How To Help My Girlfriend Reach The Big O

Hi everybody, so I have been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and we have lots of sex but unfortunately she has yet to reach an orgasm. She hasn't ever orgasmed by herself either L. We have really long sex so time isn’t the problem (like over half an hour every time and multiple times per day as we can only see each other on weekends). I give her oral and finger her regularly and we have recently tried sex toys like a vibrator as well but still no luck. She is very comfortable around me and we love each and this issue frustrates both of us. Does anybody have any tips on how we can get her to reach the big O?

 

Do you seriously believe she hasnt been able have an orgasm by herself?

 

Yes, she doesn't masturbate at all. She hasn't had an orgasm with other partners either.

 

Hitachi

 

We have already tried a couple vibrators

 

Well first...stop trying so hard.
Two...set the mood...big time.
As an example, go out to a nice dinner...she wears a dress, no panties...you wear whatever she wants you to.
Go to a nice bar that has a dance floor, dance with her.
On the drive home...take a scenic route away from city streets, she removes her bra if she has one on - and have her pull her dress and shirt up...put her feet spread on the dash board...she will feel completely naked of course. You rub her body and encourage her to stimulate herself.If she doesn't orgasm then, she will at least be super turned on when you get home.

 

We've been going out for a while we have gone to nice stuff, got super turned on, had kinky sex, in cars, fooled around in public etc. I have encouraged her to stimulate herself as well. This is something she really wants obviously.

 

LOL, errr obviously

If she/ they ever told you the truth, you'd get all sooky and wouldnt try as hard.

Thats why they dont ever tell you the truth

 

:book:

 

stick a finger in her butt..

 

She needs to masturbate. Everyone needs to masturbate.

 

She is going to read these replies btw

 

Ok well to jimmys girlfriend. I suggest a few things. Try having an orgasim on your own first. Thats if you really have not EVER had one that is really strange you havent but ok. Coat yourself in some nice oil, it can be olive oil or anything really, just to get your body smooth. Then have a nice warm bath and let your hair down. Make sure there are no bubbles or soap in there so you can see your body. Then relax and start playing with your clitoris. Do not finger yourself unless you want to. You can finger yourself and use your clit but do what feels good.

Remeber all people are different, ive known girls that need something up there butt and vagina to cum, or girls that need there clit licked only one way or weird things like that, but you know the pressure of having your bf there might put you off, I sure know it did for me, look over an hour to cum and most times i didnt at the start. Vibrators dont do it for me either they are objects, plastic and mostly vibrate too hard. Or get him to lick you, if you need help with that just message me. I can go in detail because honestly some guys do not know what they are doing unless they are told.

 

She says she appreciates the response but she doesn't feel comfortable lying down in bathtubs.

Also we do use massage oil and put on relaxing music sometimes and I give her oral and it makes her scream and moan very loudly sometimes but since she's never had an orgasm she doesn't know if that is getting close to one.

And we have sex for hours, for whatever reason I can control my orgasm well and can last a long time (I'm 22). In fact she sometimes gets sore from all the long sex and even then we want to have more sex so time isn't an issue.

 

Stop bringing it up and talking about it and making it an issue. The best way to make a woman not have an orgasm is to make a deal about it.

Men are so stupid sometimes.

 

I don't talk about it often to be honest. It's just something that makes her sad and obviously I want her to be happier. She encouraged me to post it here.

 

Seriously dude

 

What? We've had shower sex

 

It's mostly all mental for women.

 

she doesnt want to lye down in a bathtub wtf why? penetration doesnt give girls an orgasim, have sex for hours lol it still wont happen. (for most girls). If she is screaming loudly she is most likely faking if she wont even cum from it. yes its also mostly mental for women. Secondly the chances are she has had an orgasim on her own and she wont tell you what you need to do. Happens alot you know, shy girls. Even such a small thing as going more gently makes all the difference.