How often is considered healthy/normal?

Hi,
I’m a 32 year old healthy male. I’m in a fairly new relationship with a 23 year old female. I’m running into a problem where she wants sex more often then I seem to be capable of and I’m looking for some feedback from other people on what’s normal in their relationships.
To give people a better idea, here was our recent schedule.

Friday night, we had sex 2 times about 2 hours apart (tried a 3rd time but I went limp)

Saturday night we had sex twice (first time I didn’t cum and went limp, waited 10 minutes till I got erect again then went a 2nd time and I was able to cum)

Sunday night had sex one time

Then Monday, early morning she wanted sex again and I couldn’t for the life of me even begin to get an erection.

I’m feeling pretty inadequate as a man and would like to know how other people compare. She has stated that she wants me to have sex with her 10x a day. And I’m just not physically capable of it. Is there something wrong with me? Are most couples able to have sex EVERY day multiple times?

 

It could be ED, but it's unlikely at your age. It's probably just psychological. Just keep on trying is what I would say.

 

How good of physical condition are you in?

 

6’ 1” 170 lbs. lift weights and walk a lot at my job

 

I actually do have a form of ED as the result of a 20 year porn addiction. But I was more trying to get an idea on how frequently is considered healthy/normal? Like if I don’t see her for 3 days then I’m good to go, but after having sex multiple days in a row it’s like I need to recharge my dick or something.

 

Well, do you want to have sex more frequently as she has suggested? If not, no real problem. If so, I would seek out the advice of a physician; perhaps a urologist.

 

Maybe that’s part of the problem, I’m not really into it or craving it at that point. I only want to do it to make her happy, but I guess that’s not enough to get me hard.
Thanks for the pointers/advise, I appreciate it

 

Yeah you don't need a girl who wants sex all the time. Ain't got time for that.

 

It’s my first “real” relationship. So I just don’t know what’s normal and what should be expected of me

 

I was once married to a 24 year old woman and I was 34. We fucked all the time. Every man needs to regenerate and reload. The sooner your hot girl friend understands this,the better. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and don’t believe all the BS on here about fucking all night long for days on end. Be realistic. I would however stay fit,exercise and eat right. Drink plenty of water. Eat fresh fruit. It help produce more semen and keeps your prostate working. No one like a dry cum.
Tread lightly with this girl friend.FWIW

 

Thanks for the response, I will try to follow your advise.

 

The more you think about this, the worse you will get.
At 33, it is highly unlikely this is a physical problem. Almost certainly psychological.
First and foremost talk about it with your GF. Be honest about it. I can't overstate how much good this will do for the problem. It will take the pressure off.

 

Everyone is different but my husband and I got married last year. We have sex sometimes multiple times per day, and other days, once. It’s not planned, all spontaneous. I find it a little odd and somewhat unhealthy to throw out a random number of times you want to have sex with someone. Sort of takes the spontaneity out of it. I don’t think anything is wrong with you, OP. She shouldn’t put an expectation on the relationship like that, imo.

 

As a sexual active couple we had sex every night, some times more than once, until our 50s. We considered it very healthy, because we always got a better nights sleep.

 

Sometimes, thinking that it's a (potential) problem, in turn, makes it a problem.

Maybe it all depends on what kind of situation one gets oneself into, but in my case, I'm about 10 years older than you, OP, and trust me, your sex drive is much higher than mine is. I mean, I admit I'm not as physically healthy as I was when I was younger, but even with that being considered, there are instances where I just don't require sexual release. Ever.

The difference here is that I don't even think about it much. I just leave everything up to my own mood, and my partner's as well. If I experience a bit of an ED moment, then whatever. Chances are that's due to my health issues, or because I'm stressed out, or that I'm too tired emotionally. I can then look into what I can do to rectify the situation.

It's good to chill.

 

Every guy is different. Many guys have sex every three or four days. That's my regular time, although there was a period in my life when i had sex every day for five years.

 

What's her number? Lol

 

There is something to be said about maturity. We are a senior couple and are sexual active 3-4 times a week. Not always engaged in intercourse, but oral and masturbation as well. For us it is about quality and not trying to do a weekly marathon of fucking. We do most of our sex play for “our health”. Ask any Doctor, seniors need to maintain a healthy sex life.
We do have sex for our relationship and mental health as well. So we make sure we incorporate it into our routine and talk about sex a lot. I am lucky at 65, I can still shoot a good load and my wife get 2 O’s. It take work but, the benefits are many.

 

Married 27 years, Like Panama Jack the sex varies on what type. I have ed from diabetes and my wife has hit menopause but still have sex at least twice a week. If you can't fuck her why don't you eat her and maybe do it twice. One day she might not want it so much.