Where did I say that I was looking down on them, for not doing this ??? I was trying to say many woman do not like that form of perversion, I guess you have trouble reading . But each to their own I am not here to judge .
I can't speak to getting fucked in the ass by a man, but I love anal with another woman. For one thing the dominant / submissive aspect isn't really an issue. Trust is key ... and in it's own way anal is more intimate than vaginal/clitoral sex. If you don't get anything out of it, he is being selfish by "always" wanting it. You might try having him orally stimulate your clitoris while slowly inserting a finger in your anus and continuing in that way until you are able to orgasm ... that might help establish a pleasurable connection with anal stimulation for you.