So my bf and I have finally hit the sex jackpot with each other. Amazing, outrageous, kinky sex. I know the one thing I lack is how to give a good mind blowing blow job. I want to master this. Any tips??
He has powers of speech, and he wouldn't generally be using his mouth for anything else as you perform fellatio on him. Ask him to talk you through what he likes and what feels best. There is not one technique, sequence, intensity, speed, or combination of tongue, teeth, lips, and fingers that is universal to all men. Just as your cunnilingus preferences differ from those of other women, what is best for him can come only from him. If you can't talk about this together, and if he can't tell you what feels good, then neither of you has hit any kind of jackpot by being together. If he insists on gargling with mouthwash, flossing, and brushing his teeth while you have your face between his legs, find another guy. If you can't bring yourself to ask him to tell you what feels best as you suck him off, then he should find another woman.
I can recommend a very good but inexpensive book. It's not graphic and is very funny in places with some of the pictures. I have benefitted from this book with my partner. Tickle His Pickle by Dr Sadie Allison. Written by a woman of course ☺
Oh I’ve asked. Plenty of times. And he just says I like what feels good. it took me 16 months to figure out what he liked sexually.
When your young it's all part of the learning process to discover likes and dislikes. When your older you will become sexperts.
If he can't tell you what he likes, and he can't tell you what to do more of or less of while you're doing it, then he doesn't like receiving blowjobs. Period. Stop sucking him off. He doesn't like it. If he claims that he does, then you have the leverage to require him to talk you through it. Having sex with a guy who expects you to be a mind reader isn't hitting the jackpot in any way.
Kiss the penis and rub it on your cheek, like it's an adorable teddy bear or something. When you go down on him, start at the tip of his penis and move downward a little further with each thrust/head motion. Once in a while, take it out of your mouth and cherish his tool by kissing and/or licking it on the shaft. When he is close to cumming, look into his eyes and begin moving faster. He might consider the eye contact as queue that he is allowed to cum in your mouth, and that you're excited for it. Hope that helps
Some tips Listen to the sounds he makes, the body movements he makes. Is his breathing changing, any moans escaping, any twitches of his body or penis expanded and contracting? Are there any repeat moans or changes in breathing that occur when you are working him in a particular way? Learn the precursors of when he's about to ejaculate, try to catch the signals earlier, and try an delay him. Try keeping him on the edge as long as you can. If his breathing gets faster and in a rhythm, then try and synchronise the movement of your mouth and tongue and hands to his breathing. When a blow job matches the rhythm of a man's breathing it can bring him to orgasm very quickly. Remember the blow job is as much about your pleasure as his. So take your time to explore the full extent of his penis and testicles. Explore the textures, sensations, taste, and smell. Does he produce plenty of precum, what does it taste like? What's it like to lick? What's it like to swallow? Does he have foreskin? Gently move it up and down with your tongue and / or hands once he has generated plenty of precum for lubrication. What do his testicles do as you give him a BJ, how much do they swell in size and move about? You'll only know if your mouth and tongue are down there or you have a hand on them, checking them out. What does a testicle in your mouth feel like, can you get both of them in, and suck and prod them a little with your tongue? How does the length and width of his erection vary as you give him a blow job? Make sure you can feel those changes whilst giving him a BJ, because if you can feel them he can feel you feeling them. How does it feel to firmly hold the base of his penis with your hand, as you work him? How does he react if you lightly run your tongue and lips up the veins that produce most of the blood for his erection? Try cupping both of his testicles in your hand as he begins to approach orgasm and hold them firm; whilst you continue to work him. How does it feel, his testicles firm in your hand, trying to pull upwards, as you continue to blow him towards orgasm? What's it like to lightly work his penis with your mouth, so he'll feel you're barely touching him? What is it like to close your mouth firmnly on his penis and feel its textures, movements, and taste? Before he's fully erect what's it like to take his full penis and testicles in your mouth and feel them expand? Think of giving him a blow job as eating from a buffet. You don't want to eat everything every time, but you'd like a little bit of everything, and there's no set order to eat it in, and you'll go back for seconds of some items, sometimes you want to eat slowly and deliberately, sometimes you want to get it down your throat as quick as possible, and move on to another course. One of the delights about the blowjobs my wife gives me is that there is no set sequence to what she's doing, how much time she spends on a particular area, how firml or light the touch. Sometimes she wants to bring me to orgasm as soon as possible, other times she wants to take her time, and have me last as long as possible. I never know what it's going to be, when she starts, and there's no set order to the sensations she's giving me. Unlike some of the other guys, I'm not a visual guy, when it comes to blowjobs. My wife usually does it under the duvet, with the lights out. The anticipation of where she's going next, heightens the sensations. She might have been licking my tip and next moment, with no warning, I feel a testicle being gently sucked or her lips either side of my penis sliding up and down with flicks from her tongue. I love those sensations. Lastly, and this might be a bit early for you, don't be afraid to insert a finger or two, and search for his prostate when giving him a BJ. Have lube to hand for this bit. If your hands are small, you may have to push further than you think, but keep going. Your fingers want to be poking forwards towards his belly button. He'll seem to grow much bigger and firmer for you, and the orgasm you get him to will be far far more intense than a BJ alone. Do it right and you'll have his whole lower body quivering, and whimpering moans coming out of him for the longest time. If you're lucky you'll also be able to give him multiple orgasms / ejaculations into your mouth this way.
Well good news. All of the sudden this weekend he went step by step and told me exactly what he likes and wanted. So now it’s pretty amazing. if only he’d done this many months ago!!
