Hi all! This is my first post here. I apologize in advance if I posed this in the wrong place or broke any rules. If I did either, please let me know! Anyway, I'm a 46 year old guy looking for a couple (man and woman) within 10 years of my age, in either direction. I'm single and am really looking to have some fun in my life. I'm attracted to women but am bi-curious, and therefore the main reason I'm looking for a couple to play with. I'm looking to be a "regular" with a couple in order to a)develop trust and b)decrease the risk of any drama. I am a low-drama guy! So how does one go about this? It's hard to meet people as is and even harder to navigate the bs of "apps", never knowing if you're being set up to be scammed or just toyed with. Any thoughts and advice are appreciated!
That is a tough question to answer. You are what is called a dragon. Opposite of a unicorn. Your wanting to be a FWB for a couple. All I can say is it takes a long time to develop that, for a single male. Clubs will limit you. There are groups on Facebook you might want check out. Signing up to the dating sites are a crapshoot. You might also search for bi couples to play with. Your larger metropolitan areas may be a better fit for your search.
so what does being a dragon mean? Oddly, my birthday in the Chinese calendar makes me a dragon! It sounds like, based on everything you’ve said, couples like playing with couples mainly. Thanks for all your feedback ☺️
Basically you have to connect with like minded people and make friends. A Swinger club is a good place to do this but you have to become a regular and show you aren't just stalking for some pussy. Another web site is FetLife where you would better find a match. Plus the website shows where meet and greets and munches are planned. You'll have to get involved and become known throughout this lifestyle and that will come with a lot of rejection. But if you keep at it you should match with a couple eventually.
Not sure how much this helps, but when we’ve looked for a third one of two things happens depending on whether we are looking for M or F: (1) if looking for M, she likes intelligent, conversational, muscular, fit and well endowed. I on the other hand prefer older, dad bod, average to large. The only thing we agree on is that we prefer that he be bi. So basically it never happens. (2) if looking for F, either a specific friend of ours or my wife picks a woman she’s comfortable with and I get veto power.
