its just the body. as long as i find them attractivee mentally and physically, who cares how they started out? as long as theyre happy with who they are or where theyre headed, whats the problem? it wouldve been nice to know earlier on, but on the other hand i can understand why they would choose to keep that information a bit more confidential, i dont exactly live in the most liberated city in the world

 

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Delete please

 

I don't want to sound rude, but that's like asking "Why would someone not tell their friend/mother/family member that they were gay?"

It's obviously something extremely hard to tell someone because of the fear of that person's reaction. Just like coming out as being gay.

My my...I don't want to pick on you, and I do understand that this is merely your opinion, but so many of us are doing what so many homophobes do to gay people. Call them "weird" and "unnatural" when there is nothing unnatural about it. Your gender is something in your head. If you're a dude in your head, and a girl in your naughty bits, then sure, that might seem pretty weird or abnormal, but people should not be judged on it as it is not their fault that they are that way. Just the same as being gay.

To answer that - first off thanks

The dude is Nick Frost aka Sexy Pants. To each his own - I totally agree. I think that one of my problems with accepting that I was gay for a bit was the fact that I liked fat, hairy guys which I thought was..I dont know. Not normal. The media always says "this is hot, that is hot" etc etc. That it seemed so strange at first. Now I LOVE CHUBBIES and am proud to say so!!

My age eh? I'll let you guess and then I'll consider telling you. How old do you think I am?

Again, I think it is unfair to say things like this as it is something you have not experienced and do not understand. It's like a heterosexual person not ever being able to understand what it's like being gay. Do not judge these people on these descisions - they know themselves far better than you will ever and they know what is best for themselves. Calling them weird or unnatural is seriously unfair and is as bad as someone who does not understnad what being gay is like, calling homosexuality unnatural. I also think that you're getting mixed up with sex and gender. Your gender is whether you are mentally male or female. Your sex is whether you have a vagina or a penis. Just so you know.

I hope all that I wrote made sense.

 

it sounds like you have a pretty good understanding of this area Andy
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Heh I hope that wasn't a malicious comment..

I think all of us gay persons should have a good understanding of this topic and should know not to speak of things that are different as being gross, strange, freaky, unnatural or anything along those lines as I'm sure many similar insults are directed at us by people who are ignorant about homosexuality.

Why should someone who is ignorant about what it is like being transgendered (right word?) be able to post derogatory comments on the matter. How is that different to homophobia?

 

stop being so sensitive in this place you generally know when someones being malicious
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Eh, not really What's ironic is that I was just joking. Now who's being sensitive? :tongue:

Stay on topic! Hah I sound like such a mod...

 

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stop your cheek or I'll ban any talk of cubbiness :stunned:

 

!!! That would be a crime against free speech! I know you're just joking...Right?

Anyway...What do you think about what I was saying is what I meant?

 

It's not that I'm intollerant.

Physical attraction is important in a relationship. I couldn't be attracted to someone with a vagina.

 

Mushie i wasn't directing those comments to you, I don't feel that you made any comments that could be deemed intolerant of this issue apart from what you said about relationships and you where answering a thread question.
And *Andy* I think all people should try and have a good understanding about issues that face other people
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Mushie - but that person would not have a vagina and would be a man. This brings up the whole topic of Nature vs Nurture and whether someone is defined as being a man through their physical traits or mental mindset. I believe that just because someone has a dick, does not mean that they are completely male. Yes, they would be classified as being male. Their sex would be male, but their gender would be female. Confusing I hope I'm getting myp oint across

 

Kinda creepy, but If I loved them then we'd have to talk it out!