How to help a bi guy be comfortable with male affection

Hi everybody

First time posting on here... Found this site through Google search results for something else I looked up, and I thought it would be a good place to pose the following question...

I'm 100% gay. Up to this point I have exclusively dated gay men.(not by choice, nothing against bisexual guys, it just happened that way) Well recently I met a bisexual guy and we began dating casually. Lately, we've been hanging out together just about every evening, and things are going pretty good.

Now my "problem" is this... Up to this point in his life, he has only had relationships with women, and maybe a casual hookup or two with men. This has resulted in him being somewhat uncomfortable with being affectionate with another guy. He assures me that it's something he wants and that he just needs to "build up" to it (for a lack of better words)

Looking for advice from either some bi guys that have been in his shoes, or gay guys that have been in my shoes. What can I do to make him more comfortable with the whole male affection thing? It's something that has always just come naturally to me so I'm kind of at a loss here...

Please help!

We are both in our late 20s if that matters...

 

If he is looking to be in a relationship with you, it will take time him time to become affectionate, and are you wanting to be in a relationship with him? casual sex is one thing. a committed relationship is another, It's nothing you can really do to make him more comfortable with male affection other than just being yourself, patience is the key, especially due to the fact he has only had relationships with women and just remember bi-sexuals go back & forth with women & men and can enjoy the company of both at the same time...he may never be able to show you the affection you are looking for ............only time will tell.

 

Takes time, but you are gambling and I think you know that. If he's a shifter and not used to that, he may get scared and try and distance, which can get you hurt.

 

What exactly is he uncomfortable with?

 

Casual sex would be okay if that's what you both prefer ?

 

Sooner or later, most people are likely to start mimicking their societal environment.

I was dating a gay dude who had serious issues of showing any affection whatsoever. Sex was awesome but beyond that, he would be showing nothing but paranoia.

He grew up in an arch conservative family. The thought of the two men loving or liking each other would actually trigger a trauma in him.

I started taking him around (yeah, he was a trophy dude). So, he saw other people expressing affection and tender feelings for each other, at dinners, parties, while traveling... etc. Bit by bit, he started mimicking this. A few months into our relationship, he was as affectionate as the next guy...

KD

 

Some guys can't bond romantically with other guys. In my teens to early twenties I was in a one year relationship and a FOUR year relationship with guys. It all felt like roommates with benefits. Until I married my wife of 23 years did I experience that deep physical, emotional and spiritual bond with another human being. We're all different. I can't imagine growing old with a guy collecting cock rings and doylies. I want to be with my wife (although I get the occasional hankering for cock. Thank God for online gay porn.)

 

PS. By your late 20's your sexual and courting proclivities are pretty much set. If he's never "dated" guys but only fucked them, I doubt he's capable of a truly committed relationship. Don't stop seeing other GAY guys. We bisexuals are very complicated and best steer away from us with your gay.

 

Well, the problem lies in that it is not a natural thing for men to have sex with each other. So, he is probably feeling guilty for what he is doing. Do you feel guilty?

 

you just said he had a casual hookup with two men... so what would be new here?

if anything, he should be more comfortable with you coz you have a real relationship.

maybe... this is a play and... hes not telling everything