How to quell frustration

this sounds to me like a sitcom waiting to happen.

 

1stly it deps what sort of frustration u are talking about - work, interpersonal, whatever...

Personally, I think drugs, sex and alcohol should only be with other people present.

If you feel your mind needs fixing, I'd 1st say write down the problems, and poss solutions and plan things from there.

Finding something for your mind/ body can do wonders while u are working towards a goal. Try exercise, sport, martial arts, a new spectator or participant hobby, watching a comedy or film, reading, going on a date or whatever. Maybe even get a cat or dog. Or just chat to a friend - phone or IM etc

You say u hate socialising, but as I said before, you're socialising (in one way) when u post here..

 

ACDC always brings out my happy. :2thumbsup:

 

I don't hate socializing. I never said that. I simply hate socializing with those I am forced to socialize with.

 

yes, but its euphoric effects are not as strong for non-australians

 

Ok yeah thats what I thought. I'm probably a little like that sometimes(if Im socialising with people I dislike/ feel uncomfortable with).

But I think (I dunno, maybe I'm wrong) that in the past, you didnt feel comfortable around/ like other people, or said sthg like that?
(I cant remember)

 

If you are frustrated...just down right aggravated with anything - masturbate.

I'm serious.

You'd be surprised of the stress relief.

 

But he's a 31 yr old guy. Whats wrong with going on a date?

 

i'm sure he wouldn't be that surprised. i seriously doubt he hasn't masturbated up to this point in his life.

besides, the stress relief from that is relatively short lived, and it's not like guys can just keep doing it every 20 minutes when the euphoria wears off.

 

must be different for guys then.

The anti-stress lasts at least a day or 2 for me.

Fine, I recant my statement and replace it with "go get laid" instead

 

Have you ever watched a movie that seemed really slow or uninteresting at the beginning, but after a while it picks up and becomes more entertaining? That's kind of like what socializing with people is like. Sometimes you have to force yourself to be around someone or a group of people, just to be sure that their friendship or presence is not what you want in your life. People bring other people around and you are basically "forced" to hang out with them.

 

The things that frustrate an individual are fashioned from an individual's narrative of his own situations. They may not interest any one else at all and no one else can, or would, tell the story the same.

You can only be frustrated if your narrative does not match your, ideal about. If you knew so much however, you would not be so frustrated.
There is an element of thinking you are right when you are frustrated and frustration is always a sign to me that I have chosen to try to be right rather than choosing to be happy.

The recognition that, I do not know, relieves much.

 

What we need is a new pharmaceutical to quell this problem. Let's think of a good marketing name. How about:

Frustrafree
Downerbegone
Annoyallay
Grin-a-chagrin

Ask your doctor if it's right for you.

 

impairing judgement is useless. the only way to avoid frustrations is to avoid creating situations that create them. bite off only what you enjoy chewing. you can still push yourself if you must, but don't go completely over the top about it.

and don't expect to find gratification where no elements of creating or exploring are involved.

 

You answered your own question.....

 

Wow dude, you sound like my mental twin. I can't focus on shit to do either. I get on one thing, get obsessed, start it up, get kinda bored, notice "ooo something shiny!" and move onto something else, sadly looking back at that thing I was so gung-ho about and wondering "was it just not my thing or do I only want what I can't have? the newest most exciting thing that catches my eye?" Sadly I think it might be the latter... This year, I've bounced back and forth from meditation to surfing to working out and dieting to activism to looking into cosmetology to godknowshwatelseicantreallykeeptrack....

The thing that changed my life for the better was I found a great job. That helped me a lot. It builds confidence that maybe you can achieve things that you didn't think you could. I know it's easier said than done, but I really think it's worth it. It took me a few tries, and I jumped around a lot, because I kept getting shitty jobs where the boss made you feel like shit, but then I got one where they appreciated me. It still wasn't the right one, but it made me feel like maybe I wasn't a worthless piece of shit that was too stupid to focus or learn anything, and still working there, I applied to a great place that I really didn't know if I was good enough to get in. Lo and behold I did, and it's opening doors to a whole new world for me.

I think that's what was holding me back, though- my own lack of self-confidence and the fact that once I got a job, I usually stuck with it, no matter how shitty. I always felt bad applying for other jobs or looking for other jobs while I still had one because I felt like I would be leaving the other place hanging if I just up and left, or I felt ungrateful because so many people didn't have work, and I had a job that other people would kill for just to be abkle to put food on the table. But really what it probably was was that I got complacent and thought "fuck it, this is good enough, I'm tired of interviewing, it's scary" and just took whatever shit they dished out.

So glad I ended up going for it. There are still roadblocks in my way, so I still get frustrated, but I think that's more because I'm impatient than anything. And like you say, ADD. I want to take on the world with no money in my pocket, lol. Doesn't really work...
Wow, just realized this may be tl;dnr for someone who has trouble focusing. Sorry about that. :tongue:

 

Pressed_Rat, did you find my first post offensive at all?

 

Pressed_Rat, did you find my post boring or inapplicable at all?

 

pressed rat, do you find me sexy?