How important is foreplay?

I'm curious how important foreplay is for people before they actually start fucking, and is the need (or lack thereof) consist? By that, I mean is foreplay,

1. always necessary before actual sex,
2. optional (sometimes you do and sometimes you don't), or
3. almost always ignored?

Back when we were young and my wife and I were in a very active MFM threesome with close friend, sex between the two of them usually fell into category #2, but frequently fell into category #3. I can recount many occasions when he'd drop by our house for sex and less than a minute would elapse between when he came in the front door and when he had his cock in her and was thrusting vigorously. As for my wife, sometimes she really liked it that way and sometimes she'd just go along with it. Regardless of how it transpired, she always like being fucked by him and never turned him down, even when it was obvious that all he wanted was to empty himself into her pussy! She usually liked foreplay, but never demanded it from either of us guys before we fucked her.

 

Foreplay is an extremely important part of our sex activities. It is a time to pay attention to all the erogenous zones that my wife possesses, bringing her to the brink of loss of control in orgasmic pleasure. It is never optional or ignored for us.

 

We enjoyed foreplay. We started out 69 her on top, when she was ready she would spin around and ride me. There was times she started in the shower, with hand held shower massage. But we found out there are various other types of foreplay. Nothing got her juices flowing more than outdoor sex. or a bit of exhibitionism.

 

We are a sent couple and foreplay comes in various form for us. Sometimes foreplay is all day affair of touchy, feely, caressing and sexy talk. Sometimes it is a sexy lustful kiss that get her juices flowing. Other times it’s two fingers slid in her pussy and playing until it’s wet. Just last night I gave her oral just for to orgasm. I wanted nothing in return. We call it a furry sleeping pill. Yeah, foreplay is most of the time unless she is already horny. Then she just wants to bend over and take a pounding from me. That’s when she wants me to unload deep in her. She wants and needs my cum in her.

 

Love this lots of input from fellow senior members. I think most of us are older, no offence if not.

 

Off topic.. No offense taken. Seniors just don’t have or need the daily drama that others carry around. Our relationship is open but, check the drama at the door.
I will say we are open to learning from the younger crowd and love being in their company. They too can learn from us.
Now back on topic.

 

Foreplay is very, very important for me. Although a quicky now and then can be really exiting in the right moment when I just want him inside me. Foreplay can take many different forms and doesn't necessarily mean touching.

 

Agree....like to make a woman cum with my tongue but pulling up a skirt and fucking quick is hot when the time is right

 

Always necessary! I love to eat pussy too much!

 

Me too love licking and making a woman cum

 

Foreplay is the intimate part of sex to me...sort of separates us from the animals. We can show our tenderness or our willingness to give and/or receive with our partner. It also creates erotic buildup to the eventual orgasm which seems much more intense than most quickies. Not ruling out quickies because there are just times when it is hot as hell.
Think almost 90% of the times with women I just had to go down on her and get her off before we went on to me. And to get a woman off for multiple orgasms is incredibly hot...for me at least.
Foreplay is sensual and erotic as long as I'm more interested in giving pleasure. The payoff is getting pleasure returned....if that makes any sense. Just one person's viewpoint

 

I'd say #2 optional, but it really depends on the person and the situation, i've had a very colourful and casual sex life.

I've had FWB where the foreplay was a huge part of our arrangement and usually they'd be spending the night so we'd take our time

On the other hand i've had fuck buddies where it was strictly sex, we knew each other as old friends but the only time we saw each other was for sex, i had one in particular where the extend of the foreplay was a blowjob or me eating her out if i wanted, but sometimes she'd come over and she wouldn't even take her shoes off i'd just fuck her up against the front door or step into the living room and bend her over the couch

 

It's important but I've had plenty of times where it was all about the fuck. Years ago when my wife and I were still doing it together, we had been skinny dipping with our neighbors. When we were done she didn't even make it to the bedroom. Just to the top of the stairs. She sucked my and then put herself on the steps and directed me to fuck her. She came before I did and it was only a minute or so. I guess the foreplay was the skinny dipping but she really wasn't making love. She was fucking. Kelli does that sometimes. Normally it's deep kissing and undressing and fondling and the gradual buildup to a sexual act. But sometimes she strips herself so fact that I'm still unzipping and she's wet and ready.

 

For seven years I was a massage therapist and absolutely enjoyed touching my lover's body erotically. My wife and I used to trade sensual massages as part of foreplay which easily slid into sexual stimulation. Often I would make her come from fingering and clit licking until she pushed my head away and begged me to fuck her.

I'd mount her usually doggie or missionary style, slide my dick into her wet puss and start thrusting. She'd usually come pretty quickly which usually triggered me to spurt into her as her vaginal muscles were clinching my cock.

 

Good thread, buzz. Apparently a lot of us older type are quite descriptive writers. <grin> It's good to share.

 

I've always liked that phrase, "I'd mount her..." or "...watched my friend mount my wife..." (I've 'mounted' quite a few.) There's just enough of a primal tone to it to get across that the foreplay is about affection, caring, bonding, etc, but the act itself is more primal, male 'taking' the female. Some women will be on their knees with their pussy up in a minute or less, for the same reasons. Foreplay makes us different from others, 'mounting' re-connects us.

 

Something that I realized early in my sexual life is that when I am really turned on, my body takes over when fucking, the animal in me has taken over and I feel I have little control over my actions at that point. Once my partner is pushing my head away from her puss and begging me to fuck her, it definitely becomes "mounting" with hard thrusting where each of us comes quickly.

Often, I prefer a slower, softer making love during intercourse where we've had enough foreplay to be ready for sex, but not orgasmic foreplay.

 

I thoroughly enjoy foreplay! Not only is it arousing, but so very fun too. Laughter and innuendo can be foreplay as well in my book.

 

I think it's pretty fucking important, giving and receiving

 

It all depends really. If I want more than 45 minutes then yes most definitely it's important.
If I wanna kiss him a few minutes to get his blood flowing and take it in right there... then no need for the foreplay. Long hot sex is amazing and that quickie sex pounding is good too.... keeping them both open and available is what's more important to me.