how to be open-minded to real sex

hi , i am going to be 30-year-old very soon. I 've been watching all kinds of porn videos since I was 12. I quit smoking, drinking and gambling completely for years but I just can't quit the mind of having crazy sex with a nice, beautiful and curly woman, and having sex with a lot of different women.

In fact, in real life, I have only had sex with two girls who were my stable girl friends but I DID NOT ENJOY at all, speaking frankly. I was not aroused at all and even experienced difficult time during the process.

I always wish to have a romantic night with a tall beautiful blonde. After years I know it remains a dream because I am not an astute guy or expect pick-up artist. The only way i can do is to pay for sex, it is not something I want.

I've never prostituted before. I've been struggling in my mind for years about whether to go or not and just put the ideas away at last. I have contradictions in my mind. I know they could be very skillful and but I also always think that they are very dirty because they could have had hundreds or thousands of customers before.

It's not a question of morality or money. I only want to know how can I overcome this thought and step out finding a beautiful lady who works in that way

 

Wow, hmm...

Well first of all 30 isn't that old for a guy.

As a younger woman I actually really like older guys. I think one thing you need to figure out is why you didn't enjoy sex with your stable girlfriends. Are you saying you didn't enjoy it because it wasn't the type of sex you saw in porn?

I'm a little confused at what you are saying your issue is I think.

 

It's absolutely normal to wish to have crazy sex with a with a lot of nice different women...

My advice is that you read these two books:

1)
"The Game" (from Neil Strauss)
2)
"The Mystery Method:How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed"

And start with The Game!

I did read both books twice and they will answer you many questions.

Good luck!

 

hi, first of all. I don't really believe that a young woman will actually like older guys. In a lot of cases it is because they think older guys will have better wealth for them. Who won't like young and handsome, right?

Another thing is - let me be straightforward

I didn't enjoy sex with my girl friends because they were not beautiful and sexually attractive. I didn't really know why we started, probably because we were both too bored and met in the right time.

The reason I want to go for prostitution is that I really don't want to waste my life anymore. Please don't lecture me about what a life should be. I am not interested in discussing morality... I only want sex. Sorry for that.

 

Sounds to me like you don't pick wisely for girlfriends and also you might even have expectations that are not all that real. Bets are if you didn't have a porn infested mind one of those girls would have pleased you. Some people get filled with ideas that are more rare and so they don't think they got what they need. Gonna be hard for you to find someone who will really please you unless you pay well for tricks you have already seen done for huge amounts of money.
Get back to basics and then let the other stuff ride in while you experiment with your girl and relax, it's not a race to have the biggest orgasm ever known to man. If you can't then dream all you want but don't think it's all a given, every woman is different in what they will do or can do. We are not robotic sex machines, we do have preferences too and dislikes as well. We have a mind like you.
And yes, lots of women do like an older guy then themselves. Not always for money but for attraction in many cases.
My men have typically been about three years older then me but I have found myself attracted to an older guy a few times, they were married tho, dammit. I don't do that shit.

 

If you did not enjoy sex with stable girlfriends, I doubt you will with a prostitute. There can potentially be a good looking girl but It's a pretty emotionally vapid experience.

 

If you want to have safe consentual sex with another adult, whatever your relationship is it should be ok. If you feel bad it's because you have been told to feel bad. Lots of people have lots of sex, and if it's done safe and with selective partners I don't see how that makes someone dirty. The exchange of money on it's own does not make that girl dirty.
My advice is you get over it and enjoy your life

 

ok then i ll go for my first prostitution on my 30 year old birthday next month

 

Well, that was easy.

 

lol Glad I could help

 

does anyone ever hook up a prostitute in Latvia? I will go to Latvia later. Any experience

 

Look for review sites. Focus on what her clients have to say, not her.

 

Emotionally vapid experience is kind of what he was complaining about with his stable girlfriends

Or not.

Porn infested mind or not, those ex girlfriends would have just been as boring in bed, and / or expecting too much outside the bedroom

 

You are reading my mind exactly. My ex girl friends are not sexually attracted and expecting too much outside the bedroom. Their claims were ''love is everything'' but they practically only take care of and think about only themselves, never me.

 

Are you a hunter? An angler maybe? If so, you recognize that there's something about the experience at a catfish farm or a pay-to-play game ranch with a high fence that just isn't… Organic.

I don't hear someone saying that he wants to turn to a professional because he doesn't want to waste time. Rather, I hear a young man who recognizes that he's out of his 20's and is (i) desperate for a sexual "religious experience" and (ii) lazy.

If you want to go to a pro, you don't need a rationale. Just do it. Don't tell anyone about it and don't get caught. You don't want to get painted as "that guy that goes to hookers" by your extended peer group even if all you want is to have incredible sex (which, by the way, is not a guarantee with a pro. Yeah, an experienced prostitute will know how to get you off really quickly with her mouth, but whether you're paying for it or not there is ALWAYS an element of chemistry in good sex).

You can find endless tips and hints in books and online, but if you want to have good sex you're going to have to pursue women that interest you and you're going to have to get way out of your comfort zone. You're going to fail along the way, and there are going to be really unpleasant failures… But they won't kill you. That's my $0.02, anyway. You're 30 years old, your own boss and you know what's best for yourself. Pay for it if you want, no excuses, no rationales… You're too old for excuses and rationales.

Be careful out there.

 

Still remains he didn't try to get on with someone who excited him. If a woman excites you enough to make it into your life she has to be pretty bad in bed to be boring in bed and you picked wrong if she is expecting too much out of the bedroom. You have to feel these things out before you take them in as is for the other way around as well.
When people don't find one who likes sex as they do or likes a lack of it as they do and likes to live pretty much as they do they find their partner,,, well,,, not right for them. He screwed up.
If I had a partner who sucked I wouldn't be here whining about it, I would kick my own ass and try harder for myself next time but two in a row for this guy? For some reason (I think porn) he wants way more then the average woman will give and he needs to look harder for the one who will and quit complaining and reliving about how his choices suck.
Sex is not a marathon to do more then your buddies, and unless the partner is a porn actor there is usually no money in it so you can't expect more then she can do, we don't come built from the same manufacturer and there is no manual or set standards for all. We all need to find the right one to be happy.

 

You said, he will probably just hear

All average women are crap in bed


You said, he will probably just hear

If you want them to at least act hornier, give them more money

 

maybe the OP is gay and hasn't admitted it to himself?

 

That would be my thinking, gay and so he really doesn't like women so they can't satisfy him.

 

Never took money for me to be horny,,, took a man who made me want him to be horny. Usually them caring bout our relationship and a nice scent is enough to make me go crazy. All men I have been with worked but most made the same money I did (because we worked at the same job) and some even less so your theory is not all accurate.
Right now I make in a year what my guy might make but my contracts run in long term so I know what I have coming, his contracts run in days or weeks so he never knows from one week to the next what he will have. He can also make nearly a grand in a day or two but have days of no work at all. He can also see a down slide in his work depending on how things are going for others who would hire him. I don't need his money.