How the judicial system devalues sexual assault of boys

This from Huffpost:

A former middle school teacher in Texas was sentenced to a year in county jail Tuesday for having a sexual relationship with a student she tutored.

Kathryn Camille Murray, 31, pleaded guilty last month to charges of inappropriate relationship with a student and sexual assault of a child. Prosecutors said Murray had sex with the teen at least four times beginning when he was 15.

Murray originally came under investigation in 2012, and was fired from her job at Memorial Middle School in Houston.

Police learned that Murray had sex with the boy twice in her classroom when she was supposed to be tutoring him in Language Arts, according to KHOU. They also had sex in a hotel the night of a school dance, and once at his parents' house while his parents were away.

According to the Houston Chronicle, Murray closed her bank account and planned to flee to Mexico shortly before she was arrested in February 2012.

The affair continued even after a judge ordered Murray not to see the boy. In January 2013, Murray faced charges of harboring a runaway after police came to her father's house and caught the teen, then 16, leaving out the back door.

Murray's bond was revoked after the January 2013 incident, and she was jailed.

The victim's parents said their son is confused, has been suicidal, and has conflicting feelings about his former teacher. At one point, the victim said he was in love with Murray, according to a separate KHOU report.

"He still has mixed feelings for her. He knows that he should not, but it's something that he's working out," Alex Pallais, the victim's father, told KHOU on Tuesday.

 

look the whole teacher student thing is not that big an issue. PRofessors used to always bang their students, and nobody really minds when a kid bangs his older female teacher because it's really not such a horrible thing.

On the other hand what is fucked up is shit like this: http://globalnews.ca/news/982723/po...e-of-28-suspects-arrested-in-child-porn-bust/

the director of a rehabilitation center for children and young adults in my area was arrested for being a major part in a child porn ring and sexually abusing 5 year old boys.

See theres a big difference between the story you posted and shit like THAT or like the vatican. The vatican is fucked up.

 

I disagree.
Being a teacher puts someone in a position of trust and authority. Having sex with a student (especially an underage student) abuses that trust and authority.

 

there's a double standard there - its somehow acceptable for teenage boys to be molested, sexually assaulted, and raped by an older woman (and these terms are rarely used, although they are accurate) whereas an older man and a young teenage girl may elicit a completely different reaction.

 

A professor is teaching adults. A high school or middle school teacher is teaching children. Aside from that fact their job is to protect and teach, not to have sex with these kids. There's nothing wrong with a young teenager being attracted to an older teacher, but there is something wrong when the adult teacher doesn't see the boundaries there and takes advantage of the child. I feel like men who defend this stuff have either been assaulted themselves and never received any acknowledgement of the fact or they are suffering from the stereotypical sexualization of males.

Teenage girls are just as sexual as teenage boys...it doesn't mean they should be taken advantage of by adults.

Now child porn is horrible and so are institutions that support it...but so is the judicial system basically encouraging this kind of sexual assault by never taking it seriously. It's a very big deal and if something like this happened to my child I would raise hell.

It matters. It's a horrible thing when a child's first sexual experience is one where they are being manipulated by an adult they are supposed to trust. These boys who get into these situations cannot get over these women. They often end up suicidal, depressed, isolated from their old family and friends and sneaking to be with these women. Several times the boys have ended up marrying these teachers. WTF is happening here?

How can a 27, 30, etc. woman claim to be in love with a 14, 15, etc. year old boy? There is something truly wrong with these women and they should not be allowed to walk around given the chance to suck these boys back in.

 

Also I totally agree with the word rape, and you're right melial, these words are never used when it's a young boy vs. a young girl.

 

I think we need to consider the *nature* of the assault.
I mean, if I was 13 and a really hot female teacher decided to get it on with me, I'd have been the last person in the World to complain hehehe.

Doubtless, some people would have said she should have been executed if it ever got found out. However, the hot female teacher and the young boy is surely the exception.

I've heard quite a few disturbing stories from guys talking about when they were little kids, and adult homosexual males. They never reported the incidents because they felt they would have been considered to have been "guilty"/encouraging it/considered part of it. Unfortunately, the nonsense of our current so called "politically correct" society stifles much of the debate and lets these individuals get away with this on many occasions, IMO.

I've never ever known of a boy sexually approached by an adult female, but have heard quite a few instances of an adult male behaving inappropriately. These sorts of crimes absolutely sicken me, and I think that those guilty should be locked up for a very, very long time. Or better still, never released.

 

The kid gets bragging rights...I hope she was a hot teacher

 

When I was in high school, one of the teachers got pregnant by one of the students on the "Senior Cruise". I think they got married but I'm not sure.

 

I dunno man. Boy or girl, I thin it's wrong, but if the kids are gonna do it, we can't stop them. And if they do it, it IS consensual, therefore voluntary and not illegal. Not AS illegal as it is now, that is.

 

It's never consensual when one person holds authority over the other and that's why it's wrong the choice is taken away. For someone's first sexual experience to be so sullied is sad. That being said I would've gladly fucked or been fucked by many teachers at my schools so I dunno.

 

You know that feeling in the back of your mind, like there is something you are missing, doesnt quite add up, you dont quite get it....maybe that missing piece of the puzzle has been right in front of your face the whole time.

Ms Murray you hear about this now, it seems one way to you, likely you are going to assume, solely because of her age, it has a little bit to do with she's getting on a bit, in part at least hooking up with a 15 year old is about making her feel young.

Now rewind back to when she was 13, hanging around some younger guys place when the parents are away, when does that happen?, as the babysitter....

Well then it starts to look totally different then doesnt it.

Unlikely this guy was the first, just the first time she got caught, she would have been at it for 20 years.

 

That's kind of fucked up too.

 

I think so, too. A lot of the posts on this thread seem to subscribe to the classic misconception that a female can't rape a male because all males enjoy sex no matter what...right?! This can cause many male victims of rape a LOT of issues, relating to feeling they are unable to report the crime because they should have enjoyed the encounter when they didn't.

I am really disappointed by a lot of comments on this thread.

 

Well, I see it as she's at fault yes, but...so is he. She got busted, so should he.

 

he's a minor. Its statutory rape