Who knew the answer would be "use your words?" http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/07/how-to-get-better-at-sex.html One bit that stood out was touching a partner for your pleasure, noting the sensations, and avoiding primary and secondary erogenous zones.
I guess it doesn't matter to me that much because I'm not as sexually active as I was 10 or 15 years ago when I was 20-25 years old. Those were the days! But it's awkward to do what Prause is suggesting if you haven't first told your partner that that's what you're going to do. I don't usually become very talkative during sex. But I suppose I could do what she's saying. I think it could make a big difference if you first tell your partner what you intend to do and for what purpose before hand so that it doesn't seem like you're breaking from the tradition of not talking that much.
Well, I will say I'm going to do Y because I want him to feel/do Z. And that's prior, as a mental warm up. Nothing like whispering promises in someone's ear...and following through.
Article won't open for me for some reason, so I'm going to say, experience, openness, communication, and lots of practice.
I think "yes, more please" works, and seems more likely to get panted out. It is tough when a person isn't talkative. More guesswork in the moment. Lots more body/face reading and visual cues. I'd be happy for catching eye contact and a vigorous nod.
I am typically awful at making eye contact from the missionary. It can be done, but it feels awkward; at least for me. I love hearing something as long as it's comfortable. I have had some experiences where the person was making it loud and it felt wrong.
The best thing I have discovered in having great sex, relax! It doesn't have to be this fantasy porn shoot, just fuck and be fucked and do everything you like to do because orgasms matter. You live once, if you find people you enjoy to have sex with, that's pretty awesome.
Listen to your woman an do EXACTLY what she wants. Has always worked for me. The only things I absolutely refuse to do is choke a woman, or get pegged, which I've been asked to do, and wouldn't. I'll comply with everything else though.
Think pillow princesses/princes, now called starfish. Lay there and do nothing. Well, assuming missionary might be one issue. And, yes, if you are close in proportion, it's awkward. Try a goofy eye contact. The right partner will react well.
Still sexy. Just move their legs around, pet their hair. They orgasm. Get pregnant or not. Kids can take care of themselves.
