As of today, it's been 4 years, 5 months, and 12 days since my wife and I last had vaginal intercourse (the only kind that either of us have ever had and the only kind that either of us like.) That number is only going to grow.
I pumped my wife Saturday evening and will do it again soon. We are retired and can fuck anytime. We are empty nesters and loving it.
Unfortunately it has been about 3 weeks, wife is 5 years post menopause and has virtually no drive. And I don't want sex unless she wants it also. She does "assist" me masturbating beside her.
Past 33 years, and getting near 34. PMO has kept me sane for all of that time. Menopause is a sex killer and I was lucky with a wife that knew what a man is and what he cannot live without, one way or the other.
As a mostly gay man since 1992 when my gay desires exploded into my consciousness at 30, the only sexual intercourse that I count is that with another man: for full penetration with a man and fucking, I'm very sad to report I've only done it once, December 4, 2013. I've done various anal play as a top since then, with about a dozen guys, but either there was no plan for fucking (just rimming, fingering and rubbing my cockhead against his opening), or I had erectile issues when sexual intercourse was expected. The last time for that was in a threesome this past July 1, when my friend wanted to share back-and-forth fucking his husband's ass, but I couldn't keep it up again. I can't take it anymore. I'm going to see my doctor about going on Cialis daily. I'm only 63 and thought that gay lust would be enough. I can't imagine giving up topping a guy, because that 2013 night was the greatest sexual experience of my life. But fortunately I'm also ready to finally bottom, so sexual intercourse with men will always be possible, and that's what counts. The last time I had sexual intercourse with a woman was 6 years ago, and it's definitely the last time. They're just the wrong gender for me. I had finally come to terms with that and accepted it.