How far do you go to please the other person?

How far would you go if asked?

So, from a different conversation it became apparent (though I already knew this) that I'm more of a pleaser than some other people.

Which makes me curious. What do you do sexually that your significant other wants but that you don't necessarily like or enjoy?

And a second part of the question:

How far WOULD you go? Do you have a hard limit?

For my part this came up because I don't really enjoy Anal sex in the sense that it's always uncomfortable. I like the end when he comes and I can feel it twitching but the actual penetration part is uncomfortable. But I do it because my boyfriend loves it. And I've never actually let on to him that it doesn't feel good.

I'm kind of the same with swallowing cum. It tastes pretty terrible to me. But I do it because he likes it.

I'm not sure what my hard limits would be. I've never actually said no to a request yet.

Things I thought I wouldn't do I now do so it's hard to say where I'd ultimately draw the line because I genuinely get a thrill from knowing I've made the other person really happy.

However, I know some people are into Animals. I don't think I could ever do that. I've never had a guy want anything to do with that though. I'd probably not want to be with them anymore if they did.

So how about you guys/girls?

 

If you find anal uncomfortable there is probably something wrong with the way you are both doing it. It might mean you are being hurt inside and that can't be a good thing. Personally I wouldn't do it because I don't need to, if my guy asked I would flat out say no. No reason he can't ask to be fucked in his ass tho if he wants it that bad, as long as he cleans the equipment and I don't see shit. It's just not my bag so that's my hard limit right there, ain't gonna happen.
I will do many things and even try new things but I was born with a pussy and it loves all the attention it can get, hey let him go back door when I don't have to.
In my case I have never been asked for anal and all of the men I have been with wouldn't put their penis in there anyway. BF said with a strange look on his face, "Never, I like my pussy action!" When I asked what he thought of it. He thinks it a bit gay and although he has no problem with gay people it's not his bag to do what they need to do, he is a pussy and ass man all the way but only to play with the ass, not fuck with it. I was glad to hear him say that because I enjoy every minute my puss is touched by my guy, even over my tits and everything else on my body, well my ass and legs like their fair share too as far as being a big part of the action, just no entry.
If I had a guy who wanted anal and it was a problem he'd be on his way before he pressured me into it even once.
Swallow,,, never had a guy care where it went. The BJ is good and that's heard in his sounds and actions and I know I blew his mind. Never had anyone say he didn't enjoy it, ever. When they let out a load and moan like my men have I know it's no issue. Will I let them load off on me, yup if they want to but not in my face, I don't like stuff on my face and never had a guy try or ask anyway. They just shoot where they need to when it's happening and if some landed on my face I wouldn't raise a fuss anyway because it can happen in the moment.
I really think when those issues are in front of the whole sex thing maybe a guy isn't enjoying himself enough and he needs more so these things come up,,, what he saw done on video or what his friends said they had done. Sometimes guys tend to brag and it's not always true anyway.
I remember a guy when I was working who was single most of his life, he met up with a lady he knew years before and they ended up moving in together, he talked about how much money she made and how she did BJs and swallowed his stuff as if we at work cared. He was a stinky guy, always smelling of last weeks mouldy laundry. Then a I met her,,, serving me Kentucky fried chicken at the drive through window, so does she do BJs as he claimed or was his story about all her money and BJs just a bunch of bullshit?
Turned out she had a disabled son by some guy who left her and she needed a daddy figure to help her out with him and financially so we all heard later. I spotted her at K fry because someone at work knew her and told us who she was and where she worked. I went there purposely to see for myself as did a few others. Did it matter? Nope but what did is she never likely knew all the things he said about her at our work place and work place Christmas parties would be real fun for her if she did know. The guy was always fulla shit anyway and it's sad she was now the brunt of his need to bs people just to prove his stinky self being able to snatch a live woman.
Being the only woman in our whole shop I heard all that guys will say in the locker room because to them I was just one of the guys after being there so long. So ya, they can bs a lot and yet they were fun to work with too. Can't say women don't bs some also but theirs is often more a drama thing in some cases, not so much about sex and it's preferred quality.
And animals??? Ya,,, NO! That's just wrong! Really how far does sex have to go before people realize it's sex, not a marathon to do more then someone else?

 

The thing that gets me off with sex is getting the person I am with off as much as possible so I do whatever it is they want as much as they want! Have never had any really weird requists like being used as a toilet or anything before so never had to cross that path, but would probably have to take a pass on things like that. Don't find that kind of stuff so hot.

Also would not want my lady to do something she was not into or comfortable with. Would not be fun knowing that she was not getting pleasure from it. So many exciting things to do sexually why be obsessed with the things you don't get.

 

I Likeded your post. Why should sex be uncomfortable at all? That's what kills a relationship eventually when one partner doesn't look forward to it anymore. It should be about wanting your partner home and in bed with you and knowing it's gonna be a ride of a life time, every time.
Maybe once while giving it a try if you think it might work with you but then if it don't work why carry on to please the other when you know you are not gonna have fun with it or could be hurting yourself?
Don't do what your body doesn't like.

 

I'm definatly a giver! It's my mission to please and satisfy my partner! Although there have been times were I've done my part but have been left hanging....

 

Wow. This is about as pro anal as you've ever looked.

 

I'll hold the door open for you on your way out

 

I am so not pro anal but I have nothing against one who does it. It should be done with comfort tho, discomfort shows an issue one could be dealing with later.
I have never been against those who do it but some take it that way because I do stress why I don't like it. I feel it's not part of sex, no biggie, that's me.
Also I stress those who don't like it or are uncomfortable shouldn't feel they have to do it for anyone. So I do get growly at guys who come here asking us how to make their woman do it for them, ya that's me, a slap across their face. It's not a must.

 

Devils advocate here. What if you get off on being on being uncomfortable? I believe that there is a certain subset of BDSM that is about being in uncomfortable conditions.

C/S,
Rev J

 

To me sex is something I do for the other person I only ever enjoy it if they enjoy it so it Leeds to me doing all kinds of things for them

 

Totally legit point.

 

I like to please but there are two no-nos for me, one of which is intercourse without a condom, and the other is anal sex.

 

True but in this case you are up for it. Point is if you Don't like it you don't have to do it. And again some people just can't deal with the idea but do it anyway. Like someone who don't like sushi,,, go to a sushi place anyway for your partner even tho all they sell is sushi? I would go there but I opulent eat it.

 

i don't "do" things for the other person - regardless.
We do things together, that we both agree on.
That person may have limits - I have my own.
But to do something simply to please another .... nup!

 

Same here, that's why it's important to find that person who suits you best.
We do things we both like.