How To Be More Masculine!

The confidence change could, actually, make or break him.

Most people can be anything they want (within reason), if they have the confidence and proper mindset.

If he wants to be an obnoxiously manly man, it's not hard.... belieeeeeve in your self.

 

Thanks for all the advice. Keep em coming and don't hold back.

 

drop the ''yo waddup'' and ''dudes'', particularly when talking to complete strangers.

 

Yes. It's a well-known phenomenon called "getting a little stank on the hang-low."

 

something i learned from sharing an apartment with three girls:

girls are way more in tune with non-verbal communication than guys are. like 100 times more, i cant even exaggerate. ive heard my room mates talk about how lame a guy acts because he doesn't "make a move" when they are sending him (what they think) are clear signals to "come and get it". so my point is, its not so much your looks, or how muscular you are (although in all honestly it does help), its more about how you act. men are more visual, but i think women tend to look a bit deeper.

you can go to the gym and build your muscles, but its even more powerful if you take time to build up your personality. i think ive mentioned this story before on this forum, but one of my best friends is a weed dealer who lives in his moms house, has no job, no muscles, and hes not very educated. but when we hit the club, this guy will out-game any muscular tough guy, or rich guy sitting in a VIP table. why? its his personality. ive never heard a girl ask him how much he can bench or how much money he makes, but hes very successful at having one night stands.

also, one more tip, i dont know what it is but i feel like society wants to make you a metro sexual homo. if you think your clothes are "fly", get a couple female opinions, and dont be surprised if your wrong. i used to think i was dressing "fly" too, but then i started to experiment with different looks, and to my amazement, the worse i dressed, the better results i got with girls. i think its because it communicates that "i dont give a fuck" attitude that women are attracted to.

 

because women are into losers. duh.

 

i really dont want to believe that, but alot of evidence sure points to that!

 

How do I go about building up my personality? I mean I do make people laugh sometimes, but thats just when I act silly. Silly is kiddish to me now, even though I cant help but do it =/ lol

 

If you can be silly and make people laugh then do that. People just want to feel good, not be impressed.

 

dont impress, express.

work on making yourself a better person, and making everyone around you feel good, thats number 1. people dont like poeple who intimidate them or make them feel like a lesser person, people will gravitate towards those that make them feel good.

do some self improvement. watch some Tony Robbins videos on youtube. i would also recommend meditation and really, seriously looking inside yourself. look past your ego, and try to find why you want what you want. why do you want to be more masculine? ask yourself why, and why and why and get to the very root of what you want, and what your lacking.

 

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I blame my stupid shyness smh and abusing mary jane killed my personality, im Sober now but still hard to get back to my old self

 

OK dear OP so if I got your original message well, your main problem is that you unfortunately pass as gay? Oh well, I'm sorry to say that, but maybe there's nothing you can do about it. Sometimes it happens because the person's mimics and facial expressions, the tone of their voice, the way they carry themselves or their maneurism look "gay" by most people's standards and these things are hard if not impossible to change. If this is what makes you look gay, then you'll have to accept it. These things tho don't make you any less masculine, if you identify as male you're a man, period. (BTW gays are "real" men too, they just happen to be gay... this is wrong to assume they're less manly because they're attracted to fellow males.) So build up some confidence, chin up, understand and remember who and what you are... who cares what people think, really?

 

There’s so many different kinds of men find an example you like that you want to be and do that and your friends are going to call you gay that’s just part of being a dude don’t over think it they are just ribbing you