How to look gay (MERGED)

"I am who I am" ? Girlie Men ? Good heavens, SageDreamer, this is almost cliché (I just love writing words with accent marks!)

 

If i had to define my sexual preference i'd say "bi" but I really despise stereotypes and labels in general. let's just say that i love everyone.
in terms of how i look like, well, i always dress in a rather alternative way, band t shirts, big jumpers, baggy trousers or bellbottoms, tie dye stuff or really girly sometimes, depending on my mood...lets say i look "straight" and sometimes a bit "tomboyish"
in terms of what i look for in my people, i go for feminine types of gal, usually blondes, but i dont mind. i'm open to anyone, but i've found myself looking at the same "kind" of people.
Boys...well, i've a fetish with glasses, those really thick ones..mmm..yeah. and longish hair is a plus too!

 

i don't think i dress or act stereotypically gay, despite my sexual tendencies. i'm a really feminine person, i wear makeup, have long hair, wear bras, shave (occasionally), (try to) dress in vibrant colours and i care about my appearance. that's why many people are shocked/refuse to believe it when they find out i'm gay. i have a few pride articles like necklaces or novelty shirts that i wear sometimes, and that's really the only indication. that and the hot dready chick i'm attached to at the hip.

my personality is slightly more masculine than most girls i know. of course i bellydance and am all into writing and art and such which can be considered girly, but i fit in well as "one of the guys".

 

i'm bi but i don't know if there is a bi way to dress. i guess i just wear flared jeans/trousers/t shirts/shirts/ whatever really and i have longish hair/piercings i'm not butch but im not a girly girl.
men i go for are usually skinny, long haired, lady-boy types whereas women i go for curvy types, bit quirky/hip and definetly not to girly but im not attracted to the 'butch' stereotypes either. and my god women i go for have to be razor friendly, i just dont find body hair that attractive...especially on girls.

thats it really

 

First off, I am 99 % hetero.....that is all I'll say for now on that issue. I very much am against labelling based on sexuality, but begrudgingly admit that all demographic groups will have their unique common, yet not universal, traits. Canadians are often thought of as beer drinkers, and that is not an inaccurate comment, on the whole. The French are considered wine lovers, also a fair generality. hateful or insulting generalities are ALWAYS wrong, in my view, IE:

One ethnicity is stupider than the rest, etc. Or one that really bugs me, that homosexuality is tied to paedophilia.....BS.
So, I digress, I have met burly, masculine looking gay men, and petit, feminine gay women, which I would expect.
I am a big fan of good sex, and aim to please in the boudoir. making love to my partner is not a necessity, but damn, it is hard to beat.
My sexual appearance, so so, not an adonis, not an ogre, somewhere in between, with a slant towards outdoorsy and eccentric.

 

hmm.. i have many sides to myself.

sometimes.. i know i am sexy and i feel it in my bones and mind. I know i look pretty and attractive.. but other times (today) i just feel like "BLAH" and that there is nothing special about me..

as for my character.. most guys think im a suicidal depressing "good time" slut. the very rare ones think im cool... girls think im just a nobody and that i have no life..

i dont know what to believe. im forlorn. queer.. and my best friend is myself.

 

hang in there Nisha....................I support you. You go girl, having many sides may be easy for others to criticize, but in my view, it is the only way to go. I find that the opposite of that is being elitist, exclusivist, divisive, judgemental, hurtful, predjudicial, discriminatory, etc.
It is not good, in other words.
I know what you mean about melancholy, but I am an example of surviving being eccentric, and looked down upon by all groups of society since early teen years, when my opinions started coming out. They were not exactly loved by all. I am 40, didn't think I'd hit 20, and thought 30 was 'old'.
I now know that even 40 is not old, and some experiences this year have been the best in my life, to my shock.

Your best friend is yourself?
Good. I wish more people admitted that. We all are, as well as our worst enemy, which few will admit, as well. No one accepts responsibility, the 00's are the decade of the excuse, and passing the buck, in my view.

You are an angel on earth, and if you can survive the pain, trust me, I have seen some pain, afterwards, you will find that there is always a balancing out. This means that the worse the pain, the greater the joy later.
I believe this firmly, but don't expect anyone else to.

Love, BG13

As knowledge increaseth, sorrow increaseth. I read that in a real old book somewhere.......

 

Well, I am bisexual but I think, because of generalizations made by society, most would think I am completely straight. I dress slightly "hippy" but all my friends just think I am alternative, unlike themselves. None of my friends know that I like girls as well as guys and my behavior doesnt give it away (I dont think!). Ocassionaly I catch myself looking at girls or saying things that would hint towards my true sexuality but I think most people are still too close-minded to think that THEIR friend could be gay or bisexual.

As far as what I am attracted to in the same sex, physically, I love girls who are a little different. There is nothing hotter than a girl with dreads or a girl wearing a long flowerprint skirt. As far as personality goes, I like girls who are incredibly open-minded and free. I hate people who judge other people and I love girls who respect everyone. Its really important for me to treat others nicely, regardless of their sexual preference, race, social status, or whatever else.