How open are you? Were you always like this? What changed you?

I treat each relationship differently, I dont have any preconceived ideas or expectations, poly or mono...

I am very open minded to trying new things, and creating a relationship structure that works for the two people involved.

About cheating, I dont really think of it that way, I pay more attention to honesty... If someone I am dating fucked someone else no matter if the relationship is poly or mono and didnt tell me I would be upset and have trouble trusting the person in the future, which is bad for any relationship.

 

age changed me...i have been the jealous dick before...it was awful...now i am older...a little wiser....and much morecalm and accepting etc....

age changed me

 

Well damn, Yazz - I was in a pretty good mood until I read your post. I'm fairly confident (95%)that the gloom you predict is not warranted, but I suppose nothing so good can last forever. I will give up the other man if it comes to that, but I will miss his body like crazy.

 

I consider myself pretty broad-minded, yes. Very little bothers me. What people do is their business. I just try to seek out people with my own mindset.

It depends on my partner if I want a monogamous partnership or not, but usually monogamous, and I wouldn't want things like threesomes to become routine. Chances are, I'd prefer monogamy and so would any partner, because statistics indicate that's the best choice for most of us for maintaining a relationship.

Cheating is really something defined by intention. I'd have to be in a relationship to tell you.

 

What made me become sexually open?

1. Being around girls in college who had casual sex.
2. Learning in school about other societies in world history that had different sexual morals from our own.

 

Not long after we were married we started having sex with other people and have never looked back. We are swingers and go to parties usually 10 times a year, we have had many threesomes. The majority of the threesomes have been MMF, they ar great. My wife loves more than one guy at a time and face it 2 guys and one girl will be far more action.

I love seeing my wife fuck and suck other guys, and on the occasions that we have not used condoms, it is so hot to fuck her just after another guy has cum in her.

Early in our marriage we realised that neither of use were jealous or possessive, and that we were both very open about sex. One night whilst drinking with a friend of mine, we all got horny. Before too long we were all naked, I will never forget that first time, seeing another guy slide into her.

I do not understand why so many people have problems with their partners having sex with other people. We have a great relationship, love each other very much and have a fantastic sex life. We also happen to love having sex with other people.

 

That is exactly the kind of relationship/marriage I am looking for, I keep hoping.

 

I'm hoping I can get to that point of not caring.

I think it's more of a self-esteem issue. If your partner wants to have sex with someone else, there is all of a sudden this image of you not being good enough. I know this is crazy, and I would like to be in a place where I won't feel that. I know that I would like to have sex with different men, to come home to someone I love; I just don't know about my partner. I would always wonder, is she better than me?

I guess that's why it'll be nice to meet someone I can trust and someone I know who loves me, whether they get turned on by other women or not.