How old are men when they lose stamina

I am 45 my husband is 50. We have been married 30 years. The earlier years was very selfish sex. Very little foreplay and a lot of fighting if I didn't give in. But in the last 10 years I have really came out of my shell and it gets pretty wild. However now he can't seem to keep up, literally. I can't get enough and I have never had the desire to be with anyone but him. He talks about threesomes so I don't think he would be totally against sharing but 1 I only want him and 2 I've heard too many break up stories from swinging. I want to die married to this man. That hasn't changed in 30 years and it's not going to. So who out there can give me any details about the male libido and when it starts to decline? He's struggled for a few years now but it does seem to be getting worse. I know the age difference doesn't help. When he's in his prime I'm not there yet and by the time I get there he's out of it. But it is only 5 years that shouldn't be real drastic should it? I could lay in bed with him all day and I have no limits anymore I let him do whatever he wants to me and I do anything he asks but it's still a big struggle. Anybody have a similar experience? We've talked about male enhancement drugs but I'm so scared of the unknown side effects long term. It's not worth prostate cancer or something. I can just stick to the dildo. But I do want him, a lot.

 

Besides his general health and any medications he takes, I'd read some articles on when a man's testosterone level naturally starts to drop off.

 

As one gets older then there is more emphasis of the provision of quality rather than speed of provision.
Age does have an effect on delivery for both obvious and underlying reasons.
The medical reason has to be the priority to ascertain - before ceding to the natural course of events

 

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I am over 60, and my sex drive is still going strong. I'm sure all men are different and all men do lose testosterone, but if he is having issues, he should talk to his doctor. Sometimes meds do help.

 

Makes sense, I also lose my sex drive if I haven't eaten well. Mostly because I just feel yuck with tummy pains so it's just not appealing.

 

6X9 in base 13 equals 42 btw...IRQ42 pointed that out to me.

 

Are you talking about general stamina or about the duration of the erection.

Walking and general exercise can improve general stamina.
The techniques and activities that you choose (and in what order you put those activities) can reduce the need for long lasting erections.
You getting noticeable orgasms (aka loud) from his non-penile actions will help him relax.

Make your eyes rolling back in your head while hitting the highest note in your vocal register from many different activities the focus. Get rid of the "PIV is the best" meme. Teach him how to use a vibrator to its best effect. (The classic teaching method, you tell, you show, he tries, you evaluate works for this too.)

 

There are so many factors to be considered with this. I suffered this a few years ago and Jane, my wife, was quite depressed about it. She was certain that I was losing my affection for her. Which was absolutely not the case. I had several issues; smoking too much pot, working in very dangerous places, traveling too much, gaining too much weight, drinking too much excellent scotch and failing to discuss my problems with the love of my life honestly. I had let myself go and my blood pressure as well as my BMI were taking their toll. It's a miracle I'm not a diabetic.

What turned part of it around was stopping all of my vices cold turkey. It's part of why I was gone from here for so long. I also fasted regularly and started hitting the gym and living off boiled chicken and broccoli. I have a very sedentary job, writing other people's bullshit (it's a pretty good living actually). It has me sitting way too much. Jane helped me through these tribulations by reminding me of the very freaky times we had earlier in our marriage. We used to swing quite a bit and most of the time it worked out well for us.

The thing about swinging is that it won't "fix" marital problems. They should be solved before risking the complications of swinging. We discovered this long ago when a couple we saw several times suddenly got weird on us. The husband showed up at Jane's work and begged her to run away with him. She called me, I went there and ultimately had to kick his ass. Then his wife dumps him and wants to move in with us. So, we moved and went off the swing grid for a while (though we did hire an occasional "rental", Jane IS bi after all). Just vet people very carefully if you consider swinging, there are a LOT of freaks out there. ALWAYS remember that you two are the real thing and don't let casual sex partners gain control.

I realize Viagra and Cialis are priced way out of reach these days (thanks SO much feminazi assholes), but it's a good way to determine if there's an actual physical condition limiting his performance. If they work, his circulation is still intact where it counts and he just needs to dedicate himself to a whole new regimen including LOTS of gym time, a sensible diet and it's time to avoid the booze and sugar for a LONG time (it was torture for me having to give up my Baklava habit). It's worth the effort. We've been at it over 25 years and have a date with a unicorn (single bi woman) soon!

 

It ain't the feminazi's fault, its the fault of those who said "ditto" when the term was first invented.

 

I just recall all their wailing about "why does insurance cover viagra" and the like. It's like $50 a pill these days, I remember with it was 1/3 of that or less. How much is ortho novum? Too many "social" gripes have been foisted upon our healthcare system with depressing results. It's time for Americans to have healthy sex lives they can actually afford. The fact Viagra is now a drug exclusively made for elite, wealthy fuckers SHOULD be an outrage.

 

The people who coined the term "feminazi" want both viagra and ortho novum to be as profitable as possible, with no insurance coverage for either.

(P.S. as someone who vaguely remembers what sex as like pre-Pill, if only one of the two is to be subsidized, subsidized birth control improves my sex life much more than subsidized viagra.)

 

Thank you all for your responses. They are all very helpful especially George's. I can definitely relate to your wife's insecurities I have them too. He has repeatedly assured me that's not the case as well though. Mike yours was very helpful also. In answer to the question is it stamina or longevity it's been both I think. He doesn't often have a problem with getting an erection and if he does I can usually get over that hurdle very easily but he gets off quick most of the time and he loses his erection. A lot of times he gets off twice but that's about as far as he can go. Years ago this man was insatiable. If he was done in an hour I was so relieved. Now we do good to last 20 minutes and he usually has to take care of me because he's soft. Sometimes after about a 30 minute break we can go for another round but it's rare. He takes really good care of me but it's just not long enough. I really want the longevity. Of course we don't fight about our current situation because he gets done but when he was wearing me out for hours at a time years ago it was a big fight. Now I would give anything and have done everything but swinging to try to get more time. I really think the exercise and diet are relevant. I too work a sedatary job but he doesn't. Neither of us exercise though. I am diabetic but it is controlled very well. I have lost from 230 to 190 with very little effort. I am going to suggest we both start an exercise routine together. It's just me and him at home now so we could work on the diet together as well. Marijuana and drinking aren't an issue really. Neither of us smoke weed and we rarely drink. But the rest of your observations I can relate to our situation. He has talked about Viagra and the like and we do have very good insurance but I hate so bad for him to do that. He has talked about trying the over the counter enhancement products (like extends) but I'm kind of scared of it too. I'm teetering toward a swinging experiment but will not do it with anyone local. That and the fear of destroying our relationship is what holds me back. I'm terrified of stds or hooking up with a psycho because I won't do anything in our hometown. If I ever do get the nerve to do it I will be looking more into safe ways of getting into it and definitely a couple because I think the chances of encountering psychos are a lot less likely with a couple. Thanks again guys. I feel like I may have some options to offer for us now.

 

At 55 I can't run as far as I use to but I got a bad knee and love my donuts and apple pie.

 

Sorry to hear that Jo. Maybe you should consider low impact exercise and a nutritionist. I do appreciate your sarcasm though.

 

I was whining openly about Ashey Judd's snide remarks about my erection. I feel it's equally important when compared to birth control, which is MUCH cheaper. And really, Viagra is not primarily designed to benefit men. It's designed for the women who like to ride men!

 

The price of meds in other countries is generally cheaper. Americans are getting ripped off in so many ways. Big Pharma needs to be regulated, as does Insurance and the Medical Profession. Their general excuse for the high prices of it all is they need to make up for those who get Welfare, etc., so they sack the rest of us for the difference. Viagra is crazy expensive now, but since I quit smoking cigarettes and drinking, I don't need it anymore. Our state of health makes a big difference.

 

For me it was never a "need" issue. Viagra is the only drug I abuse these days, totally worth it! I can't wait till they invent the Viagra Patch!

 

Everyone seems to be talking about pills. Physical stamina is just as important as testosterone when making love. Their is little point in having a hard on, if you are too fat and lazy to do the jumping up and down. After retirement, a daily walk to the shops and carrying the shopping a mile home is just as good for your body as a weekly visit to the gym. Having to walk the dog every night is also a way of staying awake until after you fall into bed. Turning the heating off at night not only saves money, but means that you will need to warm up before falling asleep and will help you to burn a few calories while you are sleeping as well. Most of the problems mentioned in this thread seem to be associated with modern city life today, rather than a medical condition.

 

Not sure where you were going with that but jumping in nice cold icy spring is also a great way to lose weight as your body burns calories frantically trying to heat your body up.

 

Oh don't get personal in the forums now, that's very bad form. Besides, it was not an offer.

For the record, Viagra is $60 per pill which is about 25% of the cost of a cheap hooker. I have paid for 2 pregnancies, one is in college now and the other will be in a matter of months. While I can please Jane, my wife, in various clever ways, there's just no substitute for the high hard one.

As for birth control, it's always been very reasonably priced and in many cases, well worth it for keeping unhinged harpies from producing miserable children.