How to tell my wife to wear more revealing clothes

I & my wife are in early 40s & its always been a fanatasy for me to see my wife wearing sexy short clothes infront of other men. My wife is some what conservative & once I took her to Niagra Falls where she wear sleveless blouse but not agreed to wear anything more revealing.
When we had sex I often told her that she has a very sexy body which she should be showing & how much I feel proud when someone see her body.
So far she just take it as a joke & tell me that I am crazy. I'll apprecoiate if soemone give me some advice how to open up my wife. I can be reached at <removed. Keep it public>
Waiting for some nice suggestion
Thanks
Desperate Husband

 

You're probably in for a long, uphill battle. Conservative women (either by their upbringing, or simply by their nature) usually need a lot of coxing over a very long time before they start to relax about revealing themselves (and other sexual aspects of their lives.) In many cases, they never change. Also, sometimes, it takes some kind of a "trigger" to get them to open up.

That's what it took for my wife. She was raised in a very controlling (and verbally abusive) household. She was very uptight about sex all through our engagement and the first years of our marriage. After we'd been married about six years, I coxed her into a threesome with our best (male) friend (Steve). Once she got over her initial nervousness, she realized that 1) she liked it (a LOT), and 2) other men really did find her "hot" and sexually desirable. Once those two hurdles were cleared, she got much more comfortable with wearing revealing clothing in public. This included, but was not limited to: short skirts with no underwear; very loose vests, tank tops, halters, and sheer blouses, all without anything on underneath them. It was like heaven for Steve and I to go out with her dressed like that, as it was obvious from all of our body language that one (or both) of us guys was fucking this beautiful, half-nude young woman.

Anyway, good luck in your struggle.

 

Don't!!!!

Let her decide. It's her body, her standards. I know you love her and are proud of her, but this might be one area to just leave alone.

 

I would try verbally.

 

Two yrs ago I took her to Niagra Falls & I pick a dress which is sleveless & little bit cleavage. She wore that dress & after dinner we had a great sex. She also realized that & now sometime I told her during sex that how beautiful her body is & why she hide it.
I think she will wear but hesitant because we both belong to a conservative culture in which if you wear those kind of cloth & goes infront of someone they think that you are slut.
I need suggestion how I can build trust & convince that its ok to break that barier in our culture.

 

talk to her and tell her how wonderful her body is, but at the end of the day its up to her what she wears,

 

Sad, but usually true for all of us (men and women.) My wife is 55 (I'm 58) and, much as I would like to, I'm way past the point of pushing her to wear any more sexy/revealing clothing than she is already comfortable wearing. As one might expect for two desk-bound white-collar professionals, we are both carrying extra pounds, developing a bit of a double chin, acquiring a lot of grey in our hair (and beard, in my case), and (in her case) sagging breasts. I still see her with eyes of the past, when she was a raven-haired beauty with a perfect figure and perfect breasts. (One of these days, I really need to post a face-blurred, nude photo of her, when she was in her twenties, so people can see that I'm not exaggerating in the least!) Back when she was in her twenties, she was much more inclined to wear sexy/revealing clothing, because she had two regular sex partners (me and my best friend, Steve) who finally convinced her that she was beautiful, sexy, and easily capable of instilling lust in any straight male who got a decent look at her. At that time, she had no reluctance at all to wearing short skirts (frequently with no underwear) and/or tops that frequently revealed her breasts (either partially see-thru or cut such that one could see beneath them if she were standing just right.)

It's been my experience that when a woman feels sexy enough to wear clothing like that, she usually doesn't need much encouragement to do so.

At our age, I miss that a lot. However, I'm also realistic enough to realize that how unrealistic it is at our age. Besides, we always hold hands, hug and kiss in public, and generally make a display of ourselves worthy of a twenty-something couple. It ought to make others think one of two things. Either I wish I had a partner that loved me that much or I'm glad I DO have a partner that loves me that much!

 

In her case its not that she not in shape or have sagging belly. As a matter of fact she was skinny when we get married & now her body is more sexy than ever. email <removed>